After talking to her today I have had enough. I wanna Have a talk with him. But I don't want her to be mad at me what should I do?
2007-05-19 15:47:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have had the same problem before. I think what you should do is talk to him first, whenever you can get him alone. Tell him how you feel. Say something like if you wanna be with my mom, you are going to have to treat her nice or you wont have my approval and he probably wont care but just say she deserves the best and you will make his life hell if he doesn't change the way he talks to her. Afterwards, go to your mom and tell her that you had enough of the way he talks to her and you love her so much that you want to protect her and for her to be happy. Tell her that you went and had a talk with him, like you feel like it is your place to let him know that he is not welcome if he is going to treat her like that. This can be a pretty sticky situation, hopefully your mom will understand that you are trying to help.
2007-05-19 15:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should speak with your mother, because most likely you will not be able to change his attitude. Surprisingly enough, she may not be aware that she is being mistreated. If you bring this issue up with her by expressing your concern, you could suggest that she speak to him about how he is treating her. However, she may not agree with you, or she may not have the guts to confront him. Usually if someone is allowing someone else to treat them poorly it means that they do not believe they deserve any better. If this is the case you could also tell your mother that you are going to confront him if she does not. When you confront him, maybe it should even be when your mother is with you, i would phrase everything said with an "I feel" or "it bothers me", so it is coming from you and you are not getting into what is right and wrong.
What did your mother say when you spoke with her?
2007-05-19 23:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by pesus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he or she will not listen, unfortunately it is likely she will have to come to this on her own, but it would help to offer her enforcement that reminds her that she deserves respect so that her self respect and self esteem is not stripped from her,, if that happens she could be facing a Long recovery. Some never get over it. Guys can be such jerks!
2007-05-19 22:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Suednim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation before and i know how it feels like. If your mom doesn't listen to wat you have to say and she knows that her man is disrespecting her and she has suffered... it's because, (no offense but its the truth), she only cares about herself and she puts her boyfriend before anybody, when its suppose to be her kids first then her man. And her boyfriend shows that he only cares about himself and disrespects her and don't care about the kids feelings and actions. So wat you have to do is, which i know you want to do the right thing, is just have another talk with her, if she dont listen, then go up to him when he's like watching tv or calm somewhere in the house and with caution tell him wats up, meaning tell him str8 up how u feel and to chill out, that its not your business about their relationship becuz they adults but shes your mother and he disrespecting her and you dont like it. If anything carry like a spray can or something with u if he EVER tries to do something to you and run, call the cops. Becuz if your own mother cant defend herself, then you're there to protect her since daddy aint around.
I know how this feels like, i remember, i used to protect my mom becuz of her abusive ex-boyfriend for YEARS and i was a little kid, imagine that. I used to go up to him and tell him that he better leave my mom alone. But sweetie, just show that guy that you're not afriad of him, trust me, it'll help.
2007-05-19 23:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your mom, instead tell her how you feel about how disrespectful you feel her boyfriend is to her. Good Luck, you sound very gown up.
2007-05-19 22:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by That one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be mad at him.Be mad at HER.She is an adult and if she is willing to put up with his behavior then she deserves what she volunteers for. Tell her if she doesnt like the way he treats her to dump him, if she isnt going to dump him then quit complaining.Its time for your mom to GROW up and be an adult and do the right thing.
2007-05-19 22:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should quit listening at mommy's door at night. She is just being treated like the little slu+ she wants to be
2007-05-19 22:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Your mom is a big girl. She'll do something about it when SHE has had enough.
2007-05-19 22:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom is a big girl, she stood up for you when you could not, so she can stand up for herself now. When she get sick of his behavior she will tell him off, but if you do it then she might get upset with you.
2007-05-19 22:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by lbarry7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. She should understand you. You only want the best for her. Tell her that.
2007-05-19 22:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Juju 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋