I have a lot of problems and I'm usually very upset. My friends don't rea;ize this, though because I'm always smiling and "happy" and whenever someone asks how I am, I always say I'm good. My one friend-- friend #1-- has been constantly been telling me to tell people how I feel and to be more open since the day I told her about some of my problems. Well, friend #1 had been bugging me about it, so I went and complained about it to friend #2. Friend #2 started asking me why I'm not open and now she's acting like friend #1. This is what friend #1 had told me: yeah dee, i highly doubt that. again you dont realize but with you there is always something... to be worried about. So now I have two friends bugging me to tell people how I feel and what's going on. But there's a problem; I don't know how to be open. I've always put others first. It was-- and still is-- very rare for me to think about myself.
2007-05-19 04:48:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The first step is to be honest and open with yourself and not hide from your own thoughts and feelings. Do you often push thoughts or feelings away that you don't like or don't want. When you can stop avoiding your own feelings and thoughts, and really take notice of what is going on inside you, then you will be able to share them with others.
2007-05-25 00:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to realize that they care about you and only want the best for you. They cannot help you if you do not tell them what is going on.
Man is not an island. I am sure that you have heard this old proverb. You probably have some intimacy issues, but you may want to try to open up on one topic first. You will find also that there are some friends, you can only share on certain topics and others that you can tell everything.
But take your time and test the waters to see who you can trust with what. As you open up, you will find that it gets easier.
You will also find out who your true friends are.
2007-05-26 02:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Seeking 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you live with a family that doesn't give you the support you would need to be open about what is wrong in your life. Sometimes parents will subtly or overtly train their children to keep their problems to themselves. But when that happens, kids don't learn to share with anyone, not even their friends.
Check out the book "The Dance of Intimacy" from the library. You need to learn how to have closeness, because your family didn't give you a way to learn it there, so you will have to learn it on your own.
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2007-05-27 00:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by nojunk_9 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Life is short. The worst thing you can do now is nothing. Looking back and wishing you told people how you felt then. Don't make that mistake. Once you start opening up it will become easier and easier. This is a good start....good luck.
I'm in the process of opening up myself. It feels good when you do it.
2007-05-27 10:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
be honest with your self!!! you have to do that first don't hide your feelings...that's how we have people go crazy..you need to let it go to someone you know you can trust try your family or your friend and if she doesn't keep the secret then she is not your true friend...you tell them something in confidence and if they don't keep it then it tells you that you can't really trust them....
2007-05-27 09:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by syndalynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being unreserved but open in your dealings with them!
2007-05-19 11:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋