If I sound Naive or totally dumb. i'm sorry
Me and my Boyfriend (Ewan) have been together for 4 happy months. Even though he has told me that he loves me, and I say "I love you' back to him, I'm not even sure if I actually really do love him. Now heres the other problem. I met this really hott guy online, and we talk alot and stuff on msn. He says I'm attractive 'hott/********/cute, etc etc' and he has a girlfriend! I call him hott, attractive, or so.. Someone once told me that flirting to someone other than your boyfriend online is cheating. Even though i might be 'flirting' with the guy, I told him that I couldn't even cheat on my boyfriend. He said he understood. but he couldn't consider 'flirting' online cheating..because I live someplace totally different than him and its only text and pictures! Even If we wanted to cheat we sure couldn't anyway.
is this even cheating?
2007-05-19 05:55:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as long as it stays as JUST flirting and just a nice laugh ur fine. but i am not sure if that will be so easy because after time guys really grow on u without knowing it and soon u'll need to talk to him on msn not just for fun. it happened to me even though i promised myself i wouldnt let it happen but it did. and i had to stop talking to him and now i miss him but i cant go back. ur going to want to see him and u'll think about him everyday. so think...do u like him or is this just a laugh. if it isnt than its cheating.
2007-05-19 06:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Amineh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My only question to you is, if you really are so "happy" with your boyfriend, why are you even flirting with this other guy online?
But as for your question, there are no set rules/guidelines that constitue what's cheating and whats' not. So I guess if you feel that this online chatting isn't, then I can't argue with your opinion. But you may want to talk to your boyfriend about it, because he may think differently, and could cause you some problems if he finds out about this secret online chatting behind his back when you two seemed to be getting along just fine.
But again, if you're thinking about cheating on your boyfriend with this guy, why are you telling him that you love him then? Decide whether you really do love him or not, and if you don't, don't string him along anymore, break up with him and then you won't have to sneak around his back with this other guy...
2007-05-21 12:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Valerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is, its only cheating if your partner (bf) doesnt know that you do these things. But what really matters is, does he think its cheating? If you casually brought it up in a conversation with him but made it sound like it was 'your friend' doing this, you can even tell him that your friend asked you if you thought she was cheating and you were unsure how to answer her. Then ask him what he thinks; would he consider it cheating? You could get great info from him on what he thinks since that is what really matters. Dont listen to the guy you are flirting with for sure, he doesnt want the flirtting to end and will say what he has to to keep it going.
2007-05-19 13:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by twarr444 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but anything that your significant other would find disturbing and just wrong would be considered cheating especially when it involes chat rooms and messenging another guy. Your flirting and using terminology that a couple would use it is cheating he says it is not because well he is a guy that probably has no problem messing around on the person he is with.
2007-05-19 13:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little but at least you're not gonna ask him to hook up. That's stupid, dumping a real life bf to get one online. Flirting with him is kind of cheating on your bf. Don't let him see that you're doing that.
2007-05-19 13:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Steve C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice I can give, Is 1. if you feel guilty doing it then yes its cheating, and 2. if you would get mad at your bf/ gf for doing the same thing then you shouldn't be doing it either.
2007-05-21 20:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by WILL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, YES, YES. But then again you are not married so i wouldn't feel too bad. The purpose of dating is to find the one you will eventually marry. As long as your not having oral sex or intercourse with him, you do your thing girl.
2007-05-19 13:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way, it is yes.
Ask yourself this. If the roles were reversed, how would you feel?
If you would be annoyed, then its a safe bet he would be.
If you were my girl and I found that out, you'd be gone.
2007-05-19 13:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by blissnabob 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh well sure its not cheating if its just online!
2007-05-19 13:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it depends, do you think feeling this way about another man is ok?
2007-05-19 12:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by arizonaprincess2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋