about crack..........?

Question

ya a couple of days my dad got busted buying crack. me and supposedly my mom thought it was just weed. im not sure how much she knew. we stay at his parents house because my dad was on probation, and my grandparents said he admitted to buying it with the money that THEY gave him(he doesnt have a job) and i went online and found out EVERY time he went to get "weed" he would call up his dealer and ask for a dime and other stuff. that totaly bothers me, he has ben doing it 4 a long time obviusly, and now he has 4 to 5 years in prison. im 14,so im not gonna see him for ALONG time, when he get out,or bailed out, does he have to go thru treatment? and can anybody plz tell me everything u know about it. and dont post another website plz(also everytime he was supposed to pay me back when i let him borrow money, we go to grandparent that im at right now, (along time ago), he would just say he couldnt pay me right now, and then calls up said dealer and the gets something and this just repeats.

some of u guys didnt get what i ment in da last couple of lines. I didnt no he did that before and i think thats terrible that he does that, but my mom brakes down everyday. she also defends him she sais its because they were married for 16 years, but my dad became vilont in the last 4 years (he also stopped working then) just wanted to clearify

Answer 1

So sorry for you and your family.
Crack is a highly addictive drug made from cocaine.
It increases production on dopamine in the brain and gives the user a feeling of euphoria. It also causes severe paranoia.
A former friend killed two women under the influence of crack.
He is now serving 16 years to life.
Crack changes people into a slave to the drug. It also changes their personality, with them doing things they never normally would.
If your father is a good man otherwise, he needs your love and support.
I personally feel he has done you a great disservice

Answer 2

Wow, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I have smoked crack probably about 5 times in my 40 yaers but it was never my drug of choice. I got stuck on methamphetimine, however I have been clean for 5 years now. Crack is almost addicting from the very beginning. You take a hit or two and you are very likely to find yourself on the floor looking at anything that slightly resembles the drug. It is a physical addiction rather than a mental addiction. This means that a person getting off of it will actually go through a period of physical withdrawals. They can even get sick. It takes over your whole life making you neglect the ones you love and rids you with guilt but nonetheless you will spend all of your time chasing it at all costs. Please don't think that your father does not love you. He is just sick right now.I live in California and I have never actually been to prison but my ex husband has. We have 3 daughters and I brought them to see him regularly. If the laws in your state are similar a parent or guardian can bring a minor child to visit with a birth certificate.He will have to send the adult a visiting questionaire which needs to be filled out, returned to the prison and then go through the process to be approved.There will be strict dress codes meaning a lot of colors or styles of clothing/shoes that are not permitted. There is usually a place on the same property as the prison called Friends on the Outside that offer support, even clothes you can borrow for the visit if you have to change the clothes you wore to the visit.Good luck and I hope things work out.One last thing don't let this happen to you. Life is precious and so are the children affected by the terrible affects of a parents addiction. Hope this helped.

Answer 3

Sorry kiddo... I'm very sorry about what you're going through. The person you call Dad, is anything but. People that are that far gone don't care about anyone, especially themselves. I know this for a fact because my son's father regards crack as his drug of choice too.

All I can tell you, is that it sounds like you're in it alone. The choices you make at this point will affect the the rest of your life. You can learn from all this, and chose to live your life right, or you can end up where he is. Just because he's your father, you don't have to respect him. Or even love him if he has not earned your love. People like this tend to survive by making other feel bad for them. Don't get sucked into his lies and deceit. You sound like a very mature, strong young man. I know you're capable of making the right choices. If need be, get the authorities involved. Most cities have a lot of programs for kids like you that will help you. Don't be afraid to talk to someone about this.

Good luck and be strong!

Answer 4

Unfortunately, it is very difficult in this situation to help. Most people like this (and I know my share of addicts) are expert liars, and actually believe their own lies. The only way this can be helped is to have the person want to help themself.

The way you can do it is everytime he says something that you know is a lie, call him on it. Also be sure to remind him that he is an addict and he has a major problem. People like this tend to not think that they are addicts, and that they do not have a problem. So if you continue to let him know he is an addict, and that you dont believe him, then he may soon think that he is indeed a crack addict and needs help.
In addition, you NEVER give a crack addict money. They will lie in any way possible to get you to give them money. So I dont care if he says I need money to see a doctor or whatever, NO MONEY. If he really needs something, buy it, but never give them cash.

Maybe in prision he will have some time to become free of his addiction, but most likely not. The thing for you man, is to not follow and focus on your own life. Other than doing what I told you, it is not really possible to do anything else. I know it is hard watching someone destroy themselves, but it could be too late for him as many people that have reached his stage never change. So keep your head up, and it is certainly not your fault. If you need any other help, just message me.

Answer 5

I am truly sorry that you have had to go through this in life.This will only make you a stronger man and father when you are old enough.They may make him to treatment but only if he doesnt get prision time.When he gets out in 4/5 years that was his detox so they wont make him go sometimes when they go for a long time they get into Jesus and straigten up but some come out worse ,unless he is a seroius felon he probably wont get 4/5 years. I hope that well he is in there your mom can get her life together and get rid of him, I am sorry to say it because it is your dad but its the best thing for you both.Think if he doesnt pay the drug dealer and they come loking for him and something happens to you,your mother or grandparents? I wish you the best in life.Be a good person!

Answer 6

Crack is a horrible drug that is addictive, it ruins peoples lives and their families lives. Your father will have to be detoxed in a center, even then people have relapses and go back to it. From what i have seen it is a hard habit to shake. If your father is going to jail, he will be free from this drug when he gets out. Be there for him and make sure he knows that you love him no matter what. He will need that from you. Write him when he goes away and pray for him. Some times people have to have things happen to them for their lives to change. Think of him going to jail as a way for him to stop smoking crack. God bless your family and i will pray for you all. You stay strong for your dad alright!

ps: crack is made from cocaine and is cooked into a solid mass and then smoked by the user. It is a terrible thing. Stay away from all drugs, they ruin your life. take care........

Answer 7

Everyone that says they hate there parents right now or sometime in the future or think they've got it rough needs to read that a couple or three or four times.
Ok. I'm not sure first off what your really asking here. When addicts have to go into prison for awhile like your dad I don't know if they go through any kind of rehab thing. I don't know either that when your dad does get out if he'll be on probation or not. When someone's on probation there are rules that they have to go by or they can go back to jail/prison if they brake those rules, and they know what those rules are.

I believe your asking this and wanting a straight up right answer to this because you more than anything or probably anybody want to see your dad clean himself up and stay away from all that crap. I don't know your dad but for your sake I hope he can clean himself up. Can you ask your mom that question if he has to get treatment in there or when he gets out? She might know it.

Your learning or have been learning a lesson that no child should have to learn this early in there lives. What your dad is doing to himself and to you by using drugs is very selfish. Because he's addicted to them they are the first and usually only thing he thinks about and they come first. This will never change as long as he takes them. Being an addict to drugs or alcohol changes a person, changes what is important to them, because the drug that they use will always come first before anybody or anything. Every person that has been addicted to something knows that this is true.
Your dad needs help but he has to want the help in order for him to ever change and become a better person, husband to your mom and dad to you. But your dad doesn't like who he is and hasn't probably for a long time....but that's not your fault, or your moms, its his own fault. You can look at your life and how it is and you can be angry with it and think bad things. You need to stop worrying so much about your dad, I know that might be hard, but you do and you need to concentrate on something much more important and thats you. You need to really take a look around your life and how one person has possibly made a nice little mess out of it and ask yourself if this is the kind of life you want to have for yourself too. How's it make you feel, bad, disgusted, hurt, shamed, maybe unloved. You really do need to remember it and hold onto it in your mind as you live your life and come across things and people that aren't nice. What you've gone through in your just getting started life should not have happened, but it has, and you can use it all your life now to be a great and strong willed person. Your someone that's lived through probably some terrible times but don't let it break you down or make you weak but instead let it build you up and make you strong. Because you've seen and lived through weak and you can fill in the blank or blanks. You think that way of life ________________!!!!
You get yourself together and work on who you want to be and stay determined and don't let anyone take it from you.
Your dad's a grown man, he was suppose to be responsible for you and he blew it and you know that. He can take care or not of himself that's his decision isn't it. And he's been showing you the decision he's been making all your life hasn't he.

I can't stand grown people acting like they don't know any better when you know they do, and don't do anything about it. But what I hate even more is when there are kids mixed up in with it and some how the adults have forgotten what is was like when they were growing up, how hard or how great growing up was, there experiences. How adults effected there life, how they made them feel because of what they said to them or what they did or didn't do to them.

I hope you can find something good from something I've written, because I tried really hard to reach out to you.
You need to know that there are people out here that don't know you from a hole in the wall, but want to see you come out of this situation strong and positive. I wish you all the best in your life and I do hope you have a wonderful one.

Answer 8

Listen, If you care about your fathers health, don't let him borrow your own money. Keep your own money and use it for something good. If you want him to be better, I suggest you guys take him to REHAB. REHAB is a facility where they help you get over your "drug cravings". This is a big deal because he is your father and his health is in danger. I think that is good that he is going to jail because there aren't going to be drugs there and he'll be fine there. They'll take care of him and it's just like REHAB. Good luck baby and be careful!

Answer 9

Never give money to a drug addict; go to school and learn everything you can. You are your own person. Also, never give money to a drunk or gambler as your chances of being paid back are slim to none; and slim just left town.

Answer 10

your dad has a serious problem, and now prison time. you need to worry about you now and get your life togeather. please dont give him any money, as you probably won't get it back. your dad needs alot of help, which you can't give him, so concentrate on you now, and your future.