I am trying to start dating again. I live a straight edge christian lifestyle. The problem I am running into is that younger women are living a promisuous lifestyle. Constant partying. I like to have a good time, but in moderation. If I date older women, alot of them are unable to bear children, and are mentally broken due to what they did in their youth. They are broken down physically, more often than not, having multiple children by multiple guys. I feel like if I don't lessen my values, I am never going to be able to have a relationship. Yet if I do lessen those values and settle for a physically busted up alcoholic mental trainwreck, I am just asking for a failed relationship. What's a man to do?
2007-05-19 08:44:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and I'm sure *you're* QUITE the catch...
My suggestion is to stop complaining and looking at the negative. You either want a relationship, a prostitute, or no intimacy whatsoever. You have just a few choices and nothing's changed, it's always been that way for you.
I personally think you should settle for your own personal prostitute.
2007-05-19 08:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , do not know if this helps but , I am 29 and went through a bad relationship with a guy that i was dating that was 36 , all young women are not into clubs , Me being my age i work and come home and cook dinner and watch movies , on the weekend my time is mostly free because my children go to visits my mother for the weekend , once i drop them off if i do not have dinner to myself for that evening at a nice restaurant , i go home rent movies or have nice walk in the park with a picnic to myself , I do not go to clubs , i am not about mess or drama , my children have one father which happens to be my ex-husband of 10 years that i was married to, I have been divorced for three years yes there is a great age difference between my ex and i because i was very mature when we married. Since my third year of being single and also been strong in my christian faith sometimes we have to look at the people we chose or attracted to and not each person at a whole. Look for qualities, and potential, in a woman, and things that you enjoy similar, like ask what are their future plans, what do they see there self and mostly if she has kids now see how she treat her kids now to let you know if she will be a good mother later, there is nothing wrong with dating or marrying a woman that has children already you can add to the family , not only as a good role model but a loving father.
2007-05-19 09:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by jenhiai39232 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push it. Yea the joke is how are men(woman) and parking lots the same.....
All the good ones are taken and the only thing left is handy cap...
but ya know if you give it time a parking spot right in front will open up.
Just relax and do what you do. Enjoy your life it shows. then some how the right woman will come along. and finding her where you like to go and around things you like will be a bonus if she is there it must be something she likes also or is interested in.
Don't lessen your values and not all older woman are falling apart.
2007-05-19 08:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by kkapustka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..I see what you mean. If you lesson your values then that's not really who you are. But if you don't then you feel that you will never meet anyone?
Have you ever tried putting up a profile on an online dating site? I know match.com is pretty good. I'm sure if you did a little searching on the net you could find a Christian one. I'll look for one for you and post it back here if I ever find one.
Good luck, I know it's not easy!
2007-05-19 08:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by log3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you to do? Easy: hold out and wait for the woman God wants you to be with. (She is out there somewhere, just have faith.)
I am not settling for less than I deserve. I could be dating pleny of different men but they are either loose in their morals or they are married and want to have an affair: sorry, but I have morals and also never date married men. I know what I want and will not settle for less.
You don't want to settle for less because then you are guaranteed a horrible relationship, one that is sure to meet its demises early on.
2007-05-19 08:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try single men,different market since you dont seem to like the women out there.
2007-05-19 08:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by jjohn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Specialize. If you want a churchly type, try the churches. I wanted someone with brains, so joined Mensa. Score!
2007-05-19 09:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating girls from church. Some of them are bound to share the same values you do.
2007-05-19 08:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get over himself. Are you sure you're as good a catch as you think you are?
2007-05-19 08:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not looking in all the right places. Expand your horizons.
2007-05-19 08:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Irish 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋