should you spank your kids with a belt or something?

Answer 1

It's not illegal, but I wouldn't recommend doing it. Using a belt is legal, but leaving permanent marks is illegal. A belt makes it easier to cross that line. Just use the hand, it works just fine.

Answer 2

I don't think there is anything wrong with spanking children and teenagers too for that fact. My dad spanked me from the time I was a little girl until I was 20 and I came out just fine. I don't hate my parents as all the "anti-spankers" will say...I am not violent and I love my parents more than anything in the world. There is a huge difference between spanking your child and abusing your child. My dad spanked me on my bare bottom with his hand and his belt. I think I am a better person for it.

Answer 3

The only time, and I mean the only time, you should ever employ spanking, with your hand or a belt, is if your child has engaged in "tissue damage" behavior. Otherwise, spanking is not an effective behavior modification technique. You are your children's best friend. At least you should be. Can you imagine the sense of betrayal your kids will feel if the person who loves and cares for them, THE MOST, hits them?
The more you reward positive behaviors and the more you can ignore negative behaviors, the more success you will have turning them around to behaving the way they should.
Your children want your approval. If they do something wrong, just shaking your head and wearing a frown will be a strong signal that you do not approve of what they did. But never stop giving them a kiss goodnight when you put them to bed. It takes time, but you'll eventually see that it was worth it.

Answer 4

Personally, my son is two, and I use a flip flop to spank him, might sound funny, but it gets the point across. On the other hand, my sister uses a belt with her 5 year old, and believe me, he is very well-mannered and respectful. Like the saying goes, "Spare the rod, spare the child." No matter what society says, all kids need discipline, otherwise we will have a dreadful world full of disrespectful little demons!!!! Good Luck:)

Answer 5

I have not, but when I was a child my dad used the belt and my mom (once we where older and the hand didn't hurt) used a wooden spoon. I turned out just fine. Was I abused, NO WAY. Did I have respect for my parents? yes I did. I think that parents need to use their better judgments, if what you do and what you try doesn't work, keep trying till you find something that does, either it be the belt, time out, taking things away, grounding, whatever, kids need structure and need to learn respect. And other parents need to stay out of others business, unless there is a REAL problem occurring

Answer 6

No need for a belt or anything but the hand. Look at the 13-23 yr. old's out there now. They grew up in a generation of "you can't touch a child" where a lot of our crime comes from. Many of us grew up to love and respect our parent and our elders. We wouldn't even swear in front of our parents. Do the kids today? Of course the parents don't know how to stop it.

Answer 7

all that abuse mess people are talking about is a bunch of **** spanking and beating are two different things don't use your hands because you don't want your child to think each time you rise you hand to them you will hit them. a regular school works good with younger children and a small belt not yours, one of theirs also does good remember spare the rod spoil the child

for all the ones that think it is child abuse to discipline your child we now know whose children are the ones running around screaming and yelling in the stores , yeah!

Answer 8

Spanking should be a last resort but might be needed. Use of the hand or another object is ok. I have used both. The hand can be used more for loving than discipline so another object would be better. NEVER discipline out of anger--but Love. It should have a purpose (change behavior) never to hurt the spirit. Use it sparingly and it will work, never use it and you will regret it.

Answer 9

Use to get the wooden spoon. But i never sat there and took I was always runnin when i got tagged with it until i got quick enough to grab or smart enough to hide it. It worked for me just don't abuse the right of the spoon. I think it was just the threat of getting the spoon that kept me in line. Theres line between discpline and abuse. Of course you wouldn't want to hit anyone hard enough to leave a mark.

Answer 10

With a "belt" or "something"? Well, the hairbrush can give a clear message to the backside!

ONLY if they DESERVE it and if they will respond positively to it. And, of course, if you can't or won't punish them in a more appropriate manner which they will accept and from which they will learn.

Answer 11

when i think back to my childhood, the things that stick out most is the items that mom used to hit me with. either the fly swatter, hair brush, her hand (which she had long fingernails that left such beautiful marks) and then my most favorite item...a radiator hose filled with lead and taped up with black tape. i now have 3 kids, twin 14 year olds and a 12 yr. old. a swat on the butt worked for us, beating them with things wont help.