Me and My ex has just became friends again. Me and him talk almost everyday, either he calls me or i call him. I really want him to ask me back with him, but i dont know if thats going to ever happen.He is so confusing, he stils tells me all of his buisness, i have his password to his myspace. But he always find a excuse not to come see me. He tells me all the plans about our day we are going to have, but when i call to see if he still wants to go, has changed his mind and says no. He has dont this at least 5 times. But if one of his other friends call he'll go get them. When he calls and i dont pick up the phone, he keeps calling until he gets an answer. Then when i call and he dont pick up i just stop calling because i dont want him to think im desprate for him. He sometimes calls me for 5 min, and then has to call me back. He does that throughout that day, sometimes. He has a girlfriend, but he calls me all the time. Im just so confused, what is he trying to do?
2007-05-19 13:30:18 · 12 answers · asked by POOKIE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously he enjoys controlling you and manipulating you - it is 100% about ego and 0% about wanting to get back together with you. It is a game for him. As long as you let yourself be played, you won't be able to move on.
2007-05-19 13:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by jls5175 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is why ex's shouldn't be friends...here you are still wanting him,and he has moved on...and everything that is perfectly normal for friends (talking about life, occcasionally canceling plans if something better comes along, not feeling like you HAVE to hang out etc) you are reading more into because you still have feelings.
All he is doing is being a friend...that's it. Nothing more. As far as his calls are concerned...some people are just that way...there is nothing to read into it.
You need to either accept that all he is is a friend & get over how you feel FAST...or walk away from the whole thing because all you are going to do is get hurt.
2007-05-19 13:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My best advice from someone who is in a weird predicament is one question to you all yall divorced or just seperated, and if yall are divorced or seperated coming from a guys point of view is he is trying to keep you as back up just in case something happens he can turn to you, he trusts you, yall have history so you are familar to him, he will keep doing this until u make him stop.....One other piece of advice is since yall are friends again u can just ask him what is going on why he is doing this communication is great sometimes..
2007-05-19 13:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by angel88z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several red flags here. You already haven't worked out once, and he's calling you like this even though he has a girlfriend. Guys who do that to one girl will do that to you, too.
Not to mention, he's showing no respect at all for your time and plans!
Forget this guy - he's nothing but trouble, and you deserve better.
2007-05-19 13:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see a person who is hassling you, and trying to control you, and who doesn't really want you.
>He won't go out with you, even if you make plans.
>He does go out with other friends
>He hassles you with phone calls, whether or not you want to talk. (Get a $10 phone answering machine).
> He calls you all day.
>He has another girlfriend.
My advice: Don't answer his phone calls; actively avoid him, forget about him and find somebody better. He sounds messed up, to me.
2007-05-19 13:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by VK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes tryin to make you jelious with his other girlfriend, he obviously still likes u if he calls u all the time and still talkes to u. and he changes his mind about hangin out wit u cuz he probably gets really nervous, or hes scared that he'll end up cheatin on his girlfriend with u.
2007-05-19 13:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by baby_shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might still have feelings for you. But, I think he wants to let the feelings go away. But, it's not working. He tries and tries, but he has to see you or talk to you again. Your ex is trying to get over you but can't seem to let go of those feelings. He really wants to though. There might be something pushing him to not go with you or talk to you. But, he can't control hiself. Try talking to him or go over his house and discuss your past relationship.
2007-05-19 13:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Kali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to keep his options open in case things don't work out with his present girlfriend. Don't waste your time on him. He's a user and you don't need someone like that.
2007-05-19 13:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dan B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's keeping you on a very short leash. Controlling you to boost his own ego. He has a girlfriend, he's not coming back to you. Why are you letting him to do this to you?
2007-05-19 13:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 09:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋