I put a question on here yesterday about my ex. She ended things 3 mths ago, I was gutted at the time, I am over it now.
When things ended she wanted to "stay friends". I think she may have been feeling guilty and wanted to make herself feel better.
She did have some problems. I felt bad about cutting her loose totally so I rang her to meet up as friends. She refused saying it "wouldn't be fair on the person I am seeing".
I am seeing someone new, she knows about my ex & understands that I still need to be there for her as a friend. Why would meeting be a problem for my ex?
I am thinking about writing to her and being very blunt i.e. You wanted to be friends etc, either you meant that or you didn't. It is clear you are still confused about the way you see me, what exactly do you want from me?? Something along those lines.
Any thoughts?
2007-05-19 00:03:55 · 15 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
chill out baby and forget about her
2007-05-19 00:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sean JTR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the one that ended things, you should let go and enjoy the person you are with now, it sounds like at the time she wanted to keep you close as a friend in case she wanted to get back with you but now she sees you have moved on to someone else and that option is no longer available, just get on with your life. If she wanted you as a friend she should have never ended things and left them the way they were.
2007-05-19 07:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by diamond694ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats a very good idea. Maybe she does still have feelings for you and doesn't want to meet up in case she does something she regrets. Either way, you sound like a nice person who wants to be there for her if she needs you and its not fair to you if she's leading you on. So yeah,writing to her would be a good idea I think,then she'd know exactly how you felt about it.
2007-05-19 09:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bridgeridoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi are you appy with your new partner, think about it why are you wanting your ex to be your friend ,you cant make someone your friend, give it time if she wants to talk then she will contact you, enjoy you and your new partner getting to know each other , or are you still wanting your ex , be honest with yourself and new partner before you end up hurting someone
2007-05-19 07:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by trishie23@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just get on with your new relationship and try to put the other one in the past. There's no point in trying to be friends.
2007-05-19 07:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,just leave it,writing letter like that seems abit bunny in pot x
2007-05-19 07:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by scattydiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would stay away from my x.You have moved on & in a relationship why jeopardise it.
2007-05-19 07:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, and let her move on too. You both have someone new why dwell on the past.
2007-05-19 07:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will never give you a straight answer. You just have to read her actions.
2007-05-19 07:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Wretched Bonsai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it will just cause more problems for you. Just concentrate on your new relationship
2007-05-19 07:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋