Has your husband ever called you a *****, whore, or hoe? If so, did you forgive him or leave him? What if he does it repeatedly? Is there ever a scenario by which that alone would be cause for a divorce? Is it really that big of a deal or should it just be written off as words said in anger that don't mean much?
2007-05-18 18:46:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anne W 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Thanks to all who participated. I have a friend who is really having this problem and I was curious to see if my advice to her was in line with what most people thought. Thanks again!
2007-05-19 01:37:40 · update #1
Well yeah, but more like "you're acting like a b---... " or "don't be such a b---..." Never whore, though. And I readily confess I've called him an a--hole more than once in our marriage. In the context of fighting, I think even reasonably self-controlled people resort to name calling at times, which may not be the best thing, but I don't see it as a big deal in our case. More important would be, how often am I running into impasses with my spouse that lead to these kinds of conflicts? Do we ever resolve them or just let them fester?
In a marriage where these words are the common form of address that would show a chronic lack of respect and that would be a whole different problem, and possible grounds for separation.
2007-05-18 18:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
He said I was being b*tchy once and I hit the roof. We have an understanding not to call each other names. I do on occasion use little ones like Jerk. But, usually I'm joking or I say something nice with it.
Sounds like a guy who does this is an abuser. So watch out. They only get worse. No, I don't think this is a small issue. If someone doesn't respect you than what do you have? There have to be rules and lines that cannot be crossed in a relationship. Find someone that shows you the respect you deserve. You sound too intelligent and kind for this bs.
2007-05-18 18:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband calls me a b**** all the time but I call him an a**hole all the time. For us it is a term of affection. Now about being called a hoe or a whore, He called me a hoe once when he was REALLY drunk and I did forgive him but not before I made him miserable for the next 2 days and he has never called me it since.
2007-05-18 18:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by kittysoma27 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AM a ***** at times and when my significant other points that out--it can be,a touchstone for me to re-evalute
my attitude, actions or whatever is going on in my life.Other times it is just adds fuel to the fire of any disagreement we are currently having but would not be something I would leave over!
I would never tolerate the other two words as well as the 'c' word! My sig other knows this! To me, these words would be a big deal! They show contempt and disrespect and I would leave over them!
2007-05-18 18:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question. Most women who really have a man that loves them don't understand that men are a lot like children. They need us and just want to be understood. A man can call his woman a b**** and that doesn't always mean he is being mean. I have spoken with men and they actually told me they have tempertantrums when they are not being understood. Yes.....tempertantrums. In some cases it is abuse, but most of the time your man just wants to be understood. And instead of saying, can I have a hug? or instead of asking for what he wants he expects you to understand what he wants and when you don't he expresses it as a tempertantrum, not a temper. Lol! Hope this helps you. It helped me when I found this out. As women, we naturally overlook things anyway. Your heart won't fail you.
2007-05-18 18:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I called her a *****. She deserved it. I told her I wanted a stay-home mother. After I let her get a bachelor's degree in nursing, she tried to take my kids, my hard-earned cash, and take them all to the Philippines by surprise with a divorce. Her attempts at Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) got her just the girl she had with her FISRT husband she apparently treated the same way (whom I adopted) to hate all adult men.
She got all the kids at first but couldn't leave her state. Now I'm on my feet financially again. I live two miles away. I won't let her raise the kids all screwed up like her and her 12-sibling destitute "family" either.
2007-05-18 18:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband has called me all of those things before. The ***** part doesn't really bug me that much. I know at times I can be a *****. It's the whore or ho ones that I don't like. I know I'm not one and so does he so why even say it. He's just trying to hurt me but it doesn't because I know that they are not true.
2007-05-18 18:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Unknown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no....No that is not forgivable...I am not married but i had a bf who called me that and i left him there and then..he begged for forgiveness but hell no. If you give him face, he will just do it again. Unless its in a joking manner then i'm ok with that, but out of anger only means that he sees you as one. and that is not right.
2007-05-18 18:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Eury Peima 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband did it once. I told him if he ever did it again, I was gone, it was the most disrespectful thing he could have said to me. It has been 8 years since, and he only says nice things now... lol
2007-05-18 18:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
many, many times
I was also promoted to f....g *****
he is my ex now. The sad part is that he calls our gorgeous 14 yo daughter a ***** as well & later denies it in court
2007-05-18 18:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋