my mum, sister, 2 neighbours, close family members and a few close family friends have all had long term relationships and marriages that ended with them being deceived and feeling cheated, etc by their husbands/boyfriends and i fear that it will happen to me, like it's in my genes or something...
please help...i want to trust myself and other people...but i don't know if i ever will, because of this...
these people are so close to me, i wondered if it was a sign?
2007-05-19 09:34:40 · 25 answers · asked by KittenMcDuck 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are you and you make your own path.
2007-05-19 09:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, dear, it's not a sign, it's life actually. Every relationship has hills and valleys, no relationship is perfect, you and your partner will constantly be working together to make your relationship as good as it can be, but, mind you, you're only human and it is natural for things to not be so perfect, otherwise, what would we be doing here if not learning and growing through difficult times. Perfection can be downright boring :) Your partner is your witness in life, someone you will bounce off of, not your mirror image. He or she won't ever know exactly what you want or need all the time. You've got to ask for it and that takes skill, tact, and courage, and sometimes you've got to break a few eggs to make any kind of omelet. You're not cursed at all, dear. Don't let any of the dissention around you convince you that you've some moral compass to follow that you've been shackled with and that the grass is greener somewhere else outside of your own realm, it is not. Very few people are completely satisfied with their lot in life but that doesn't mean they are not relatively happy. Take it easy on yourself and stop worrying about others' lives, yours might just be better for it.
2007-05-26 21:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's better to see it as a sign of a good thing. I'm sure you've talked to them about their break-ups. So you can easily learn from their experiences. It'll help you feel more confident in your own relationships. Don't worry, things will work out for the best as long as you learn from the mistakes of others.
P.S. if they were decieved, then they put their love and energy into the wrong people. Set your standards high so you won't be decieved.
2007-05-19 09:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anita 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not cursed. They just had bad experiences, I can see how you would wonder. But you have to go into your own relationships with a good attitude, otherwise the worry and wondering part may actually create a negative impact for you.
2007-05-19 09:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not cursed to tell you the truth only 98% of marriages work, and only 46% marriages work out. You just have to make sure it is right, You have to wait and see how your relationships turn out!Also, I am very sorry to hear about all those unsuccessful relationships. But i do hope i helped you out!
2007-05-19 09:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by jessica l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not cursed. Your family is following a pattern. Sounds to me like you need to move. If all of the people you mentioned are having trouble, I would say it's the area that is causing it. Also, you might need to start hanging out with a better group of friends.
2007-05-19 09:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by son_of_glen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a generational curse. I suggest you give your life to God and have some born again people filled with the Holy Ghost pray over you and break the curse.
2007-05-19 09:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know if you're cursed or anything like that, but, if you don't take your own path, like maybe you want to wipe the slate clean, if u don't find your own way you might end up with someone like this. It could be in your psychology to attract these type of guys. If you're concerned about it or want to re-direct your life you might try therapy/counciling.
2007-05-19 09:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sign, curses don't exist! Find yourself a great guy and work at your relationship with him. It won't always be perfect but if you can remember when you met with a smile, your're onto a good thing! Create your own destiny and good luck :)
2007-05-19 09:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Thinker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as a curse but i do not think that it will happen to you. you are in control of your life and if you want the best life, you will make sure that you pick the best man. don't worry too much.<3
2007-05-19 09:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nah girl... jsut chill.... theres not such thing as curses in dating....
ur jsut getting worried coz u havent met the right dude for you...
trust me!!!
and by the way.... in the future if ur relationship doesnt work out dont think its the curse!!!
jsut remember break ups are common in dating
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2007-05-19 09:42:50 · answer #11 · answered by redhotddp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋