My boyfriend and I have been together for over 9 months, and things have been great. We are really in love with each other!
We've been intimate for a long time (starting the second month of the relationship), but we only lost our virginity (we were both virgins before) very recently. Now, I feel like I ALWAYS want him, and I'm horny wayyy too much. When he comes over, both of us want each other so much that the first thing we end up doing is having sex. We still talk a lot, and we love each other's company as before, but I'm a little concerned that this new obsession with having sex with each other could change things badly? I don't want the relationship to turn into something based on sex.
Should we hold off on jumping straight into bed, even though both of us have an overwhelming urge to do it?
Oh, and we would go out on dates more if we weren't both so busy with college. It's only when summer break starts, that we can have more dates. So what should we do for now?
2007-05-19 09:37:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just take it easy. Enjoy this new sex life and as long as communication is happening everything is ok. Communication is KEY to any relationship. Don't try to hold off sex this will only create resentment on his part and might take a wrong turn in this relationship. Just enjoy the ride and be happy! BUT USE PROTECTION!
2007-05-19 09:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's normal.
You guys dont' see each other that much as you said and if you do, well, you do the deed. Nothing wrong with that.
I did the same, lol.
School first and than the fun stuff. It's normal, the guy doesn't see you for a long time and when he does, he just wants to be close to you in any way. I bet he is even picturing you and what he will do to you once he'll see you. You are having the same issue, so, why not resolve it with what works.
All nature baby.
As for this damaging your relationship, no worries. You guys are having a good time. You appreciate each others company and you are having sex, why would he leave you??
Have fun,
2007-05-19 09:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Alca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this but it will make things a lot more difficult in the future. You have to leave the guy wanting something or else he's going to be gone. Iv'e gone through a similar situation and my love life is falling a part. Don't make the same mistake i did. You have your whole life a head of you. I know you think he'll stay there no matter what but you need to tell him that it needs to start happening less often because you want things to last longer, and stronger. And summers coming up, you guys will be spending a lot more time together. Hang out and lay off the sex for a while.
2007-05-19 09:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian Counselor I cannot endorse your behavior, however, you are into a pattern that will likely cause long-term issues.
First - you wisely realize that your obsession with sex can be damaging in the long run. That's good.
Second - you really haven't talked with your bf about your concern. You should. You are smart enough to judge his reaction. You will know if the relationship, as far as he is concerned, is based only on the sex.
Third - you realize that a relationship must be based on more than sexual attraction. As we age, possibly have children, get jobs, that will change. Sex will take a back seat to other pressures of life. Then, what do you have in common?
I must advise that you two cease having extramarital sex, of course, but, if you cannot do that, you must find a balance in your relationship.
There are marriages that are successful even though there was premarital sex but they are not the norm. There is much more I could say on this topic. Let me suggest that you check out two of my blogs for more information.
They are: http://on-line-tribune-marriage.blogspot.com and http://on-line-tribune-relationships.blogspot.com
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Jim DeSantis
2007-05-19 09:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im 15 so your probly ganna think what the hell do i know. well basicly if your both been going out for 9 months and you both got a overwhelming arge to have sex then have sex. becuase not is a relationship based on love and trust, having sex is also very good for a relationship. but take if slowly and talk about it first. if you dont want the relationship based on sex then leave him coming back for more. btw make sure he wears a condom, u dont want any ancidents happening. but dont let him get the best of you, take control of your relationships at times and tell him you dont want the relationship based on sex. if he really likes you he would respect that.
2007-05-19 09:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by supermann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of sex is good. A lot of with the right person is great. Have fun with it and enjoy it while it last, but don't forget to protection. Lack of responsibility will kill the relationship way faster then too much sex.
2007-05-19 09:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Eraser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not uncommon. If you think the relationship is solid, you still talk and communicate, you enjoy each other's company outside of the bedroom, and you're practicing safe sex, then what's the problem? I don't see one. Have fun.
2007-05-19 09:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young love. I suggest having a steady supply of condoms and just relaxing. It'll become old hat after a few months. And afterwards try to squeeze in nonsexual activities to balance it out.
2007-05-19 09:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it to a woman to complain about her gold mine...
As long as you maintain a strong relationship in all the other areas, it won't get to be just "based on sex".
2007-05-19 09:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best part of sex is the anticipation, so delay it as much as you can. Try sitting upright at all times when together.
2007-05-19 09:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋