My dog of 10 years finally passed away, prior to that, my family and I had taken her to numerous vets, however none of them knew what was wrong with her. When we took her home, she sat idly and didn't move much at all and then a week later on a rainy night she passed away on the back porch, and I didn't find out till I got home from work early evening. The vets gave her a shot and I could swear she was fine, but anyhow to this day I still can't get over it.
So how does everyone cope with the loss of their pets? Please feel free to share as this is quite difficult for me to get by.
2007-05-19 01:24:56 · 14 answers · asked by Alisa 4 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I forgot to ask if there are any pet specialist that can assist with this matter as well, and thank you in advance for any advice/guidance.
2007-05-19 01:28:43 · update #1
Thank you everyone for their support and details, there are so many great answers I do not know which one to choose.
As for my dog, the family and I decided we will cremate her, and we decided to have her ashes in a urn that we can place inside the house. Again thank you everyone.
2007-05-20 15:10:08 · update #2
I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard to say goodbye to such good friends. I still morn the loss of a friend I lost over nine years ago. Since then, I have occupied my time by saving new lives from the shelters and giving them loving homes. I also decided to volunteer with a rescue group that saves lives every day. Even though you can never replace the pet you loved so much, others will tug at your heart and make you feel better. Just remember they are all waiting up there for you to join them again.
2007-05-19 01:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by anne b 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through this right now. My Sheltie Angel died last Friday. She was ill. It's the little things that used to annoy me that I'm finding I'm missing. Her barking at the phone ringing is the one that stands out. Since I don't have children, my dogs and cats are my "babies". I am now down to only one baby. It's just her and I now and my way of dealing with loss is to spend as much time with Tasha that I can. You see, Tasha is going through a much harder grieving. She's never been alone. When I got her, I had 3 cats ( Zip, Screech and Tribble) and Angel. It's a day to day process Tasha and I are working through so hopefully together we'll be alright.
So you hang in there, every day it'll get easier and soon the memories can come without many tears. As some others have said, loving a new pet can help but give yourself some time.
2007-05-19 01:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Tina L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
17 years is truely a long life for a cat and you should reflect back on when Claws was a kitten. From the limited information i have i can say that it lived a long fufilled life and that you did the right thing. It may hurt now but when the quality of life is low then its almost selfish to not do what you did because if the kidneys are failing then what could have happened would have made u feel even worse. i think you just need to remember all of the good times with your cat, and remember that you made that cat as happy as you made it, and someday you can use these experiences to give another needy kitten a great home. good luck
2016-05-17 09:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how people deal with this my cats were older and to tell you the truth they spent most of their time hiding from the dog but before we got them they were never real friendly. I was still sad when they had to be put down.
My dog is going in this week for x-rays to see what we can do for him but it is most likely a disease that will force me and my husband to decide when to put him down because he will will become paralyzed. I cried for days and still do sometimes when I watch him playing and he just falls down. I am not sure which is worse either having time to prepare or just having a few days or weeks. For now I plan to make the rest of his life as fun as I can I am not into prolonging his life or my own for that matter if he has to lay around and do nothing.
All this to say I pray for peace and wisdom to do the right things. I talk to Friends and family to talk through things.
If you need someone else to talk to any counselor or maybe minister will talk with you about it I am sure. Many people don't understand how much pets mean to others.
2007-05-19 02:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First let me say I am so sorry to hear of your loss. To tell you the truth, you think & think & think. Your dog will be on you mind continuously and heavy on your heart for quite awhile. When someone says to get another dog to heal, the one that has passed can not be replaced by another. I lost a Dobie boy ( Snoop) almost four years ago to cancer, had his mate & two of their litter mates here in my home at the time and believe me they did not ease the pain I felt from losing him. I still have the other three Dobies and I still miss Snoop something terrible. Right now Snoop's mate, Desire is ill and her days are limited and I know here in the very near future I will have to have her euthanized.As a matter of fact I just asked a question a few days ago on how to ease the pain of having a dog euthanized!! When Snoop passed I buried him in my backyard, has a headstone on the grave with a picture of a Dobie on it & his death date. Everytime I go out back I am reminded of all the love he shared with me. You may want to read this poem that I have had hanging on my refridgerator since his death http://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm
2007-05-19 05:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by ® 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The loss of a loved one is the same whether it be human or animal. It is still a loss, and grieving is natural. Don't be ashamed of your tears. You are not alone; it has taken years to get over some of my losses...alot of people get another animal to help with it. You cannot replace the one you lost but another one to love does seem to help. I know it hurts...I have Great Danes and they are called the "heartbreak breed" because their lives are so short...I get a marker and put it in the yard to remember them by. A donation in their name to an animal shelter is nice too. Hope this helps a little bit...my prayers are with you!
2007-05-19 01:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by cinders 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
:'( I'm sorry, my dog had the same thing happen around 2 yrs ago. Remember the good times with her, Keep a picture in your wallet, or if you have to, find a different dog or just keep one of his toys to remember him by. I know this is difficult and I'm sorry. and also, about the helping, there ARE pet therapists that can help.
2007-05-19 01:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Naruto_kun 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had my best friend for ten years, still have not got over losing him, but i have done several things that have helped some. 1. i adopted from the pound 2. i got his picture tattoo on my hip(he was one of a kind so it looks like no other dog) 3. after ten years of pound puppy's I'm getting a purebred this year for my birthday.
2007-05-20 18:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never really had a pet that I really cared about that had dies, but I have three dogs now and I think I would be heart-broken for a long time if anything would happen to them.
2007-05-19 12:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you had to go through this, and as others have said it's never easy when it comes to these matters, I hope you'll find new love to replace your lost one. keep smiling from the bottom of your heart and best wishes to you and everyone who has went through this.
2007-05-19 02:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋