So I have a boyfriend and he says that I'm too clingy. We hang out, text, and call all the time. We even have all our classes in school together! I'm scared that if I don't call or text him he'll think that I don't want to be with him anymore...but if I DO call or text him..he'll think I'm annoying and clingy. I don't get it...what am i supposed to do? I don't want to lose him. Please help!!
2007-05-19 09:16:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
been there done that i know how u feel but see i fixed that problem see u 2 see each other in school u dont need to text if he wants to text let him text u first and let him call u he knows u want to b together but if he wasnts to b together he will call u just play hard to get
2007-05-19 09:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by matandchelforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming ur in high school, but it doesn't matter, there are some basic laws of attraction, no matter what age. Ur boyfriend (not u, not ur friends, not anyone else) says that ur too clingy. Yet, at the same time u say that if u don't act clingy (call or text all the time) he might think u don't want him anymore. can u see the difference in the 2 points of view? he tells u that ur clingy and u make up a reason for being clingy. if u 2 are close, ask him what he is comfortable with. if ur comfortable with his answer, then try to do that. if ur not, more calls and texts and time together are not going to help the situation, it'll only make things worse. the only relationships i've seen work are when the girl plays it cool, even though she wants to spend every second with the guy. it's a balancing act of showing your interest yet letting him pursue you. never easy, but always effective. good luck.
2007-05-19 17:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by bei j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to give him space bigtime. if he mentions you being too clingy then you def are just give him some space and meet new ppl to occupy your time and it will bring you and your bf closer together :) you wont lose him by doing this if anything it will make him more interested in you and he will be intrigued and wonder what he is missing out on. however if you continue being too clingy you may lose him so just give him a little space let him be the one making effort sometimes...guys like the thrill of the chase :) good luck hope ive helped you some
2007-05-19 16:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space is one of the things that keep a relationship going. You are not going to lose him....but wouldnt it be more interesting of you had other stuff and friends that you hung out with..if anything it will give you something to talk about later...(how much fun you had blah blah) Every person needs space to be on their own to do something that they may not do with you. Thats what keeps relationships interesting. Call...text and hang out...just not all the time.
2007-05-19 16:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find your own interests that will keep you occupied so you aren't going to him to fill all your needs. You need to learn how to keep yourself busy and interested in lots of other things. Maybe you need a little more self confidence. We all have the problem from time to time, just don't let it become what defines you as a person. You are your OWN person. Find something you enjoy reading, or something you like to research online, whatever it takes to develop your own 'life' that will INCLUDE him, not be ONLY him.
2007-05-19 16:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by nlh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be too pushy and try and call and text him all the time just limit the amount that u do it. also do call him but just lke three times a week and let him do the rest.
2007-05-19 16:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by zoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Let him make the moves
2007-05-19 16:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋