i just want Someone to listen about my mom :(?

Question

here it is my older sister lynn is 21, my younger sister katy is 8. katy, always hits herself,runs and tells my mom and tells her that my older sis did it, and my older sis always gets in trouble for it. she just moved back in with us after living on her own for two years to save money for college. katy has done this for a long time but my mom always believes her and punishes lynn, everything from taking her tv away to threatening to call the cops to taking her car away for a week, so she got fired from her job .

today katy did it again after she bumped into a dresser in her room. i tried to tell my mom that katy hurt herself because lynn was not even in the room, and i saw her do it. but my mom said that was enough and she does not want a daughter that abuses children. lynn has been gone for a few hours now, she took all her stuff with her. my mom called her evil before she left. is there anything i can tell my mom to make her believe that katy is lying and makes all this up? thank y

Answer 1

You should definitely tell your mom. Tell her, and even if your older sister doesn't come back, it's worth that your mom knows what your little sister is doing. What if she starts lying and telling your mom that YOU are hitting her? Tell her before she does this and your mom definitely does not believe you. Make sure to talk to her as SOON as possible.

Answer 2

This sounds like a very serious situation, and obviously Katy doesn't understand how serious it is. Talk to your sister Lynn, because the best way to do this is to find a situation yourself. The both of you should sit down with your mom (without Katy) and tell her sincerely that Lynn is not at fault. Tell your mom she needs to trust you, and have her talk to Katy about the situation. The only way to solve the problem is to gain the trust of your mother, something she isn't but should be giving you.

Answer 3

I think I understand whats going on. Katy is having to deal with the fact that she is youngest and probably thinks she should be right all the time. I think Katy has problems with herself, and being 8 she doesnt understand whats going on with herself. It also sounds like shes a little jellious of lynn (that is because shes older,smarter, and something that katy thinks she wont be) Your mother seems like she favors katy, and Katy knows she will get her way. I think you should maybe set down and write your mother a note, telling her what you have seen, and if that doesnt work then maybe you should tell katy that what she is doing is wrong. and that Bad things come out of liers because thats exactly what she is...

Answer 4

Not a thing. Too bad you didn't have a camera or video phone. (and if you get one, don't let the little imp know.)
I have a cousin who used to do the same thing to me. (My parents couldn't be bothered to raise me, so I was raised by my grandparents and spent a LOT of time with this aunt and uncle.) She always got away with it until one day she bit herself and told her mother that I did it. Well, I have a space between my two front teeth. It's not a big space, but it's a family trait which this cousin did not have(she inherited her dad's family's dentition). My aunt immediately knew she was lying and she never got away with it again. My point is, what goes around comes around. Katy has built up a huge deficit in her Karma. I just hope that you and Lynn are there to see it come back around.

Answer 5

weird.... can you video record this? Tell Lynn she needs to do this for her sake if nothing else. I think Lynn is smart to move out. If I were her I would keep walking and not look back. Your mom should pay attention, because it won't be long before Katy decides that if she doesn't always get her way, she may try that on her mom. Not good.

Answer 6

I agree with the video camera if you can get one to use. That sounds like the only way your mom will listen. I don't understand why Katy has it out for Lynn. Is there some problem between the two of them?

Answer 7

You shouldn't catch it on video, it will only make your mom more upset. Try to bring it to attention to you dad or some other trusted adult. They'll be sure to help. As for you sister, try to convince her to come back and all of you should gather around to have a heart-to-heart conversation. Act civil though. Your mom should believe it if it comes from katy herself. If your mom isn't up for the heart-to-heart conversation, treat her to a nice dinner or say that this is the only way that all of you can be happy. Remember diplomacy: 1) state the problem 2) admit your own error 3)state the error of the other party 4)propose specific compromises 5)invite mutual acceptance 6)illustrate the negative outcomes of refusal and the positives of acceptance 7)assert a deadline for response.
Whatever happens, I hope it's for the best for you all.

Answer 8

If you have a camcorder to catch her in the act would be good. Why does katy do this? Does she do it to you too? Talk to katy alone and ask her what the deal is. Maybe she is just jealous and feels left out. Maybe your older sis could sit down and do things with her to feel more loved by her or something. I don't know what's going on with that little girl, but something isn't right. Talk to your school counselor and see if you could get her to call your mother in and have a talk with her in front of them. Good luck hun.

Answer 9

Try to explain to Katy the impact of her actions and convince her to tell the truth. At the same time, do not give up on trying to get the truth through to your mom. Remind her that Katy is only 8 and seemingly is not capable of acting out feelings she obviously has in a healthy way. She's most likely mad at her sister or needing attention from her mom. Instead of communicating this in a good way, she acts out in a harmfull way. It sounds like your Mom needs some help communicating openly. Good luck. Don't give up, but DON'T FORGET YOURSELF. Only people who want to change will change.

Answer 10

Borrow a video camera from someone and film what she's doing - then show it to your mom.
Obviously, she does not believe the 8 year old would do this to herself because she's the youngest and her 'baby'. It's easier, for your mother, to blame the older children because they should 'know better'. Without catching her on film - your mother will never believe anything until you and Lynn are both out of the house.