I can't tell him that. Help. How do i DO THIS? He already asked me if they scared me _ I said oh no I like them... What was I supposed to do? I don't want to be shallow and just disreguard based on apppearance and maybe it was werking because he is not my normal type.... but he looks like i couldnt touch him or kiss him I know this much. But I cant hurt him....help!
2007-05-19 15:57:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well ... its always hurtful to know that the girl you like (him) doesnt find him attractive (you). He wants you and he doesnt want you to say anything negative about him. BUT you do need to send him that signal in the most polite way that you can. Ive gone through online relationships so I can help best in this area. What I personally do to a girl Im not interested in is not talk to her as often until we stop emailing each other. And that may be the best that you can do if youre not too close to him yet. If you ARE close to him, you can be straightforward and say Im not interested in a relationship, sorry. And explain why youre not interested, you like guys who are thinner, etc. And thats the most appropriate way. Keep it civilized, the both of you are adults, just ditch him and move on depending how close youve got to him. If you are attached to his personality then you can always stay friends with him and let him know you are just wanting it to be that way. But the fact is ... you need to say something sooner or later, its best to tell him asap before he gets attached to you and really thinks the both of you will be together. Just write him an email explaining why you're not interested. Be proud of yourself, you know what youre looking for in a guy and he doesnt have it. You'll move on to other guys and this will all come to past.
2007-05-19 16:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ertai2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stand corrected, since I thought people over in the Desert have views of Men are for pleasure, but Women are for breading. Then again, you wonder why Foreign Women and Girls( Sorry not my age, I prefer the Ladies) do look so Hot! Then again, if not wouldn't the Muslims have died off years ago? Sorry Crazy VET posting. :P I'm not sure if a racist is just being a racist, or that they maybe are alive. Normally I would give a kudos down for them, but then appearances can LIE? I'm a Revert and don't understand the Homosexual thing. I see it like this. Until you cross my side of the Streets I dwell in(Hetero.). I'm OK with whatever you do. Still, hard at times to not wonder on why, but that's being a judge, and I have no right.
2016-05-21 21:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is being shallow, what else would you call it, you judge people by the way they look, after you saw his picture did you judge right away? Did you give him a chance to get to know his personalty? You make him sound like a monster, scaring you with his picture? How bad can it be? How long have you been chatting, you must have gotten to know his personality, what was that like, was he nice? I'm sure he was or else why else would you continue talking to him. As for not hurting him he must be pretty nice for you to worry about that, or why else worry, why not just dump him, your not obligated to him, just tell him that you found someone else. That's better than telling him the truth, that you don't like his looks !!!!!!!!
2007-05-19 16:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by chessmaster1018 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep being friendly as ever when you talk to him. Once in a while mention a guy's name (say Jeff). Example. Say "Oh, Jeff gave me a ride to school (work?) today. That was cool."
After you mention him a time or two, he will likely ask "Who's Jeff?. You say, "Oh, I thought I mentioned him - he's been my buddy since 8th grade, everyone thinks we should get together as a couple since we get on together so well." He will likely say, "Oh, do you think you might?" You say, "Well, I hate to tell you this, but lately I have started having feelings for him which I never thought would happen." Keep chatting with the guy you find repulsive until he gives up on you and goes to find a girl without a "Jeff" in her life.
2007-05-19 16:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lean on Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest... Not to the point of hurting him... but honest all the same. Not always does this work in your favor. I have had the same problem many times & I took the honest approach & said, Hey, I'm really not interested in "anything" right now. I've been called names for it, told that I was mean, nasty, you name it. But you know what??? I didn't lie, so therefore, I feel OK with what I did! Oh, & running & hiding isn't the answer either!
2007-05-19 16:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you got to know him via his personality, there for you should only see his personality. Do not think of how he looks as relationships are so much more than that. It was not for his looks that attracted you in the first place.
2007-05-19 16:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by BB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jist tell that old boy the truth...uhmmmhumm..ain't nuthin shallow about that...I reckon looks are just as important as mental state...uhmmhummm
2007-05-19 16:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with him otherwise you are going to string the guy along and its not fair.
just tell him you only want a friendship and nothing else.
2007-05-19 16:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Dylangirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lemme tell you, there is a small part of you that needs to be attracted, no matter what anyone Say's. anyone that Say's I'm wrong, ask them to prove it
2007-05-19 16:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by oh3elevin@verizon.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remain friends. Don't lead him on, but don't hurt him either
2007-05-19 16:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋