I have two amazing friends. thier always there for me and i really enjoy thier company. the thing is when we are out with guys, all the dudes are all over them but not me. you see, im not jealous of thier beauty. sure these girls are thin and pretty but i deffinately dont hate them for it! its just that it hurts sometimes when boys are all over them and dont notice me. I'm really good friends with alot of guys. But i just dont get the same attention as them. sometimes the guys i like, like them. it hurts but when i talk to them about it they say "its okay, you are pretty and you have a great personality" i know i have a good personality, other wise i wouldnt have so many frineds but i feel like that isnt enough. i dont know how to explain my hurt to them because neither of them have ever struggled with guys liking them. how do i handle this?
2007-05-19 08:39:15 · 21 answers · asked by Seanyy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-05-19 08:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by prettyinpink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you don't have much self confidence when you're hanging out with these girls. I'm not saying they're to blame, but just suggesting maybe that is why the guys don't "notice" you. Besides, would you really want a guy that is into you because you're pretty? Or one that is into you because of your personality. Think about who's getting the better deal....you're friends with a lot of guys. Guys have even more guy friends. Why don't you ask your guy friends to introduce you to someone? And you never know, maybe one of your guy friends feels more for you than you think. It's not bad being friends first anyway, you get to know the person instead of jumping into something too fast and hurting over it for longer than it lasted even faster. Also, out of 100% the guys you meet, about only 15% will like you the way you like them. Personally, I wouldn't bother telling your friends just because of the fact that they really can't do anything about how YOU feel inside...you know what I mean? I mean, yeah, they can try and set you up, but how would that work when you say all the guys pay attention to them anyway? What could they do to help you? I'm not being mean because I am getting over the same thing. The only thing I cannot stress enough is that there are more guys to choose from than ice cream flavors at Baskin Robins, so if 5 don't like you back now, you can expect 20 to like you in the future. You just have to be SURE of yourself and that you have something to offer. I hope you find him one day girly! Good luck!
2007-05-19 15:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw don't worry, if it bothers you this much then you should really tell them about why this hurts you. Since they are your close friends then they will understand and should make you try to make you feel better about yourself. I understand how you would feel when all the guys are over them but just don't let it get to you too much, know that you are beautiful both on the inside and outside! Soon enough, there will be guys who pick you instead of them and not only cause of looks, but most importantly for your personality!! In the long run, personality is what matters the most!!!
2007-05-19 08:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look here luv. One day some guy's gonna swoop in on you and sweep you off your feet. Beauty for some guys aren't at the top of their list and if it is, sometimes bespeaks of their shallowness. Personality and brainpower was always the first thing for me. Sure, it's cool to have a gorgeous babe, but does that make up for all the other qualities necessary for a solid relationship? No, not in the least. There have been women in my life that weren't the most awesome women in town by way of looks, but who they were as human beings usually beat out the pretty ones. Don't fret, the day will come. Keep your chin up. =)
2007-05-19 08:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Pontius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way, my friends and I go places all the time and get guys attention but I'm left in the dust.
All you can do is BE YOU!
Someone will fall for your beauty.
I know you probably hear that alot but I'm serious.
Nobody's going to think you're pretty if you don't think so first.
Focus on what you like to do and how you like to look.
Stay confident.
If you don't then you'll crumble.
You don't need guys anyway.
They're becoming more and more shady,
only looking for one type of girl.
Just be happy you have friends who love you
and won't judge you the way boys do.
=]
2007-05-19 08:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by iiGOTCHA. <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you sound JUST like me and how i was when i was younger.
i was always the "funny friend" who was pretty and had it all but i never realized it until i was married. LOL (too late then)
i wasn't the kind who got guy attention in "that" way and now looking back i see that it was all my doing!
i put myself open to disapointment. I had friends who were pretty, had great figures , personalities and NO i wasn't jealous just like yourself. But i was always wondering "what is wrong with me"?
ther was NOTHING wrong with me.
it WAS me preventing boys from looking at me. I was either too shy or it felt comfortable to just be "friends'>
what i started doing? was pretending that i WAS one of those girls. wanna know what happened? I got a boyfriend when i wasn't looking and they were jealous of me.
so being so NICE all the time doens't pay. if you see a guy? and you like him? sink your claws in. LOL there is nothing wrong with hanging around solo sometimes. or with another crowd.
remember, its comfortable for your friends to hang with you. I mean, you made it known your not on thier level.
remember girls are vile creatures. even if they are smiling, when push comes to shove, its every man for himself.
:) you will be just fine! your beautiful inside and out. you just don't know it yet.
find your niche! when you do, you will shine!
anytime you wanna chat. just message me.
2007-05-19 08:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u mean yu dont think yur pretty?
it really doesnt matter...everyone prolly using
makeup to make themselves look better
and personality counts more than looks,trust me
when everyone grows old..whose pretty then? the one
with a cane or the one with wrinkles? good personality
is very hard to find :] looks dont give u everything..so what
at least u have friends and all =) does guys matter tht much?
if they like u for looks, tht isnt a really good guy,is it?
2007-05-19 08:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem exactly. After I relized that it was a self issue boys started talking to me everyday. Nothing physically changed but my self confidence changed greatly. And when you are away from your friends practice your self confidence and talking to guys you normally. Good Luck.
2007-05-19 08:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by GeniusLivinLarge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like yourself, then that's all it matters. You are pretty and have good personality. Those are great blessings. Be happy and cheerful - you will be like a beautiful flower attracting the bees.
2007-05-19 08:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a self-confidence thing. I'm sure you're very cute, but because you don't believe it yet, you probably don't project as much confidence. Just trust in yourself, and everything will work out great.
2007-05-19 08:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋