I have been with this guy for a month and a half now, he lives in the US and me in Canada. We met up a few times and everything was going so well, he told me he loved me and wanted to be with me. Then two nights ago he went out to dinner with some female friends and didn't get in till like 6-7am. He had told me even before he went out that I had nothing to worry about and that he was all mine, so I trusted him.
Then yesterday I have tried calling him numerous times, and the first time he told me he was busy and would call back, and then every other time its gone to voicemail. So lets just say I am confused as to why he hasn't called me back, because I know by now he has gotten the voicemails, if he wanted to break up with me wouldn't he just call me and give me closure?
Any help would be appreciated
2007-05-19 00:16:48 · 13 answers · asked by Katia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wud say dont giv up...if u really love him then i und how worried u wud be...not necessary he isnt callin u cos he is cheatin or something....something mustve happened tht held him back...some emergency...it cud be nething...so hope n pray n keep tryin to contact him
God bless
2007-05-19 00:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by dreamgurl_01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him back let him call you. And when he does don't ask him where he has been or anything act as though everything is cool. Do a role reverse on him give him a taste of his on medicine. It's only been a month and a half into your relationship if he acting up now maybe it's a good thing. So that you don't have to face a huge heart break down the road. Also you both live in two opposite sides of the country THINK ABOUT IT!
2007-05-19 00:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might be playing hard to get, but with good reason, if you broke her heart. It takes time to get over that. Maybe she wants to be good and sure that you are serious this time. The only way to show her you are there for the long haul and can be trusted is to be patient. Don't interrogate her about her phone. Give her time and space to heal, just be cool and not pushy. All you can really do, if you want her back, is be nice and wait and see what happens. It's only been two weeks. Wait a few weeks and if nothing changes, tell her you need to know exactly where you stand with her. Maybe she will never really trust you again and it's over, and you will have to face that possibility if that's the case. She needs time to heal but she also should not expect to string you along forever.
2016-05-17 08:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen This guy sounds like he's playing around and you shouldn't be that serious either, you live in diff countries and it's only been a month and a half and I''m sorry to say I don't think hanging out with someone a few times makes you REALLY love them and want to be with them forever. It's enough time to become infatuated by someone which can feel like you love them but then a few days later it feels a lot better. Okay I used to be really flaky with people and i know it must have sucked and I feel bad but, I would be having fun with a guy or even a new friend and I usually didn't plan it but for some reason I just missed a call or didn't for some reason and then they'd call but I wouldnt' feel like calling back then if i hadn't called back for awhile it just felt too weird to return their calls or I didn't know how to tell them I didn't want to hang out with them anymore and let them figure it out. I know it was messed up, but people do it and I never meant to hurt anyone and I just didn't think it would be that big of a deal b/c when you realize it's pretty selfish you feel bad and nobody wants to feel bad about themselves. He sounds a little too suspicious. Hey listen though it sounds a little tough to be in a long distance exclusive rl with someone you don't know well. If you do talk again maybe you guys should consider an open relationship for right now or getting to know each other a little better and try dating later. on the other hand you shouldn't be waiting by the phone for him. You called your part is done! don't take that it's only been a month and a half and he's pulling this, imagine how he's gona get in the future. You need to be more independent you can't melt everytime a guy tells you he wants to be with you forever and he's never seen anyone so beautifull bllah blah. Don't be closed off to falling for a guy but you need to have your defenses up enough that you aren't going to feel crushed when a guy living in the US who you've only known a short while and hung out with a few times goes out with a bunch of girls and then never calls you back. If he REALLY loved you he wouldn't be able to do that to you. trust me besides blowing people off I'm not big on the phone anyway but I met my bf who i've been with for four yrs after a strand of really bad choices and guys who were so so. there were even a few I thought I had been in love with but now I know that I wasn't. I thought I was but they were just strong crushes. anyway I talk to my bf now a few times a day just to say hi and after four years and the friends I really love, I can't blow them off either. He's not worth it you haven't even spent a quarter of a % of your life with him and you were fine then and you will be fine now. call a friend and get out at least to get your mind elsewhere or talk it out if you need to. Good Luck, everything will work out, and listen you probably expect a certain amount of respect and consideration from a friend right? a bf should be the same way don't settle for less if they love you that should mean your impt enough to get to a phone. I know if my phone is running out of charge and I'm away I use the closest phone I can find to call and let him know I won't have a phone on me because I don't want him to worry or be wondering where I am when I know that he was expecting me to call.
2007-05-19 00:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may hurt but maybe he has decided to not date you anymore. And does not know how to tell you.
You might try leaving him a message to say if he did not want to date you any more he could at least tell you , so you could stop worring. Tell him you will let him leave you message so if he is too scared to talk to you he can just use your voice mail.
That or he really is busy and will call you back.
2007-05-19 00:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a rule of relationships: Love at distance, doesn't go the distance. You two are two far, plus the drama has already showed up. You don't need this kind of frustration and confusion. Just date a guy from your city. Why complicate something that's already complex: love.
2007-05-19 00:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's change his mind about his feelings for you. Stop calling him. If he calls, then maybe you still have something (although it doesn't sound like much). If he doesn't call, you have your answer.
2007-05-19 00:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only been a day, give him some time
if you want to trust him, trust him
if u want to be quick and breakup with him, make a fool of urself
2007-05-19 00:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dancychikchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try emailing him, you might get him that way, and you have a right to be worried.
Good luck
2007-05-19 00:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by lysette.oxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not call him again. Let him wonder what happened to you.
2007-05-19 00:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋