shes not my friend we just go to school together and she sits next to me but it makes it hard to think sometime. Its a horse sweat and rotten eggs smell. What makes a girl smell like that? waht should I say to her?
2007-05-19 16:37:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Honey, when I was younger, there was a girl in the school who smelled awful. I took the time, and I tolerated the smell, and I became her friend. I soon found out why she smelt so badly -- He dad was very abusive (Use your imagination), and He wouldn't "mess" with her, if she smelled bad. Please, be more considerate, I know it's sometimes very disgusting, but you have to learn to deal with things like that -- You are always going to have someone that annoys you, whether they stink, or they talk funny. Maybe this girl's family doesn't have enough money for her to keep herself and her clothes clean... maybe she doesn't have a place to live, or maybe she just doesn't have good hygiene, period.
2007-05-19 20:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to approach this is with kindness. There may be some reason the girl has a strong smell. Perhaps her home does not have good facilities or there may be some difficulty you are not aware of. Perhaps her parents do not provide her with good advice about hygiene or she has a poor diet due to lack of money. Maybe she has to work before coming to school, and does not have the time to change into other clothes, or does not have other clothes to change into. There are many reasons she might 'smell'.
One approach that may work is to have some nice smelling 'wipes' or perfuemd body spray with you one day, and say to her quite casually (away from others) ~ would you like one of my wipes/spray? It is so hot in the classroom, sometimes it causes sweat and BO, and I wouldn't like to have it without knowing".
If she says, 'no thank you', you could then say ' Please do, because I notice you have been sweating quite a bit, I'd be so glad if you would take one'. Take one yourself and use it, of course at this time ~ act as though you think you might be a bit sweaty yourself.
If she says 'yes', you could then say, 'so you have noticed it too? I often feel I have a sweaty smell and would be glad if someone told me'. If she says she would also be glad, you could say, in a kind way, 'yes, I have sometimes noticed you have a sweaty smell, you must work very hard', and then change the subject immediately, perhaps ask how her studies are going.
Afterwards, although she is not your friend, it would be kind to notice her occasionally with some friendly words and ask after her studies or something fairly neutral. Also praise any effort she makes to improve her hygiene, commenting on her 'nice perfume, is that new' or 'pretty blouse' or whatever. Not so much as to make it seem she has all your attention, but enough so that she knows you regard her in a friendly light.
School is a difficult time of life for anyone, so it is important to remember the feelings of others. At the same time, you should be comfortable, so you need to find a path between the two :-)
Good luck and best wishes :-)
Edited to add: The suggestions to discuss this with a teacher or counsellor are really good. Certainly if you do not wish to talk to her yourself, you should do this. At the same time, if you are friendly, it will never hurt you and can only help her if she DOES have a problem.
2007-05-19 17:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Definitely speak to your teacher or the school counselor. Some teens (I assume that's your age group) develop very strong body odor during adolescence, and can't help it. The teacher/counselor can speak directly to the girl as if they are the ones noticing it, or he/she can contact the parents. All the girl can do is bathe and wear a clean top every day, and use deodorant.
2007-05-19 16:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your school counselor or nurse. Sometimes a girl smelling bad could be a sign of something else that is not good and could mean she is in danger. Hopefully she just has a body odor problem.
2007-05-19 16:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is no good way to tell her.
If you can't stand the smell, go to an auto parts store, get one of those little tree air fresheners, but some glue on it, then put it under her @ss right befroe she sits down.
You might want to get a bunch of them in case she ever changes her clothes.
2007-05-20 07:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use strawberry or vanilla shampoo and conditioner and i switch off every other day using a fruity perfume/body spray or lotion...my fiance cant seem to get enough of any of them, he loves the smell of all. And our house tends to always smell like my perfume for some reason and all of our guy friends love it as well.
2016-05-21 22:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her in a private location. Tell her that you've noticed a bit of an odor, and you're wondering if she's okay. Just make light conversation, and don't accuse her. She might be having problems at home, or it might be an unknown medical condition.
2007-05-19 16:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Bunkah 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her u'r not trying 2 be mean or anything...but a "LADY" should smell "FRESH" at all times!!! And maybe suggest a smell good fragrance that u use.
2007-05-19 16:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by lady_toluke 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the teacher and speak with her about it she can let the parents know in a trained professional way if you do it then the blame
will be on you.
2007-05-19 16:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you do not talk to her ....... you go to the teacher and have the teacher talk to her that way you stay out of it and her feelings do not get hurt and she is not harassed by the other kids for it
kids can not help there statis in live its there parents dont put her though hell for her home life
2007-05-19 16:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋