2007-05-19 08:30:28 · 14 answers · asked by Shortstop 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I looked online for etiquette on this and all the sites said no longer than 2 months for each event. She has not sent anyone a thank you card, I know I spent a lot on both and helped with the shower and have not even been told a thank you. She is having a baby shower this summer and expecting people to spend a lot on her at this event. I was just wondering if I should say anything about the previous events and not getting a thank you card?
2007-05-19 09:05:29 · update #1
She spent 30 thousand on the wedding so she can afford thank you cards. I'm not the only one upset about not getting one, several of my friends have said something about it. I was raised that if you did not send a thank you card out to people do not expect people to want to come to any other events you have or even want to get you something nice, because the people who got you something nice, maybe they didnt have the money but wanted to get you something nice, or went out of their way, and you dont say thank you at all to them. By some of the answers I'm seeing this Bride isnt the only one with horrible manners!
2007-05-19 09:55:46 · update #2
That is terribly rude. Someone said that the wedding couple have a year to send a thank you. IF that is correct, that does not account for the bridal shower. I wouldn't check the mailbox for a thank you any time soon. I don't think she plans on sending out any thank you cards. She is rude and unappreciative.
I would not say anything as two wrongs don't make a right. However I would not be in any hurry to do a lot for her baby shower.
None of my business, but.....did she have a maternity wedding dress? LOL
I worked with a woman who not only did not give out thank you notes, there was NO thank you said at her baby shower either. I didn't go to the ones for her three other kids.
2007-05-19 10:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Depends on how close your are to this person. If it is someone in the immediate family or a close family friend...you can simply approach them like this, "You know, it's come to my attention by quite a few people. But, did you forget to send out Thank you cards for your bridal and wedding gifts?". Leave it in her court then. I think you have every right to ask this question on behalf of everyone. I am shocked, most people make an effort to send out the Thank You cards. I know we did. If you are not that close to her, perhaps share you observation with whomever is closest to her. Otherwise, I don't know what else you can do about it. I guess make sure that's the last thing you do for them. That's pretty bad.
2007-05-19 10:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by daff73 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you may desire to deliver 2 separate ones as a results of fact the bathe present is normally to you it may be from you however the marriage presents are to the couple so the thank yous could desire to be from you the two. i do no longer see the concern with utilising an identical card inventory. in case you like that's what concerns.
2016-12-11 14:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one rude bride, and I wonder about her mother because moms are very good at reminding daughters to get on those thank yous. Mine were out two weeks after the showers and three weeks after the wedding. I most certainly would not attend the baby shower.
2007-05-19 09:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Oh,dear,the Bride sounds like she is very rude,indeed!
If you are worried that your gift was not received,you can always inquire about it by saying that you are worried that your gift was not received.It is quite possible that the gift card was separated from the gift and the Bride does not know who sent what.
It is common courtesy to acknowledge a gift by sending a Thank You letter or card;there really is no excuse not to: One can not say that they are too busy...how lame!
And one can not say that going to the wedding is thank-you enough;it is not!
2007-05-19 08:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
IMO, I would not get all worked up because someone didn't send out a thank you card.
Did you go to get the thank you cards or did you go because you wanted to? Yeah you think it was rude, but as was said before she's got a year to do it, and even if she didn't it would be rude to bring it up to her.
And it would be petty and you wouldn't be much of a friend to not go to a baby shower because you didn't get a thank you card.
2007-05-19 09:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She has certainly practised poor etiquette but it would be even poorer etiquette for you to mention it.
That would be super catty & tacky. Why do you need to point out her mistakes.
Just don't offer to help at her next shower. Say you are busy and don't spend so much on her.
Why do you need the reassurance of a thank you note?
P.S. I am a certifed wedding planner of 5 years and I consult on ettiquete and the rule of thumb for a wedding gift thank you note is 1 year.
2007-05-19 09:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by rickybobbi 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I was always taught that it was proper to send them out within a year from the wedding. By that rule, they are still very much in the clear.
2007-05-19 08:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Car Girl 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I had thought that Ms. Manners said you got a year, but I could be wrong. One thing I do know is that bringing up someone else's rudeness is even ruder. Don't say anything to them.
2007-05-19 09:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by random6x7 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I believe it is very rude and insensitive on both parts of bride and groom.
2007-05-19 11:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Seeking 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋