The teacher and I had a meeting about boys always playing with her too much because they like her. I need her to focus on class and not on boys and especially at this age. Should this be brought up to the mothers of these boys as well?? They need to be focusing on learning how to read and write.
2007-05-19 16:50:44 · 13 answers · asked by mo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Your best bet is to deal with your daughter. Let her know that school is important and to worry about boys later. Keep this fresh in her mind at all times. You can't control the boys.... face it, you have a heartbreaker on your hands. Focus on keeping her focused... that's your best bet!
2007-05-19 16:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on who initiated the conversation with the teacher about the boys playing with your daughter and having crushes on her. If it was the teacher, yes, the other kids' parents should be notified. If it was you, I think it's possible you're being a little overreactive, and if the teacher doesn't strongly feel that it is causing a problem, there's probably no good reason to talk to the other moms.
Keep in mind, it is very important that they learn the basics like reading and writing and math and stuff, but learning social skills and that sort of thing is also a part of the learning experience. Most classes, even as young as preschool, have kids with crushes, "boyfriends", or "girlfriends." It's almost humorous to see the drama that unfolds in the typical classroom.
Talk to your daughter about how playtime is playtime, but in class, she needs to pay attention to her teacher and her work. Stress to her that that's much more important than boyfriends.
2007-05-19 20:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age it's very normal for boys and girls to crush on eachother. I think you have a legitimate concern, but don't blow it out of proportion, she's not in high school or college so it's not the end of the world. I mean seriously, they're 7, I'm not sure how you are expecting "little kids" to behave. Now if the behavior becomes sexual then there would be a problem. If you are that worked up about it, address the parents but they might think you are making to much of it, and I would have to agree.
2007-05-19 16:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by FutureMD29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 7 your daughter should be old enough for the "girl power" talk. Sit her down and talk with her about the power that girls can have over boys. Tell her that she is very lucky and has a lot of that power, but that she has to use it right. Say, "These boys like you a lot so you need to help guide them the right way. If they aren't studying and learning they won't be smart. If you want smart boyfriends that can get good jobs to buy you nice things in the future then you need to help these boys be smart. When they come to talk to you during learning time, you redirect them. Tell them, 'I won't talk to you until you've done all your studying because I like smart boys and good boys'"
I hope this helps.
2007-05-19 18:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' Miss Knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 7, and has a "boyfriend" at school. They focus on school, learning, and sometimes just work better together in a team work, and the teacher does not have a problem with it. We just tell her that school is more important, and what she should focus on at school - learning.
We don't really encourage the "boyfriend" part, but don't really restrict it either. I think it is good that boys and girls play together when they are young, they both learn to interact with the opposite sex better. The "boyfriend" has also told his mom, that he has a "girlfriend" and they also have playdates after school. Mainly doing their homework together, reading books or coloring. I don't see anything wrong with it, and I think it helps them both to study better.
2007-05-19 17:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of three 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow usually it is the girls at this age that are aggressive towards the boys and boys think they have cooties. I think it is innocent unless they are harrasing her then yes you sould bring it to the schools attention. These boys are maybe learning this at home by what they watch and see so the parents may be of no help.
2007-05-20 03:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she's quite young to be focused on boys instead of school...Let her know that you'll speak to the mothers of these boys if she doesn't smarten up, as you've already talked to the teacher about this.
GoodLucK*
2007-05-19 16:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are grade school CHILDREN. I doubt very much if the boys are interested in any type of relationship other than FRIENDSHIP with your daughter and there is NOTHING wrong with making FRIENDS in school. Lighten up or you're going to have these kids feeling guilty for being kids!
2007-05-19 18:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son, who is 8, has two "girlfriends". It's all in fun. They look up to adults and want to shadow them. He could care less if he talks to them after school and they dont call the house or anything of the sort. At her age, she is beginning to "grow up". I am sure she is not focusing on them like you think. She will be fine.
2007-05-19 18:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by HellaSpunky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THis is normal, they are starting to notice the difference of the opposite sex. Kids at this age are starting to experiment. If this part of growing up is tempered with or tried to keep from happening, it might affec your child's self esteem and might lead to future deprsions. SO dont worry about it. Shes just "growin up."
2007-05-19 17:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by Ale! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋