I recently found out my ex-bf's e-mail password. We broke up last weekend because of a huge fight over something stupid. He told me that until then, he'd been happy. He also said that he still loves me. Well, I checked his e-mail (bad, i know), and found out that for a week in April, he had contemplated cheating on me with this really overweight, ugly girl (I'm no model, but I'm 5'5", 120lbs, pretty attractive). In one of the e-mails he sent her, he called me "a situation that will be remedied over the summer."
I also found an e-mail he sent to one of our mutual friends in which he referred to me as "an obnoxious factor" and a "fiend." Even so, he still spent every minute with me after that until the weekend we broke up.
Why would he say/contemplate doing these things YET still want to be around me and still say he loves me? What do you think his actual feelings are?
2007-05-19 06:35:23 · 12 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was leading a double-life and/or cheating on you and didn't have the guts (or the you-know-whats) to tell you, because he's a spineless coward.
You deserve better. So drink a Dr Pepper, smile that smile of yours, and go out and face the world as a single, beautiful girl, and watch the guys line up. Then, take your pick. :-D
2007-05-19 06:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably didn't have any intention of spliting up with you, he just wanted to act like it so these girls would fool around with him. But when you wanted to leave, he saw no point in stopping you because he doesn't love you. One thing I've learn is that men don't cheat because their gf isn't pretty, they cheat because they are losers who don't deserve your attention.
As for you, I would act dumb and flirt your ar se of with the cutest guy you know (preferably a guy he hates). If he's the player type you have described, nothing will hurt his ego more than seeing his ex over him and with someone who actually deserves her so quickly.
Don't waste your time thinking about you. You can do so much better
2007-05-19 13:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly im going threw the same thing. the best thing for you to do is to move on. I know its hard but you can do it. He isn't goin to tell you because he dont want to lose you. What i mean by that is he dont want to lose you because you were the best thing that ever happend to him or hes just wanting you for something he cant find in other people. If you found this out and is still talking to him hes going to keep doing it and will not stop ontil you put your foot down and say "i know you are talking about me behind my back and i dont care" or in that sort, at that point hes goin to deny everything. but just be aware he is going to try to get you back but you have to be strong.
2007-05-19 13:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Amaria A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um well when he said that he loves you i would think that he does love you but he isnt "In Love" with you , and do you still like him ? cuz i really dont think that you should be with someone that is capible of cheating on you which is proof sence you seen his email when his talking with some other girl, and after finding out that its going to be very hard for you to trust him again, with out you thinking is he cheating of you, and i believe that trust is a key thiing in an relationship
2007-05-19 13:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by JamesMo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is creating a mindset for himself to be rid of you. Cut to the chase and move on as trying to undo the past is like trying to polka in quicksand.
2007-05-19 13:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the question was for the guys but I couldnt help it--
his actual feelings?? are you wondering about his actual feelings?? move on girl, the guy was set on degrading u. Girls would u not let any man treat u like that!!
u deserve better sweety
2007-05-19 13:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by kate07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly, in my opinion i think this guys a loser. like every
other guy out there who makes up stupid excuses. he's a jerk
&& you deserve better. he's over here tryna get with a fat ugly
girl right? well forget him. i think he doesnt want to hurt you &&
say he doesnt want to be with you much anymore. he doesnt
LOVE you if he tells your friends or other people brap about you.
honestly. forget him.
2007-05-19 13:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by em_LEEN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are somethings you should not know. I am a single & tell my Mom sometimes "Hitler" but that does not mean I hate her.
2007-05-19 13:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be cause he wants to have 2 girls thinkin hes a player or he likes you
2007-05-19 13:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by spritualmonk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him you know what he called you and ask why he's spending time with you if he thinks that.
2007-05-19 13:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by smurf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋