2007-05-19 10:23:34 · 21 answers · asked by : 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
OR DO YOU think it depends on the quality and depth of your friendships?
2007-05-19 10:24:21 · update #1
Yes Tom I think that if the basis is weak from lack of truth then the friendship is more at risk for all sorts of reasons. Big part is accepting people for who they are I suppose but if you don't really know who they are in the throws of your friendship then the whole thing is shallow and weak. Perhaps
2007-05-19 10:30:41 · update #2
Orion interesting.
2007-05-19 10:56:06 · update #3
Lefty I agree with everything you say. It's a hard question and perhaps should be changed to deep relationships.. I do think most definatly that with some people you have a sort of unexplainable understanding that demands depth. And if that depth isn't fed with honesty then it can not survive. I actually find it harder to be closed than to be open. open. Don't laugh. By the way the internet is a different kettle of fish.
2007-05-20 10:13:56 · update #4
honsty is important in all aspects of life and relationships, but it's wrong to say it's the only basis. What about understanding, trust, compassion, love, laughter etc?
2007-05-19 10:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hard one this, and I think the added on bit makes a difference. Honesty is a mainstay for all things in life I suppose although in relationships the level of honesty can differ. I am mean if I were just learning about a new friend and found out something that I really didnt agree with and they told me it gibly and expected me to accept it..well I think personally I would probably brush over it. If that friendship progressed then if it were brought up again I would have my say...
What I am basically saying is that you need to gauge how much YOUR honesty will matter to the person involved.
Mrsb tell me that made sense cos I am not sure it does :-/
2007-05-20 01:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by theoldecrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mrs. B
I agree, when you say basis, I see it as a foundation, if honesty is there, then the foundation will be strong & able to be built upon with trust/etc.
I believe that honesty must be at all levels of a friendship, or it will not grow deeper. This doesn't mean one has to be an open book, that comes with the development of the friendship. It means one should never lie, There are ways around expressing yourself honestly with out hurting someone.
You also have to guage your levels of friendships with honesty, to yourself, know what is applicable or not.
'Always be honest, then you don't have to worry about what you said' author unknown
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2007-05-21 04:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Steadfast † One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship.
I have a basic friendship with some of my neighbors (not the ones I'm closest to) they know what I do for a living, my name and what kinds of pets I own. I make small talk with them every once and a while but I don't share with them the type of information I share with friends that I'm close to.
My closest friends know everything about me, I don't keep secrets from them. There are some things that I do not come right out and tell people (ie my opinions on certain issues) but if they ask me about them I'm certainly not going to lie to them about it.
Any quality long lasting and meaningful relationship is built on honesty and mutual respect.
2007-05-19 10:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Disagree, One should never be completely honest with a loved one. I know a lot of people may thumb down me for saying this, but your significant other does not need to know everything. A relationship is made of much more then just honesty. I'm not saying lie or anything, just the other doesn't need to know everything. You may love your husband but have a secret crush on someone. You're not going to do anything but if you tell your spouse it could lead to hurt feelings.
2007-05-19 10:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by punch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The other way around definitely. Honesty comes to a relationship depending on the quality and the desired outcome.
Remember a half truth is a lie.
2007-05-19 10:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by verbalise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One can be honest with the world for a routine relationship where contact is minimal. If a more deeper relationship is desired, compatibility (likes) comes into consideration resulting in friendship, then trust and so on.
2007-05-19 10:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a component, though the depth of a friendship of trust and respect also plays an integral part
2007-05-19 10:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by kjonno91 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. If people are not honest with each other the relationship will be very weak because it is based on trust in the other person.
2007-05-19 10:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by tomthebomb1981 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disagree.
If we were totally honest all the time I don't think relationships would last long. :-)
Sex, trust, companionship, character/personality, compatability are few of many factors that make up the complicated mix that make relationships work.
I think it depends on the couple. Different factors can work for different folks.
2007-05-19 10:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by gabound75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋