my ex boyfriend keeps sending me letters even though I've sent them back. If I get another letter, should I just return it, or can I go to the police? Can I call the police, or will I need to go to the police station?
2007-05-19 18:58:32 · 21 answers · asked by billi_leli 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Why would you want to involve the police in your life? Stay far away from them.
2007-05-19 19:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by sister_godzilla 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Here's what you can do: send him a letter via certified mail. Your letter should clearly state that you want no further contact with him in any way - via mail, phone, e-mail, personally, or whatever. Get confirmation of his receipt of your certified letter from the post office. You will have to fill out a form for this, and maybe have to pay a few extra dollars to the post office. This way, he cannot credibly deny in court that he received your certified letter. Then, if you ever have any unwanted contact with him again after he receives your certified letter, you can take him to both civil and criminal courts for harrassment. A remedy that the civil court can give you is a restraining order, and, of course, restraining orders always have teeth! A remedy that the criminal court can give you is a fine for him, community service, an order to stop the harrassment, and a threat of additional harsh penalties (including jail time) if he violates the court order.
You can only call police if a crime has been committed. In order for this to happen, he must commit one. He has not commited any crime, unless he has violated a court order, which has not yet been issued. So, send him the certified letter that I suggested. If he still contacts you, then contact a lawyer. The lawyer will help you, and your ex bf will get the bill, because the lawyer can collect his fees from HIM. It is one of many remedies that you can receive from both civil and criminal courts.
In civil court, the burden of proof (which is always the plaintiff's - the burden is yours, in this case) is very low. That is, "the preponderence of the evidence". In other words, is it true, more likely than not?". In criminal court, the burden of proof is much higher. That is to say, "Is it true beyond a reasonable doubt?" Therefore, you are more likely to easily win your case in civil court, armed with the letter I suggested you write and then send him via certified mail. You are also likely to prevail in criminal court, but just know that criminal courts will likely try to encourage you to drop the charges. In such a case, you must know what you are doing and how to handle them. Therefore, if you don't know what you are doing in the criminal court arena, its better to get a lawyer, who again, can and will collect payment from the offender, instead of from you.
2007-05-20 02:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by sopcwebservant 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Unless you have a restraining order against him, then sending you unwanted letters is not a crime. If these letters contain personal threats or if he has some history of physical abuse or criminal behavior, then it would be easy to get such an order. Once you have an R.O., then he would go to jail for sending another letter.
If I were you, I would stop returning his letters. That is a form of communication, which you need to end. Just throw them away unopened.
2007-05-20 02:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by pondering_it_all 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Either throw them away or write "return to sender" on them.
Unless he is being threatening in the letters, or you have some kind of restraining order prohibiting him from contacting you; there has been no crime.
2007-05-20 09:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him bothering you I would at least consider filing a report...and unless you are in eminent danger, I would GO to the police station to do that during normal business hours so they at least have something on file. It helped me to establish a little credibility with our local PD, something that really came in handy when he tried to kill me several weeks later.
2007-05-20 02:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by shana2112 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"even though I've sent them back. " :Did you write to him why you sent them back ? Did you talk to him at least once & clearly and ask him not to send? Even if you had a quarrel you may make up, so he may still write hoping that you will reply or patch up.So, if you do not want to get his letters tell him.
2007-05-20 02:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by einsteinilango 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don`t think it would hurt to notify the police.plus keep a record of every time you receive an return a letter.Maybe you can also let your post office or mail carrier know of the problem
2007-05-20 02:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well the crime could be classified as stalking, however - you did not mention that you have felt threatened by him. If you have felt theatened then you should certainly call the police. then they may request you to come to the station.
2007-05-20 02:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he threatening you in the letters? Just sending you letters isn't a crime, unless there are threats or intimidation in the letters. Throw them away.
2007-05-20 02:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
~I agree with writing "Refused" on the letters and sending them back. It is also a good idea to tell your postal carrier that you don't want them. He might have some ideas for you too.
I don't think there is anything the police can do, he's just annoying you.
Good luck.~
2007-05-20 02:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
well if the letters arent threating the police wont do much dont send them nack its a wast of stamps just throw them away and make it look like you jus completely ignore his letters its like having your ex's new # and never calling ya know jus throw them away and ignore him but if u do happen to read them and they are threating well ya never no wat men will do over a gurl( especially if they not hot and your one of the VERY few hes ever even dated/talked to) so u might wanna call the police other wise ignore him and jus say wat ever to it
2007-05-20 02:11:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋