are you all happy how things are going on in married life
Due to frequent visits to her mom's place i somehow is not able to develop dat level of attachment which shd hv been dere afeter a year of marriage .Every weekend i do login on messenger to chat wid gals and also look forward to develop friendly relations wid female colelagues
Does dat tantamount to mild cheating or am i stepping toward being unfaithful ..What are ur view L & G
2007-05-18 21:16:50 · 22 answers · asked by funky_dude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just talking is not cheating but when you start talking about sex and in sexual ways that is cheating. ANd yea it is a step to being unfaithful.
2007-05-18 21:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by themom95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are chatting sexually, you are definetly cheating. If you type like that, it is unlikely that a girl on the internet is going to fall for you unless she is a teenager. Beyond that, it seems you are on your way to cheating. Try to find time for your wife. If she is at her moms, get her a computer there and then she can become your messenger fascination. Find what brought you together in the first place, and focus on that. There must be some level of attatchment if you married her.
2007-05-18 21:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mr & Mrs G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not suppose to put yourself in a situation where you could possible cheat. It looks to me like you are looking for it. It is always okay to have a gal pal, but that is all that she should be a gal pal, not a confiedant or a weekend friend. If you have a gal pal at work, you must keep it at work, and as for the internet, why do you need a relationship on the internet, why dont you spend that time with your wife???
2007-05-18 21:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by src8784 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married life is not supposed to be a happy experience.
It's a continuous learning process and being happy is just one of those benefits which you can reap if you work hard for it.
It seems that you are only trying, but not trying your best. I bet you that you have taken the time to give lots of advises to other people but are not willing to invest time & effort to succeed in your marriage.
Better stop those on-line chats now before your marriage fail.
2007-05-18 21:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much sleep have you been getting??? How much sex with your mother-in-law hanging around? Try a new rule: mother only comes over once a month.
Anyway, I don't see instant messaging with some nut cases the same as cheates.
NOTE: I am presuming those girls area PAID to keep you on the line. They will DO anything - they will SAY anything - to keep you on the line. So just realize you are having a very, very expensive online date. With no socially-transmitted deseases.
2007-05-18 21:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with someone is not cheating...if you are being friends with someone you have thought about cheating with then you are on your way - you know the level you have went in your chats and if you continue "playing unfaithful" then eventually you will cause more problems. Quit it and you'll focus more on your wife or you're playing with fire...but maybe you like it that way...do you want to chat a while sweetie? (See! Got ya goin! You ARE naughty!)
2007-05-18 21:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mamma Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are setting yourself up for temptation for something to happen. It is cheating if you would not chat with these women in front of her and she has a problem with it. I think this is what is called emotional cheating . Best wishes sweetie.
2007-05-18 21:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont dont you start over, and this time try to spell a word or two?......cheating....i have female friends i talk to, they i consider friends, i openly invite them over my girl friend hasn't a problem with this for she trusts me, she is there to,but point is if your doing something you have to ask if its cheating chances are you are for the simple reason your hiding something, if your married an your wife/hubby right there, an aware of your friendship then fine but if you actively seek other women to talk to, well seems like your trying to put a haram together
2007-05-18 21:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? If so, then you are playing with fire. You may not want to cheat but you are doing a good job of setting yourself, your marriage for problems. Unless your wife is ok with this, and I am sure she is not, then it aint cool.
We are humans and as humans, married or not, you grow onto others. so if you chat with these chicks you may want to see them then screw them then......it is called prevention....dont do it.
2007-05-18 21:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're asking for trouble. if your a married man than you shouldnt be looking for other females to "chat with". you are opening the door to get yourself get kicked out of. I think thats unfaithful period.
2007-05-18 21:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋