i looked after my daughter cause i love her it hurt her bad mum dint want her,i looked after girl and helped her when she left home to start her own life, i got over it all and started going out with groups of friends but it was allways couples and at the end of the nite ur on your own people would say ur a gud looking friendly guy we dont no why ur on your own some one will come along but no one did only some one who used me big time and messed me up ithink your lifes maped out 4 u and some people r not lucky 2 meet some one im lonley and yes depressed now you lose heart in the end iwanted so bad to have some one to look after and love but it didnt happen if u have a best friend who loves yer look after them, im sorry 4 writeing all this
2007-05-19 14:47:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Except for the daughter, BTDTGTS.
All I can say is hang in there amigo. Things are tough, but they will get better. You just have to be open to good things happening to you.
Attend church, and Sunday School. There are probably some divorced or widowed women of your age who would enjoy some masculine company.
If that does not work out, ask your friends to arrange some introductions.
My first wife dumped me and was married to someone else in short order. It devastated me, but I survived. Considering the booze I drank and the crazy folks I ran with, that is nothing short of miraculous. Then, after 3 years, I reconnected with a woman I'd dated 15 years earlier. Less than four months later, we were married. We've been married 17 years now.
So don't give up. There is someone out there for you, you just have to keep looking. In the mean time, if you need company, try helping people who need help. You sound like you'd make a great Big Brother, or Scout Master. I know that is not the same as having a lover, but you can be a positive influence on lots of young lives that way.
Good Luck and God Bless you.
Doc Hudson
2007-05-19 14:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for me, however at 42 yrs old I have a 24 yr old daughter, a 20 yr old daughter and my wife and I can have alot of fun having them with there "grown up" friends come over for cook outs and what not. I agree that 18 yr olds can appear to be ready physically but the real adult maturity is rarely there. I could not even go there my self, I think at 42 any female under 30ish would seem some how wrong to me personally, an even 30 is assuming they were mature and educated. There is alot, alot to be said for the women from like 30 something, it starts, by 35 they are hot as hell and by 40 they are pure milf! if that makes any sence. I have a feeling there's more to come even yet!
2016-05-21 21:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tommy,
There are a lot of great Yahoo groups to join for dating/singles. Start slow and just chat with some of the women. Do the same thing on some of the other sites. Maybe you will hit the jackpot and find that someone special.
It took me a long time to find anyone worth chatting with, but I had fun in the meantime. And don't be afraid to look beyond the exterior, a trophy may not be a trophy in a few years at our age. And those high maintenance women can cost more than they are worth. Take a chance and enjoy life, leave that baggage behind and look forward!
2007-05-19 15:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Been there 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you looked after your daughter and that's great. She loves you for that, and it makes you a great person. Look to God for comfort. No matter what happens to us, we have a Creator to whom we return. If you don't believe in him, then just try to get through this hard time the best you can. You will eventually feel more motivated to find another partner. But just know that if you died now, the fact that you took care of your daugher means taht you lived a fulfilling life.
2007-05-19 14:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sorry. Go out and do something to help others and then you'll feel better about yourself. Right now your focusing on whats gone wrong in your life. Direct your energy toward something that you can make go right. Take a college course or something. Maybe a creative writing course where you can write your feelings down and get them out in a useful way. Don't wallow or you'll only feel worse.
2007-05-19 14:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by ersof59 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well tommy, I was married for 10 years to a older man because i felt like you would know what he wanted in life and the cheat games would be over with, I married him at 19 turning 20 and he was 31 , the 5 year of our marriage he cheated with someone that was nothing and tore my world apart, I was hurt and devasted just as i was getting over it we moved back to our home state and behold he cheated again this time with a co-worker . shy 2 months from our 10th year of marriage we divorced and he married a month later and had a child with the lady , and again she was nothing almost cost him his job , they have ben married 3 years to this date he does not see our daughter , unless i call when i am extremly tried and call him for a break and he only keeps her then for 8 hours at his parents house not at his with the wife , now three years to his date he not even happy , he has health problems , and several issues with her and guess what now she doing to him what he did to me ... So i know how you feel been depressed and wanting someone to hold at times or just to talk to I am over him now but i am single again after dating someone for a short period of time and it does seem as if will you ever find someone but what i am doing now is finding myself, and thaking time yes i get lonely and it hurts to want to be close to someone but i also know when that person comes they will be everything that i could want or imagine in someone.. So keep your head up , stay strong and just take time for you.. and sorry for the long speech
2007-05-19 15:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by jenhiai39232 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tommy,
Sometimes these things just take time. Focus on seeing your daughter and her family for now. I'm sure you have a special bond with her. People come into our lives when we least expect it. Remember the blessings you have.
2007-05-19 14:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sorry for writing this out. I quite agree life is hard but don't lose hope. You have a wonderful daughter in front of you. =)
2007-05-19 14:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by whiteaspiration 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. Someday another woman will snatch you up.
2007-05-19 14:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE A GREAT DAD.DONT WORRY,YOU HAVE DAUGHTER.
2007-05-19 15:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by ENIGMA VS MYTH 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋