Is this something to talk to a doctor about?

Question

Im the type of person that bottles any anger or sadness up just to make other people happy and because I live with a father whom has anger issues (Im afraid to yell back or say anything when he says something or yells at me).

Ive been bottling everything up for a long time and recently, every time I get angry I end up waiting till everyone is out of the house and either break something (of mine), falling into a habit ive developed (biting the back of my hand, sometimes to the point of breaking the skin), or hitting a wall or door.

If I dont do any of the above things, I start to feel sick and get horrible pains in my stomach for a while after. What should I do to relax and should I talk to my doctor? Im not a mean person and I hate getting like that.

Answer 1

Oh honey. Please do talk to your doctor, they can refer you to whoever they think will help best.

They say that the hardest part is admitting you have a problem.

It sounds like you know you have a problem, and you know what is causing it. The next step is talking to the doctor about specific steps to make this go away.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

If you're comfortable with it, talking to your doctor may help with the issue, especially when your emotional pain is getting in the way of your physical health (ie. the stomach pains). If you aren't ready to speak up, a good idea would be to indulge in something that will peacefully release this anger-provoked stress, such as jogging, taking on an instrument (music may be your gateway to relief), kickboxing, etc. Doing so will also give you an opportunity to get out of the house and away from the negativity of your father's aura. Finding a friend to do any of these activities with is a plus because this [hopefully non-judgemental] person can also be that special someone that you can vent your anger to. However, keep in mind that taking the chance of talking to your doctor (someone professional) may lead to a few helpful suggestions on his/her part.

Answer 3

Yes this is something to talk to your doctor about. It sounds like you have a lot of stress and emotional pain in your life. The problem is as you said you do not have an outlet so you are resorting to breaking things and biting your hand. Your doctor should be able to help you with this by referring you to a counselor or therapist. A lot of people have trouble dealing with thier anger and sadness. The best thing you can do is work with some one to develop better coping mechanisms.

Answer 4

You should definitely talk to your doctor about your stress level, and the fact that you've been bottling up your anger for so long. The anger, as you can see, turns against yourself. This is very bad for your mental and physical health, as it can cause stomach pain, ulcers, depression, and many other mental and physical problems. Please talk to you doctor as soon as possible! You'll feel so much better, and the doctor can also give you advice on how to deal with your father's anger issues without stressing out.

Answer 5

If you are underage or absolutely have to live at home with your angry father, then you should probably see someone on how to handle your anger and resentment at him. We never can control the actions of others but we can control how we respond to their bad actions. You can't help how you feel and you need to get some "tools" from a professional in order to help you deal with your difficult father. This will probably help you later in life.

I grew up with a father with an anger problem. I am the oldest and used to get so upset at my father's anger. My sister just didn't care about his anger. I grew up with problems with depression. I have just learned how not to let other people's poor behavior have an effect on me.

Try to get help now or you will either find yourself becoming an angry person or a person who is intimated by other people's anger. My brother is the angry one and I am the one who USED to be intimidated by others anger.

Good luck to you. Don't let your past control your future.

Answer 6

Anger is not a fault...it's an emotion, and everyone experiences anger to some degree. By containing your anger, you're turning it inward, and causing harm to yourself. The stomach pain is possibly an ulcer. Definitely talk with your doctor about this. If your father is abusive (verbally or otherwise) and you fear him...you need to get away from him. Maybe live with a grandparent or other relative until he gets help

Answer 7

Yes, you should talk to your doctor. I'm one of those people who thought I could handle everything very well; family deaths, divorce, surgeries, angry people, etc. Then I developed asthma. From there it was allergies and an ulcer... still didn't have a clue. Oh yeah - inverted emotions can make one physically ill! I talked to my doctor and he temporarily placed me on a mood elevator and made some suggestions as to how to release the anger and frustrations. It worked. Your doctor may suggest something else, but please go. To silently suffer is not a good thing.

Answer 8

Yes, definitely see a therapist, your regular doctor could refer you to one ... It couldn't hurt. It helps to have someone to talk to that will not judge you for what you do or what you've been thru. Therapists are great with this. Bottled up anger can eventually start affecting your health in much worse ways than just stomach pain, thats just the beginning. You deserve the help, you deserve to live life without these problems, do it for yourself!

Answer 9

Hi dear try to connect with your father.. Maybe plan a fishing trip or some outing where you can go for a walk and discuss this topic (ask him what's making him angry?
Is there something we can do together to make whatever is make him angry go away?
Always try to have dinner with him
Give him a nice warm foot bath and massage .. Trust me it works.
Maybe work out together. Play games together.
Make a doctors appointment for both of you.
Try to do things together to find out more about Dad.

This way you will get into his head more and discover why he is so angry. And that will help your relationship and both of your health.
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Best of Health to you..

Answer 10

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with letting out pent up anger. You might try finding some less destructive ways of doing it though, such as a punching bag or a pillow.