Hi, I have been seeing this guy for the past 5 yrs, I really like him and although our relationship is strictly sexual I want more than that and cant figure out the right way to ask,we started our relationship dating , going to dinner, bars, etc...now all we do is have sex once a month or less. we do talk about other things when we are together but thats about the only time, until the next time we are together,I am almost always the one to initiate contact with him.I love mostly everything about him and would love to have a more meaningful relationship with him.What should I do to see if he is interested in more with me?Please help I realy like this guy.
2007-05-19 10:40:14 · 9 answers · asked by Just asking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
5 years of SEX ONLY?
Wow....that's odd....I find it hard to believe that there isn't something deeper from both sides....Yet, it's strange that the only time you two talk about something is once a month (or less) when you gather to have sex...I think you should just talk to him openly about your feelings, that's the only way to understand where he stands. On the other hand, I feel compelled to remind you that when a man is really in love with a woman, he just CAN'T live without her, and does ANYTHING in order to get her.
2007-05-19 10:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. Just stop calling him. No matter how much you really want to, this is the only way to test him.
After one of the times you guys are together, leave that time on a good note, and don't call afterwards. If he is really interested in you, he'll start wondering why you aren't calling. And because you left it on a good note, he won't think that you're upset with him. So he'll be the one to think about you and desire you. If he calls, then he is truly interested in you a lot. If not, it looks like it won't work out to make it more meaningful. You know, it's rare to transform a sexual relationship into a meaningful one. It takes the right amount of dedication for BOTH parties, if you want it to work out right.
2007-05-19 17:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make the first move.
Let him know that you want more out of the relationship. You don't have to talk to him to find out. Try asking him over for a romantic dinner, then you make the first move. If he says no or stops let that moment turn into a conversation and take that as a chance tofind out what's wrong. Also try being spontaneous go over aqnd see him then let it happen. If worse comes to worse you can always tell him how you feel. It may seem akward but it will help your relationship and also make you feel like you can talk about anything.
2007-05-19 17:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♥gabbygrl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite the bullet and ask....because if he isn't going to want to have something tangible with you then you should invest the time to find someone that does..it sounds like you are ready for a relationship
2007-05-19 17:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, I hate to tell you this. but if he is not initiating any contact with you..... then it is pretty obvious he has lost interest....
Move on find someone else.... and keep the sex out of it. Save it for marriage, where it belongs.
2007-05-19 17:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years of this?! Move on. He's just using you.
2007-05-19 17:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hell...You shouldn't have given it up so easily...So you met, hooked up, had sex all before really knowing each other...Not good...He is getting what he wants from you(the sex), and you are not getting what you want from him...That won't work...
2007-05-19 17:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've let this go on for too long. Tell him how you feel. Good Luck !
2007-05-19 17:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Eraser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to him
2007-05-19 17:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋