Does it make me look desperate.
like his weekend plans got cancelled and he is just using me as last resort.
we have been seeing each other on and off for 5 months.
2007-05-18 19:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
The Dating For Dummies book says that by rule of thumb, date invitations should be asked at least 48 hours prior to the time of the date.
But hey, its your call. Surely sounds like you're the last resort. But.. it could be fun. Are you willing to trade that up for pride?
2007-05-18 19:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... a.) how much do you like him?, b.) how established of a relationship do you have?, and c.) do you have anything better planned for saturday?
evidently you don't have a 'serious' relationship, otherwise you wouldn't have been seeing each other 'on and off' for five months, but you two do apparently know each other well enough to hang out together. i guess the thing you would have to ask yourself here is what kind of expectations of the date do you have versus what expectations is he likely to possess? if this is supposed to be a serious romantic date, yeah, homeboy asked a little late in the game, however, if you're just going to hang out and have fun, well... *shrug* people call their friends all the time to ask things like that right before the scheduled time, as it were. so i would sit down, ask yourself what kind of 'date' you are both expecting, and base your answer on that - if it's the romantic candle light dinner, flowers and wine situation? he should have let you know sooner. if you're going down to the bar for a few hands of darts and a couple beers? who cares - at least you have something to do this weekend, right?
2007-05-18 20:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by d. evil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
you've had lots of advice (from people who don't know this guy or the circumstances) and, obviously, it is up to you to take the advice or not...but think about it...you've been seeing this guy 'on and off' for several months, yet before you can make up your mind about whether or not to accept an invitation to a date, you feel you need to ask the advice of other anonymous people?
Come on...If the guy telephoned you at 11p.m. could it be that he'd been trying to get you all night, or even for longer and YOU were out?
I don't know the guy and you do...do you like him? Did you enjoy previous dates? Has he asked yu at the last minute before? Did you go? Did you enjoy the experience?
The answers to any of these questions could explain the reason he called late and could answer your question for you.
Why were you unable to answer him when he asked?
What did you say to him? Were you non-commital? Is this the reason he asks late? Possibly you need a week's notice in writing before any question is answered?
If you like him, why not, but I think you need to address your own lack of decision before you address any possible problems with this guy. Surely you should be able to say 'yes' or 'no' when I guy asks you for a date without needing to ask the advice of us faceless 'answerers'?
Perhaps he had to do the same, before asking you out? and that is why the date was so close to the asking?
Whatever you decide cannot be answered by us strangers...you either like him enough, or you don't! After five months you should know.
Good luck on the date (or watching T.V. on your own)
BobSpain
2007-05-18 20:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by BobSpain 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO.
First of all, for him to ASK you at 11 PM on a Friday night means he though you were doing nothing on a Friday night. The fact he asked your for Saturday means he thinks you are not doing anything on Saturday night either. It was rude.
If you accept, you reinforce his behavior and he will do it again in the future. Besides, are you going to wait around for his calls every weekend? If you accept, you are setting yourself up to do just that. If he wants to date you, insist he call earlier in the week. (I think two days in advance is OK for a movie and dinner, a week in advance for a sporting event and a month in advance for a play, opera, or live concert. )
Tell him sorry, but you already made plans. You do not need to tell him the plans. (Just make sure if he calls on Saturday night, you do NOT answer the phone.)
2007-05-18 20:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!! he probably has a bet going on with some of his friends telling them that you are waiting at home for his calls
if you go out with him he wins the bet that will make you look like a STUPID FOOL get on with your life he may have had plans to go out with another girl that date was probably canceled and chose you as a last resort
2007-05-18 19:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your personal choice as to whether or not you want to; however, have to agree with you that it sounds like his plans got cancelled and he called to you to "fill in". It depends on whether or not he is just your "fill in" or you actually want more than an on and off casual dating relationship. If you want a relationship, don't settle for being a "fill in".
2007-05-18 19:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes him look despreate. He finally got around to call you. Wow how lucky you must feel ! I hope you gain some self respect the day after you throw yourself at him.
2007-05-18 19:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by caciansf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably drunk so go! true feelings come out when you are drunk! you will have a good time that is all that matters! if you had anything else to do you would not be asking!
2007-05-18 19:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by toddone03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you to me, or anyother strager?
2007-05-18 19:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by Brent T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't......he should have called thursday.....
2007-05-18 19:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by nemofish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋