how do i split up with my girl friend?

Question

How do you split up with a girl you really love. Because you know it will not work out.

I have not got the heart to do it.

Answer 1

If you have problems then you should talk about it. Relationships are all about compromise. I'm sure you would be able to work things out to suit both of you, if you love each other enough.

Answer 2

Johnny, I am so glad that you asked this question. I want you to remember this forever because it will save you a lot of stress. The number one thing that women ALWAYS want from a man is honesty. Men are deathly afraid of a woman's tears but I am here to tell you that we are STRONGER than we appear. Sure breaking up is extremely hard to take, especially if you are on the receiving end, but you know the worse thing to do is to stay in a relationship that is going no where to avoid breaking someone's heart.

When you begin this conversation the first thing you tell her is what she has meant to you over the span of your relationship. List her great qualities and all of the wonderful things that you love about her. Show her how you have valued her as a person and how her love has changed your life.

Secondly, express to her where you are in the relationship today. Tell her the specific concerns that you have and why you feel that the relationship is not going to work. Be honest, be specific, do not place blame, despite how the problems were created, they are what they are so who did what is irrelevant, so you don't want to leave her feeling that you dumped her and it's all her fault.

Finally, tell her that moving on is the best thing for both of you. Your relationship was wonderful while it lasted, but you have now come to a crossroads and the decision to go your seperate ways is the best. Let her know that she is a beautiful, smart, wonderful, magnificent woman and that the right man will be absolutely lucky to have her. Thank her for being with you and wish her well and then...say good bye. Be firm, be gentle and then leave.

Don't call her/Don't accept her calls
Don't email her/Don't read or accept her emails
Don't visit her/Don't see her if she visits you
Don't send cards or gifts on the special occasions that you once shared together/ Don't accept gifts or cards of any kind.

Goodbye means just that. Accepting any contact with her after a break up sends the signal that perhaps you have changed your mind. Women feed off of signals so if nothing else be very clear about your feelings and intentions and stick to them until she gets the message.

Don't argue with her at all. Say what you mean and mean what you say and move on. It is NOT your job to make her accept it what you have to say. Feel free to quote me. I am very proud of you.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

As a girl, I know how hard it is to deal with a breakup. Sit her down alone adn explain how good she was to you and what you like about her, then say 'but....' If needed apologize for taking her time. Look at her in the eyes the whole time. Don't get yourself mad or fustrated even if she is. Then if she gets upset just let her go. If she ask why, answer 'truthfully'. If she crys offer a shoulder to cry on and give her a hug. I you really do love her don't wait. I know when a boy wants to break up with me, they just change, and it hurts inside. If you really love her tell her today or tommorrow. If you really love her don't keep her guessing. If you really love her, you probably do, get it over with, it's the best thing to do if you are serious about breaking up.

Answer 4

baffling this one, you really love her but u know it won't work?? your a mind reader then lol, well the only thing you can do is be honest ok hun because if you love her you must respect her and its the decent thing to do, you will get through it and it will hurt her but if you really think its for the best then no point in dragging it on is there? so go be a man and do it properly don't let her hear it from someone else after all you've told so many hundred people on here first!!! she might actually be thinking the same thing for all you know think of it like that!!!!!

Answer 5

okay;
1) to start never dump someone by text, harsh and impersonal.
2) if youve had this relationship for a short time, maybe a phone call will be enough, it may sound impersonal but it makes sure neither of you are uncomfortable and that if one is upset, it is not as obvious
3) dont be a jerk, tell her the truth
4) if youve been going out for ages, you should meet in person
5) dont string her along
6) dont ignore her
7) if you really love her, why break up with her? how do you know it wont work out? maybe you should sit down with her and talk
in general do it so as not to hurt her feelings too badly
good luck ;-)

Answer 6

As I am speaking from expierence, I will tell you.
You need to think this,.. do you believe you will be in the same relationship 5 years down the line, oops, dont know what age you are, maybe your only 14 or something, if so then my answer is crap. If you want to finish it, do not under any circumstances pro long it, you will only make it worse. you need to sit down and explain why its over, of course you can still love someone but just cant see it working out, talk to her!

Answer 7

A few hours ago you were telling us all how much you loved her and how you were going to tell her how much you loved every day because she had been in a car accident. Now you want to dump the poor girl. Make your mind up man! I think she would be better off without you.

Answer 8

You'll tear her up even worse if you don't say anything to her. Be a Man and talk with her. The very worst thing u can do to someone in a relationship is lead them on to think u have feelings for her (which it seems you DO... but anyways) and that it should work itself out. That' messed up, you can't just slither your way out of a partnership. Do it with dignity. Be strong and proud of your decision, that is def. okay, but it's not okay to just walk out without showing and telling her exactly what is going on.

Answer 9

That's tough! If you really want to break up, sit her down, take a deep breath, and tell her that the relationship is not working out and that you want to break up. Prepare yourself for tears and maybe some pleading, but stick to your guns, man, and let the girl go. Just make sure that it's what you really want.

Answer 10

If you love her, you should try to work through the reasons why you feel its not gonna work out.

If you still believe that it is never gonna work - you need to be honest with her so that she is not under any illusions and you are not leading her on. ....talk to her and tell her that long term its not gonna work but you really love her and wamt to be with her right now - she may dump you anyway then....but if she doesn't you can both enjoy being with each other for now.