Opinion? Don't care much about the ettiquette books for this one.....?

Question

What is your opinion on a divorced mom of three wearing white or cream for her wedding dress? I don't care much about what the wedding ettiquette books say, but I don't want everyone sitting there saying "who does she think she is wearing that??" I was thinking of wearing a very soft pinkish cream, but I'm thinking my bridesmaid dresses may be a burnt orange color because both of us love orange and it would clash BAD. Opinions? I'm not going all out with a huge, frilly dress, my dress will be very simple, fitting, straight to the ground, hopefully satin with maybe a few rhinestones at the top, strapless.

Answer 1

I would stick with soft white or cream. No one will say anything about you wearing pure white nowadays but you don't sound like you'd be comfortable with it and you're the only opinion that matters.The only thing people really comment on is if you go all out with frills and veil and train.

Answer 2

It's not about the color so much that would raise eyebrows as the style. Wear whatever color you want, just don't wear a frufru "wedding gown."

If you read fashion history the color did NOT come into being because it signified purity, but because Queen Victoria wore it. Brides like it and the fact that the white did have the purity connontation - but prior to then, a bride wore her best dress. Technically, it is the blusher veil that is the symbol of "virginity."

Wear a dress that suits your age and style - and a white, cream, or light pink dress all would be perfectly appropriate. It is a wedding afterall.

Good Luck

Answer 3

I think a bride can wear what she wants. Plus, these people at your wedding are supposed to be your friends, why would they even begin to think "who does she think she is wearing that??" I bet nobody at the wedding would say anything about your dress.

I recently have a friend who is 46 get married for the 3rd time, and she has 2 adult kids. She wore a halter style white dress. She looked beautiful and nobody cared that the dress was white.

The dress you describe sounds like it would be really pretty and I hope you can find what you are looking for. Go down to the hardware store and find a pinkish cream paint chip, and compare it to the burnt orange. I don't think it would be bad, but see what you think. If you decide it would really be bad, then try getting a different cream, ivory or even a white dress.

Best wishes to you!

Answer 4

You should wear the color of your choice. Forget the books. The soft pinkish cream color sounds beautiful. How about a soft apricot color for the bridesmaids? Soft burnt orange accents among your other colors in the wedding/reception decorations would be lovely.

Answer 5

My mother remarried wearing a cream colored formal suit. It was beautiful and very appropriate. It was kind of Chanel-like, only more formal. I think your dress idea sounds lovely.

If you get married in the fall it would be pretty with burnt orange dresses. You could have cream, pumpkin, and russet colored flowers.

But I digress. I really don't think people will be astounded if you wear cream. I think a big puffy virgin white princess dress with a huge veil would be over the top. But what you're describing sounds lovely.

Answer 6

White wedding dresses are being worn by women who have been living with the groom and sometimes have children, so I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe you could find a very pale shade of the same color your bridesmaids will be wearing. But first and foremost, remember it's a day you want to remember with warm memories, so don't let yourself get stressed out!
Wishing you much happiness

Answer 7

It is your wedding and do whatever you feel looks best. There are many different colors for wedding dresses, and I assure you, there are many brides out there that don't "deserve" to wear white. (According to the "rules", not my personal opinion.) The whole ideology of a white dress has been has been fairly recent, and mostly in western culture.
But again, it comes down to your personal tastes. I doubt guests will be judging your for your choice. If they do, they don't deserve to be at your wedding.
Good luck, I'm sure you'll look great no matter what!

Answer 8

I think you should wear whatever you want. IT IS YOUR DAY. If they dont like it they can leave. But as far as the color thing maybe you can see if they have/can add the same color trim as your bridesmaid to your dress. Not to much maybe a little somethng to compliment but if not go wit your color as long as you look good everything will work out oh and make sure the grooms man and bridesmaids cordinate and im sure your pics will be fab. Congrats and Good Luck

Answer 9

You should wear whatever color makes you feel beautiful. Your gown is the one thing in a wedding that you don't have to consult anybody else about. You need to feel pretty. If you're asking for suggestions about what would look good with orange, I vote for champagne. Put the dress you like against the maids dress you like and see if the colors go. The color your described sounds like it would go with orange. good luck and be beautiful.

Answer 10

Nowadays wearing white is not only for "virgin brides" or first marriages, so where what you want. Im getting married again in September and its his first marriage and he wants the traditional wedding, so Im wearing a traditional bridal gown. The dress you describe sounds beautiful and many wedding dresses even come in that style because of the elegance. Congrats.

Answer 11

I say - go for it, girl! Traditionally, white was supposed to symbolize virginity. Just thing, if they had virginity tests for every woman walking down the aisle in white... well, let's not go there!

I say, wear your very soft pinkish cream, and maybe you can find a coral (pinkish orange) that goes with your dress for your bridesmaids.

And hey - CONGRATULATIONS!