im in love and my (*EX*) boyfriend broke my heart in to a million pieces. And i wanna call but hearing his voice hurts me even more its too hard to be his "friend" because i want more than that and its like im going to write a note about how i feel but what should i say?????????????????????????????????
2007-05-19 09:45:04 · 6 answers · asked by bowwowrealgirl32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say this, but it takes two to have a relationship. The hardest thing about falling in love is there is real potention of getting hurt. That is why it's called falling. If all he wants to be is friends and he knows how you feel, there is really nothing that you can do other than let go, give yourself time to heal, and jump back on the date train. If he doesn't love you then it is obvious that he is not your soulmate. You will only waste your energy and time, not to mention to continue to hurt yourself if he has no desire to have a meaningful, lasting relationship with you. He may be too immature. He may not feel for you the way you feel for him. He may be scared... any number of reasons, but it is obvious that the chemistry is wrong, at least here and now, for you to have a relationship with him
If you fell you have to write him a letter, tell him how you feel and that you understand that he does not share your feelings. You need more from the relationship than friendship and if he can't or won't commit to more, then you can't be his friend because it will be too painful for you.
Be honest. Be sincere. Be prepared for an answer that you don't want.
Good luck
2007-05-19 09:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by J N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he broke your heart, move on, don't set yourself up for hurt again! I know you feel miserable and it is hard, but the best thing is to move on, be with family and friends, get out and do things you enjoy, if you need to, write a letter to him, a sort of *therapy* for yourself, you won't send it of course, but after you write it all out, it may help you feel better and realize how much he hurt you and that you don't want to go through that again. Good Luck.
2007-05-19 09:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT write him a note. It's over. The best thing now is to move on, and keep your pride by acting like you don't care. Either this will make him reconsider you, or it won't, but you'll be well on the way to actually not caring. This guy is not your friend. He's hurting you, and friends don't do that. Find someone better.
2007-05-19 09:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down everything that you are feeling - just get it all out on paper (not email) - then wait a few days, review that letter and edit out all the stuff you don't want him to tell him. When you feel the letter is to your liking wait a couple of days more. Review the letter and if after that you feel that its ready, mail it or give it to him. Good luck!!!
2007-05-19 09:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write how you feel, but not into a note for him...write it for yourself, and keep it...in a journal or whatever. Its very important to get out your feelings and deal with them but its also imporant to move on. Relationships come and go, they all prepare us for what lies ahead and what lies ahead is usually a happy, stable relationship someday...thats if you deal with the ones that end before then, properly. Don't associate with him, don't be his friend, don't be his girlfriend. Write your feelings in a journal for yourself... deal and move on.. Its easier said than done, but its so imporant to do for yourself, for your happiness...and to get to the next step of things in your life
2007-05-19 09:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by CoCo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go. Why do you want to get hurt more?
2007-05-19 09:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋