My son is 21 yrs old and still lives at home his gf 22 yrs old (mother of his son age 3)also lives with us they both have jobs.Problem is the two of them still act like teenagers in every asspect including sex life?I had too bail the two of them out of jail for indecent exposure!last week!My younger daughter who is 16 complains because the hog up the upstair b-room to have sex and are also not very quiet in their own room or ever.Other family members have walked in on them because they dont always use their room they feel the need to use the kitchen ect..How to have a sex talk w/my son and his gf?
2007-05-19 11:09:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My hubby told me to handle it.
2007-05-19 11:20:37 · update #1
Do you have a husband at home? My father never would have let me and my boyfriend live under his roof together! Never mind the sex part. Why are you letting your adult son disrespect your home and your family in this way? Step up and be the parent...not his friend. Make him get his own place and do not expose your teenage daughter to this kind of behavior. I can't even believe you have let this go on this long. Doesn't your family have any morals?!?!
2007-05-19 11:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, they already know what sex is, and how to do it, so the sex talk isnt what your looking for. You need to say "this is your parents house, and you have siblings. It is not only disrespectful of you to behave this way, but its a very bad example for your brother/sister. This wont be tolerated any longer. The family finds it repulsive. Sex or making love is a VERY private matter. Its intimate and should stay between the two of you. I understand, you obviously do what you want to do, but you can do it quietly and behind closed, private doors. If you cant obey a logical request that any household requires, You may need to start looking for your own home so that you can live your life as you wish. I have no problem with you residing here, however, I do demand some respect and responsibility out of the both of you. I would really appreciate your maturity on this matter, and I hope we can mutually agree that this behavior is unacceptable." You could always give them the example of what if they busted you doing it on the kitchen table. Maybe they'd understand then. Good luck and I dont know about you, but I wouldnt tolerate it. I would tell them to obey the house rules, or they can leave. Good luck.
p.s. I find that repulsive and immature. You should make that clear that others find it disgusting and it embarrasses you to have company in fear that someone will find them having public sex.
2007-05-19 11:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by College~~Bound 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby told you to handle it. Ohmigod. I think it is not only up to you to handle it, you need to insist that both you and he sit down with the two "kids" and discuss the issues. It'll be much better (2 against 2) You two have to lay down the law and fast. Why don't they have their own place if they have jobs - sounds like they need to move out and pronto! They are disrespecting the rest of the family if when they are "amourous" they are loud and do it in places other than their own room.
Sorry but you must get hubby involved no other solution.
2007-05-20 11:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by morrigansstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He and his girlfriend are disrespecting you and the rest of the family. Bail them out of jail for indecent exposure? I think not. Tell them in no uncertain terms to clean up their act or find another place to live. The sex talk you should have with "Little Miss Muppett" is YOU'RE OUT OF HERE TRAMP, go somewhere else to flop. This is my house and I make the rules...my rule is you don't act like a dog in heat in my house.
2007-05-19 11:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Laredo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
simple...the talk is not about sex, it is about the fact that it is time for them to move out! No matter what you say, it sounds like both of them like the idea of getting caught and it is unlikely anything you say will change that. In fact, it would not surprise me if it would escalate the places you find the. In any case, you do have a minor living in the house and it is time to give her a feeling of security in her own home. They work, they have a child, they need thier own place...end of story.
2007-05-19 12:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...I myself am 21 years old...so this might help you some.
TELL THEM BOTH TO GROW UP! They should NOT be under your wing, being bailed out of jail, covered for, cared for, etc. They are doing NOTHING but disrespecting you and your home! If I did ANY of those things, my parents would not have one bit of it! Tell them both to wise up or kick them to the curb. If you do that, they will have no choice but to grow up and grow up fast! You are being too much of a doormat (no offense,) but you are letting them both push you around and walk all over you and it's all for a place to have sex. If they both have jobs, then tell them to start looking for a new place to live. Still show them that you will support them and their decisions and not be judgmental, but that you can't tolerate their acts, poor choices, and disrespect. They can pay for their own place and it's high time they grow up! I'm getting married in four months so I will be out of my parents home soon, but I'm still going to college, and my fiance and I both have steady jobs and will have a home of our own. (He's 20 by the way.) So, if WE can do it, they can too. I wish you luck and I hope this helped. Don't let them push you around anymore. You don't deserve that at all. Godspeed.
2007-05-19 14:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no sex talk. If he cannot control himself [which he should be able to do] they should leave your house. What kind of an influence is that for your daughter? I don't think it's such a good one. If their sexual matters are effecting the entire family I'd give them one more chance and then they are gone.
As for the talk itself just explain that their sex life is getting in the way of everyone else's way of life. Talk to them about keeping it in their room [I wouldn't really mention the noise so much..] and if they cannot do that they can get their own home.
Best of Luck!
2007-05-19 11:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They need to get their own place. I would give them a deadline to get out instead of a sex talk. It's good they have a kid and they are still so in love that they have sex that much- I wouldn't discourage that. The only thing they are doing wrong is still living at home.
Oh- and encourage them to get married.
2007-05-19 11:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you high? YOu're allowing your 21 year old son and his g/f and baby to live with you? How stupid of you and disrespectful of them, but again how stupid of you. That is YOUR house, period. In a sense you are allowing them to go on like this. Are you going to act all shocked and perplexed when your son and his g/f announce they are pregnant? Come on woman, wake up!! If they think they are old enough to play house, let them. SOMEHWERE else!!! Time to cut the apron strings sweetheart, you are just asking for trouble.
Not only that but what is this saying to your 16 year old daughter??? This makes me wonder what kind of life you are leading. I hope somebody gets a clue here...and soon!!!
2007-05-19 14:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by dixi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you joking? eleven is appropriate, judging by using the youngsters of at present and age, i could be shocked if your new child hasn't began finding out women already. EDIT: Luciella's answer quite summed each thing up. Have the intercourse communicate jointly with your new child, earlier the media does for you.
2017-01-10 09:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋