A woman who calls herself a milf.?

Question

What would you think of a married mother of two children who described herself as a milf during a meeting with her employees? She is in her mid thirties and is a supervisor.

She does know the meaning of the word.

I just don't think a married woman of two should bring herself down like that during a meeting with her employees.
Do you think she crossed the line if she is trying to earn her team's respect?

Good answers all.

She complains of her marriage all the time and is constantly under stress at work because of constant demands from hq of the company. As far as her being good looking, let us just say that she is constantly eating at work ;-)

She does not joke or try to be funny either. She tries very hard to look angry or mad at her team because of the demands from hq.

For her and the team's benefit, I think she should practice what she preaches.

Answer 1

Seriously--if you want to be taken seriously and to be treated as equal in the work force you need to act it.

It would not be appropriate for a male boss to use language like that in front of me. It would not be appropriate for a male boss to discuss a woman that way. Therefore it is not appropriate for a female boss to use language like that.

I feel a workplace needs to be professional. An abbreviation is merely a shortened form--you are still saying the exact same thing. If you wouldn't say the full expression outloud at work--don't use the abbrev.

If it were a supervisor of mine I would politely request that she refrain from using vulgarities in her speech and making derogitory comments about women. I would explain that I understand her values are different than mine but that I feel her language was really inappropriate for a work environment.

That is a serious crossing of the line. How can a boss earn a teams respect by cursing in front of them? Even if you are referring to yourself--vulgar language is never a sign of intelligence.

Answer 2

She's either got a good sense of humour or is pretty naive.

As far as respect, think about saying it or something equally as rude, TO her rather than her saying it to a meeting.

Feel comfortable with the idea?

If 'yes' then she does not have have your respect.

If 'no', heads down and back to work :-)

Edited to say: Given your further information that you aded, I'd say she does not really understand that the term is used in a derogatory way. It sounds like she thinks it means something other than what it does mean. Maybe she heard one of her kids use it, and they told her it means 'good looking mum' ... that type of thing. It sounds like she's stressed and a stressed boss is a hard boss to work for, imo. I'd be keeping my head down and doing my work and keeping my opinion to myself, including not gossiping with co-workers, because when she finds out, she's going to be embarrassed, angry and heads might roll.

Good luck!

Answer 3

This is the consequence for better or worse of a free, but brainwashed society. Much like the b-word, n-word, and others, they are pounded into us by popular culture to the point of desensitization, obscuring the original meaning to the point of absurdity. Would you use any of the popular phrases (can't put them here) with a literal meaning? no.

One thing I've noticed about america, and English in general, is that we are the most liguistically flexible as a language though not as articulate as the british, we are more creative, in my opinion.

hence, milf. It's here to stay, because as an acronym, it has a meaning that is now separate and completely detached from it's original form. Just a hot momma, for the 21st century.

Answer 4

Urgh- That's just wrong for the workplace. I could see amongst adult friends, at a party... Well even then I personally wouldn't say it, but that may be the ONLY place that belongs. Seriously she's ruined any chance of anyone but the office pervert giving her respect.

And for the person who says they don't know what a MILF is, and you frequent porn sites, c'mon man, what kind of idiots do you think we are?!

Answer 5

Yes - she crossed the line. It's inappropriate. It's one thing to kid with friends, it's another to do it in the work place especially with co-workers/subordinates.

Beside being unprofessional, I think it totally uncouth for a person to announce how hot or sexy you are. People who announce how classy, sophisticated or smart they are.... it just seems to cancel the statement out.

Answer 6

Sorry, but there are better ways to connect with your team in the workplace. Supervisors should ALWAYS leave sexual innuendo and for that mater ANY personal information out of their language. It implies that its acceptable to go there, and is a lawsuit in the making!

Answer 7

Its not very professional but I think its rather refreshing in this age of stiff office protocol and political correctness. Your supe is obviously a very plain talking person who connects with the common man and has a strong sense of humor. I think those are good traits to have in a supervisor since you know you don't have to walk on egg shells around her and watch every word that comes from your mouth. I'd any day rather have that than a hypersensitive boss with no sense of humor who's easily offended!

Answer 8

It is exponentially exponential to be an exponent of MILFism. Cordially cordial, Monkey in a Human Suit.

Answer 9

I don't think that's appropriate to mention at a work related meeting. I think that's more of a term you may joke about with your girlfriends. In my opinion, that's just not a term I would want myself to be connected with. Something about it just seems a bit degrading.

Answer 10

she probably shouldnt of said that at work but i guess she is proud of the fact that she's still hot after birthing two children being married and in her mid-30's.


i would be.