I am 22 and dating a 49 year old man, is that bad?

Answer 1

25 cent coffees at burger king are just around the corner!

Answer 2

It depends on why you are dating him and what you want from the relationship. If you have a background of an absent father, you should make sure you are not trying to replace him. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, you will probably have about 15 to 20 years of good time with him, but after that, his physical and possibly mental decline will put you into a caretaker role. If you want to have children, you need to think about how old he will be when they graduate high school, get married, etc. There's a good chance he will either no longer be there or be incapacitated. If you are looking for money and/or security, then you already know whether or not he can provide this. But you also need to think about whether you love him, or if not, whether you want to live without love.

Answer 3

That 49 year old man has a whole bunch of tricks up his sleeve. He's probably dating you to make himself look and feel young again.
Why are you dating someone who's old enough to be your dad?
Look for someone under 30, for Pete's sake. There are a lot of good men out there.

Since he's 49, he probably has, or has had, wife and kids.
That could be a whole set of problems.
Are you his mistress or something? Is he your sugar daddy?

Ask your friends and your family what they think. If they really care about you, they will give you their honest opinion. It shouldn't sound too far off from what I just said.

Answer 4

You're both adults, so that is fine, legal, and definitely kosher. However, the two of you are a generation apart. He was 27 when you were born, so you are both in completely different mind-sets. He probably owned a great hi-fi stereo with a turntable and you may not have even purchased a cassette player in your lifetime (or maybe so, but you get my drift). This type of gap has other issues as well, because you are both motivated by completely different things (he's a boomer - motivated by money - you're a millineal, motivated by technology). Just be aware of these difference and make sure you can live with them. Also, remember that if you have children, he may not live to see them graduate from college, and he definitely won't have the energy you're going to want him to have to help take care of them when they are younger.

Answer 5

If you were 15 and he was 42 then yes it would be bad but since you are both legally consenting adults, then provided you are dating for the right reasons then it is OK... ...In my opinion it is only a bad thing if you are dating for the wrong reasons and in such cases, age is irrelevant. Will there be people with whom you are connected such as family members, etc., who feel offended? Quite possibly yes, but at the end of the day (in addition to it getting dark) it is your happiness that should be important to you and it should not (and does not) concern anyone else.

Answer 6

I am 34 and married to a 64 year old man? Is that bad? We have been married for 10 years and have 6 boys and a great life. All that matters is that the two of you fit each other. Live and be happy :)

Answer 7

No, nothing is wrong with that. If you decide to continue with the relationship you must be prepared for the fact that he is twice your age and will one day be mistaken for your father or grandfather. You should also give serious thoughts to children and if you want to take care of him when he is in his 70's and you are a young 40. There is a lot to be pondered before undertaking a serious relationship.
If it's just a fun causal one..then boom...no worries

Answer 8

You may not want to hear this...in my opinion it's bad news. I dated not one but two different guys who were much older than myself. While I'm still friends with both men I would not even think of having a relationship with either.

Here are the reasons: They suck the youth out of you and sex with older men is okay and passionate, but they just don't have the stamina to keep up...They tire out easily not wanting to do anything but fatten you up so that no other suitor will want you. YOU WILL BECOME BORED. In my opinion age matters if you want to date someone older date someone that is 10 years older.....and not beyond....Give yourself a chance to grow....He's done all of his growing...and you will possibly pushing him around in a wheel chair.....Take Care of You.....and don't get trapped into something......you know nothing about....Today, I wouldn't consider dating a man no more than 6 years older than myself....I want somone I can grow with......The cards are in your corner.......and time waits for no one....Good Luck.

Answer 9

when your 32 he will 59 when your 42 he will 69, when your 52 he may be dead.You will want to go do things he no longer has intrests in like theme parks.He wont felel like going out much he will start having health problems in about 5-15 more yrs.Not only will you be raising kids but youll be taking care of an elderly person.He doesnt respect you or see you as an equal but someone young and naive he can easily manipulate and control.The day will come when you wake up, look over and say "My GOD!I married grandpa!".

Answer 10

It's pretty amazing how when you ask a question like this so many people become so willing to be your judge. They don't think about what this man might be like, how the two of you met, and what it's like for the two of you when you are together. There are two separate standards for dating someone out of your age range (whatever that may be); One is for women, and the other is for men. When a woman is older and dates a younger man it is said that she is getting her groove on, but if an older man dates a younger woman he is a pervert. Most people only see the things in life that they want to see instead of opening their eyes to all possibilities, and when someone asks for their opinion it becomes limited. I don't know what this man is like, but I can say that what everyone else thinks is only window dressing. How do you feel when you are with him? Does he treat you like you want to be treated? Have you kept your eyes open to the possibility of his being married? Now I'm not saying that he is, but you need to protect yourself from such situations, for I'd hate to be watching one of those news programs one night and hear about how this guy had two or three women in two or three different cities, one of them being you. Do you know what I mean? You asked if your dating this man was bad; Well, initially I would have to say no. Men have been known to mature a bit slower than his female counterparts, so maybe this guy and you are on the same emotional wavelength. Maybe down the road you will outgrow him, and not because of his age or anything he did, but because he is no longer emotionally compatible with you. Maybe not; No one can really say for sure, but it sure can be some food for thought. I am a devout Christian, and even though I know in my heart that we live in this imperfect world I'd like to see people actually edifying one another instead of judging them or forcing their opinions on them. There are many reasons why a young woman such as yourself would want to date a man who is old enough to be her father, and on the same side of that coin why a man would want to date a woman young enough to be his daughter; you could ask any person who counsels couples, but the bottom line always comes back to you making the final decision. There's a reason for the saying, "growing old together", but in this ever changing world today it seems like something may have gotten lost in the translation. Eighteen years from now you will be forty and in the prime of your life; he will be sixty seven and in the winter of his; You really need to ask yourself if you are so insecure that you would settle for second best. That's all I have to say on this topic, but know in your heart that I will pray for you and ask God to guide you to where you need to be in this life. Too often we get in God's way of doing things for us in lieu of our own understanding; Try a little prayer each day and give God a chance; I assure you He will never let you down. You may not always like the answer He may give, but you can be sure that if you open your eyes you will find that His answer is for the best. You take care now and be good; You have a friend in Jesus!

Answer 11

Maybe u aint attractive like slim tall or pretty & cnt get sumon1 younger or ue own age, no effense but its true if one goes for older, i mean older as ur sitauton den dey r insecure and weak, & gullable, also means desperation, whats gona hapepn if the man is 50 60 and ur 30, unless ur der for the sex only, which again is desperate but got ot sort it out man.