Or, would you rather not live at all if you were in this situation?
2007-05-18 16:17:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well I would not consider myself to be universally attractive, but I know that some people find me to be attractive. I believe that beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder regardless of how cheesy this may sound it is in fact true!!
Someone may find me to be ugly, others may find me to be attractive and again others may think I am really something special!! lol I personally dislike the way that I look for many reasons, but everyone who knows me as a person, thinks that I am an attractive person, because being attractive is about something that comes from within and affects your overall ora!! It is all personal opinion/how others perceive beauty to be!! There will be someone who thinks you are very attractive regardless of what your inner insecurities are telling you to believe.
Joel, I think from looking at your questions on here that perhaps you are suffering from Body Dysmorphic Disorder or something very similar to this, which can actually cause depression and vice versa! I could be wrong here but you seem to me to have very negative thoughts on your appearance and I believe you need to go and talk to your doctor or a psychologist about this, especially because you are talking about not wanting to live because of your feelings towards how you look!
Life is more than what you think right now, you are lonely I know but everything that you are feeling is a combination of depression and perhaps other deep rooted issues that you need to address to be able to move on and live a healthier life, both mentally/emotionally and physically.
I have included a link for more information on BDD as I believe this to be relevant for you! It can be treated/controlled etc with medication as it is closely linked to compulsive behavioural disorders, but also I think you would benefit from Cognitive behavioural therapy, because this teaches us to think more positively about ourselves and the way we think in general! (I have included a link on CBT also) Please talk to someone who is a professional on these conditions Joel, because we all matter in life no matter what we look like, our soul is the most important aspect of our existence I believe and the soul has nothing to do with looks! Take care Joel and I really hope that you get some good help! x
2007-05-25 22:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by littlebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you walk into a room of strangers everyone forms an opinion of you from the way you look within the first few seconds of seeing you. It may not be fair but it's true, we all do this. But haven't you ever met someone you thought was incredibly ugly and then wham! As soon as they started talking to you, your opinion of how they look changed? This happens to me alot. They way you come across to people in your attitude speaks volumes about who you are and also changes peoples perceptions of how they think you look. If you are speaking about yourself, try to focus more on how you are coming across to others. If you are asking because you think physically unattractive people have no reason to live that is incredibly shallow. Truly, beauty is only skin deep.
2007-05-19 03:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by jones 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unattractiveness cannot be the main reason for you not to live.. you may be unattractive to others but be equally attractive to some. It's only a preference... So better live!
2007-05-26 02:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by vilz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people tell me that I am attractive. I choose not to believe it because I don't feel that I am. I want to be thought of as a nice person, and mostly people wont accept you if you are attractive... they want a dig at you instead. Not what my looks could do for me. No if I were not attractive I would still want my life. My Mother would never forgive me if it ended because of such a shallow reason after giving birth to me. I am not rich, in fact very poor in money. But my heart tells me that I have a lot to give. So have most people.
2007-05-26 23:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Chrisey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes just look at my picture, yet I continue to live. Attractive or unattractive are just judgments we place on ourselves and not how others see us. I would say that perhaps you have a problem with self acceptance my friend.
2007-05-18 23:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
joel, sweeite, i have answered one of your other questions.... You are not unattractive. I dont care what you look like. You seem like a kindhearted young man who is a bit lost. What is it that you do in life? You must have interactions with people to some extent. Why dont you see a doctor, you seem depressed, and you may need help. i know i did. I got put on paxil to make me adjusted. You may need something like that. PLEASE see a doctor, i feel very strongly about this.
2007-05-24 14:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course i would live if i were unattractive but i would just spend time in front of the computer ordering pizza
2007-05-26 18:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would I want to live if I were unattractive?
Heavens no! Just glance at my avatar.
2007-05-18 23:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Barrett 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very unattractive and yet I still desire to live
2007-05-24 23:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by TAT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would want to live. We have to do the best with whatever we got! bettyk
2007-05-26 16:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by elisayn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋