Does Everyone seem in their own world on the Dance Floor??

Question

I remember when everyone used to dance with each other and you would even ask a girl to dance and it used to be about getting close and itimate to get sparks going...
These day's everyone seems to be oblivious to everyone else and I struggle to even get girls to dance with me even without them thinking im hitting on them...
Even when I compliment girls it seems I am stepping over some politically correct boundary, and the assumption is I am hitting on them, they dont even give a chance...
Same with touching people what happened to a bit of physical contact during conversations.
Am I just too axious or is it just a sign of the times we live in?
I am only 21 but it seems like the 50,60,70s and 80s were about the dance floor being a social interaction ground...
Now even the style of dancing to house seems to be very solitude and its seems almost impossible to even dance with somebody. eg. compared to jazz, old school rock

Answer 1

I agree with everything you said about dancing being a personal thing. It very much is now. Not to mention the music is always too loud and it doesn't allow conversation. Dance floors are not in the slightest a social interaction ground anymore. In fact sometimes its down right rude. The whole idea of wingman...I've had guys trying to hit on a friend I was with and made it sound like they would bribe someone to dance with me. Now I am a very good dancer but had guys that apparently were not into me who tried very hard to make sure I never forgot that I wasn't their type--by looking around/ scoping the entire time and actually walking off before the song was over without a word. I was in a relationship and wasn't interested to begin with but no reason to be rude about it. Its 3-4 min of your life.

However you may be too anxious as well. I have a friend who--its just not natural with. The way he adds that personal touch is hard to explain. He is just creepy. It's partly the way he touches but it is also partly that it doesn't seem to fit in the conversation. Perhaps ask a close friend of yours of the opposite gender. They can help tell you if it is you or not.

As far as compliments--I know many many guys have warped ideas of what compliments are. I've been told I make their blood boil (btw, thats not a compliment), they couldn't help but interupt b/c my clevage was particularly becoming in this shirt (btw not a compliment) and that I shouldn't worry my pretty lil head about things like that--I was far too pretty to think about philosophy and religion (also not a compliment). Many guys seem to think telling a girl she has a nice @ss is a compliment (it isn't). Some just go over the top with obvious plagerism (your eyes are like the ocean, such depth I feel I'm drowning in your soul).

I don't know if you pay these kind of compliments or not--but a good sincere compliment does not overly reflect on one aspect of her body, nor does it trespass the grounds of how well you know her. She's not the most brilliant woman you've met after 5 minutes of conversation. It rarely calls her hot, and shouldn't poorly reflect on you. (You're too good to be seen with me). So ask around to see if partly your compliments are driving them away from you. I've been so offended by a "compliment" before that I refused to take his calls.

But partly you are right that dancing has changed so much from the jazz and old school rock to the current music. Now a dance is virtually sex in public--that it is a sensual act. And hard to have a dance with someone without hitting on them, if you are groping them. Not saying you do, but if all the other guys on the dancefloor are--the assumption would be that you intend to do the same. Now you don't want to even dance with a guy unless you could allow him to think he might go home with you that night.

It's quite sad actually--and why most people always complain that they can't find a decent woman/man today, when they only look in bars/clubs.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I have to agree with you on this one. PC and Etiquette are two totally separate issues and yet people tend to meld them together. The 50's-80's were simpler times. Relax and keep the complements coming it makes you a better person.