Christians only please. NO offensive answers, thank you.?

Question

If I can not forgive myself for the sins that I have committed, does that then mean that I am not believing that I am forgiven for the sins that I have committed? Or if I do believe that I am forgiven, can I still struggle with forgiving myself? Or do we just have trouble forgiving ourselves even if we believe that we are forgiven?

I demand only one type of person to answer because I want the questioned answered in a certain context. I do not need answers from non believers or people that are not Christian because I am asking this question from a Christian perspective. Thank you very much.

I didn't mean to offend non believers or people of other faiths. I just really wanted to post that because I knew that I would get some negative answers from other people, but I did not hender that kind of response anyways. So, I doubt that I will post a question with that on it again. I don't think that there is any real way to not get negative answers on this website. It's a website, I shouldn't let it bother me, people are going to be people.

Answer 1

Everyone has sinned, and one of the results of sin is guilt. We can be thankful for guilty feelings, in that they drive us to seek forgiveness. The moment a person turns from sin to Jesus Christ in faith, his sin is forgiven. Repentance is part of the faith that leads to salvation (Matthew 3:2; 4:17; Acts 3:19).

In Christ, even the most heinous sins are blotted out—see the list of unrighteous acts forgiven in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11. Salvation is by grace, and grace forgives. After a person is saved, he will still sin. When he does, God still promises forgiveness. “If any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous” (1 John 2:1).

Freedom from sin, however, doesn’t always mean freedom from guilty feelings. Even when our sins are forgiven, we still remember them. Also, we have a spiritual enemy, called “the accuser of the brethren” in Revelation 12:10, who relentlessly reminds us of our failures, faults, and sins. When a Christian experiences feelings of guilt, he or she should do the following things:

1) Confess all known, previously unconfessed sin. Perhaps feelings of guilt are appropriate, because confession is needed. Many times, we feel guilty because we are guilty! See David’s description of guilt and its solution in Psalm 32:3-5.

2) Ask the Lord to reveal any other sin that may need confessing. Have the courage to be completely open and honest before the Lord. “Search me, O God, and know my heart: / Try me, and know my thoughts: / And see if there be any wicked way in me” (Psalm 139:23-24a).

3) Trust the promise of God that He will forgive sin and remove guilt, based on the blood of Christ (1 John 1:9; Psalm 85:2; 86:5; Romans 8:1).

4) On occasions when guilty feelings arise over sins already confessed and forsaken, reject such feelings as false guilt. The Lord has been true to His promise to forgive. Read and meditate on Psalm 103:8-12.

5) Ask the Lord to rebuke Satan, your accuser, and ask the Lord to restore the joy that comes with freedom from guilt.

Psalm 32 makes a very profitable study. Although David had sinned terribly, he finds freedom from both sin and guilty feelings. He deals with the cause of guilt and the fact of forgiveness.

Psalm 51 is another good passage to investigate. The emphasis here is confession of sin, as David pleads with God from a heart full of guilt and sorrow. Restoration and joy are the results.

Answer 2

Sorry you got such a negative response.....I'll try and help you feel free to e-mail me anytime.

When God forgives you He toss the it away as far as the east is from the west. If you go back to Him five minutes later and say Lord you remember that sin I just asked forgiveness for and He'll say what sin?....Forgiving yourself isn't the problem....it's the forgetting that is our problem....we ask God to forgive us and we do our part and forgive ourselves but then doubt creeps in and we think we haven't forgiven ourselves because we still remember the sin and we beat ourselves up with it...I'm such a bad person for sinning, etc....but the trick is to move on and focus on the positive things (Philippians 4:8). After you've been forgiven and aren't doing the sin anymore....spend time reading His word....spend time praising Him. Focus on getting back to your relationship with Him. Make it an all the time everyday thing. My alarm first thing in the morning is the song "Be still and know that I am God"....it gets my mind starting to think about Him no matter how many times I hit snooze. He is my first thought in the morning and it helps turning my whole day over to Him. Before you know it, the thing you asked forgiveness for will be a distant memory.

Answer 3

If you cannot forgive yourself for the sins you've committed, it may mean two extra things. 1. You believe God has forgiven you, but you still feel guilty about your sins. 2. You believe God has not forgiven you your sins.

If you believe you are forgiven, you can still struggle with guilt. That is normal. However, I have found that with greater maturity, I am able to get on with life more quickly than before because I am able to leave the problem with God and just trust Him. That is, my guilt feelings pass more quickly and I don't let them get me down.

Over time you'll see that the guilty feelings do not bear witness with God's grace nor with your taking responsibility. You'll be able to acknowledge that you've done wrong, make it right, and get on with your life. Guilt will not dog your path.

I hope this will help you regarding forgiving yourself.

Answer 4

you are probably strugling with forgiving yourself. i personally have that problem sometimes, because before i became a Christian i tried the lesbian thing at 5. i sometimes have trouble believing i am forgiven, when i am weak. i think we need to give it to God and move on like we would from a bad relationship with a boy. read 1 Peter 5:7 and think about the parable of the lost son in Luke 15:11-32(i think 32). God will take us back, we just need to do our best to not do the sin again, it is forgiven.

Answer 5

I think that people in common, and maybe christians even more, are raised in the believe that we are, somehow, guilty. This goes even more for women since they're often brought up with the idea that they have to be nice and caring and so on. If you're brought up with a sense of guilt it's terribly hard to learn your lesson, forgive yourself and be done with it. Even if the things you've done aren't exactly earth shattering and just simply human. By the way, the comment "christians only please"is quite offensive. Do you believe non-christians aren't capable of giving an honest answer? I am not a christian. Hope that's not offensive.

Answer 6

many people have troubles forgiving oneself, I have problems doing it though I know I have been forgiven. Yes people can struggle with it. Forgiving others as well as youself is one of the hardest things to do. What you and I did in the past is dead to God that is if we have asked for His forgiveness I have and am sure you have as well. Our sins are dead and in the past, we need to learn to let them go and be buried to the past, God don't even remember them because He has forgiven us..God has helped me through this but sometimes it takes a long time too because we seem to just hang on to them without realizing it until something happens and they hit you in the face.. ask God to help you, you may struggle for awhile but you will start learning that you are forgiven and your sins are dead..

Answer 7

First ... some basics:

If you expect God to forgive you, you must be truly sorry for your sins, and you must also truly repent ... change your ways ... and turn away from your previous sinful behavior.

Even with all that properly accomplished, absent the sacramental grace of the church, you can't be certain that God has forgiven you ... and you won't really know for sure, until Judgment Day.

True and authentic contrition for sin means turning away from sin, because it offends God ... and the process of repentance is one of both spiritual and physical healing. Once you've successfully accomplished that, you should then be able to begin making peace with yourself.

God bless you.

Answer 8

Very Good Question: You and I have to go by what God has said/ He said Whosever That is You that comes to Him according to Rom. 10 : 9-10 are saved, I ask self same question . I have learned when You get Saved or have Fallen
in some area.Confess it and agree what God has said about it.--------Here is the thing,God saves You or is cleansing You/ But He doesn"t give us Amnesia, so there can be a times when past Actions are brought up. Demons will do this to Hinder Your Walk, Just say what God has said and move on with God.Sometimes we may feel like we are not saved/ Remember You can"t Walk this path on Feelings/ We are moved by the Word of God. This walk of Faith is an everyday
battle, It isn"t one time and every thing is easy/ Last thing it is God that works in and thru You/ We can"t do this on our own.

Answer 9

When you ask for forgiveness and believe that you have been forgiven, that doesn't mean that you will forget about the sin. Satan will use whatever he can get to make you feel down and that includes the forgiven sins. You just need to remind yourself that you asked and have recieved. God bless!

Answer 10

if you have commited a sin and you are truly sorry for what you did then all you have to do is ask God to forgive you and he will do just that. He tells us in the bible that he will throw our sins to the depths of the sea and it will be as if it had never happened. if you have asked God to forgive you then you no longer have to feel guilty or alone. yes sometimes it is hard to forget the things that we have done but there comes a time when we just need to let go and let God. why should we feel guilty when God has already forgiven us. Ask and you shall recieve, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened unto you. why wallow in self misery when you can live a fulfilling life in Jesus Christ who, if we ask in honesty for forgivness of our sins will not only do just that but also forget about them so it will be as if they never happened.