I have a hard time committing?

Question

I can't commit to anything...I mean, I can't commit to a goal or anything..I start out okay then I gradually lose interest..then I stop committing..because it seems like there are so many obstacles..For example, I want to become a doctor...I know I can commit if I want to..but I'm afraid that I might not commit totally...deep in my heart, I know I want to become a doctor one day...

How do you commit? Like follow my goal no matter what will happen?

Answer 1

Commitment for me is to give myself over for a good reason. Check your reasons to be a doctor. people who find joy in commitment do what they do for the sake of others, for a plan greater than themselves.
Gather yourself around people who live commitment, you will be amaized at the way they live a life full of desire to live doing what they do.

Answer 2

Then don't.

I "can't" is often I "won't". Forcing yourself to commit is pretty pointless.

As too obstacles, anything that is that much of a struggle is very likely not go to be worth the time and energy expended in the end. It's like an emo friend who eventually makes the friendship so challenging that you just walk away.

Answer 3

There are at least two sides to a committal, one is you the other is the purpose. You have self doubt or you are loveless or both. In this context 'loveless' means there is too much negative in the demands made on you for public certification, so much that it makes you wonder if there is something else more suited to your self confidence. Your quality of spirit and contents in your intellect and their relation is determinant and active as you, your total self reality. You can not be certain as a doctor until you are certain as a human. The debt load is not so inspiring either.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

Stage One Oral-Sensory: from birth to one, trust vs. mistrust, feeding;
Stage Two Muscular-Anal: 1-3 years, autonomy vs. doubt, toilet training;
Stage Three Locomotor: 3-6 years, initiative vs. inadequacy, independence;
Stage Four Latency: 6-12 years, industry vs. inferiority, school;
Stage Five Adolescence: 12-18 years, identity vs. confusion, peer relationships;
Stage Six Young Adulthood: 18-40 years, intimacy vs. isolation, love relationships;
Stage Seven Middle Adulthood: 40-65 years, generativity vs. stagnation, parenting;
Stage Eight Maturity: 65 years until death, integrity vs. despair, acceptance of one's life.


http://chiron.valdosta.edu/whuitt/col/cogsys/piaget.html

Stages of Cognitive Development. Piaget identified four stages in cognitive development:

Sensorimotor stage (Infancy). In this period (which has 6 stages), intelligence is demonstrated through motor activity without the use of symbols. Knowledge of the world is limited (but developing) because its based on physical interactions / experiences. Children acquire object permanence at about 7 months of age (memory). Physical development (mobility) allows the child to begin developing new intellectual abilities. Some symbollic (language) abilities are developed at the end of this stage.
Pre-operational stage (Toddler and Early Childhood). In this period (which has two substages), intelligence is demonstrated through the use of symbols, language use matures, and memory and imagination are developed, but thinking is done in a nonlogical, nonreversable manner. Egocentric thinking predominates
Concrete operational stage (Elementary and early adolescence). In this stage (characterized by 7 types of conservation: number, length, liquid, mass, weight, area, volume), intelligence is demonstrated through logical and systematic manipulation of symbols related to concrete objects. Operational thinking develops (mental actions that are reversible). Egocentric thought diminishes.
Formal operational stage (Adolescence and adulthood). In this stage, intelligence is demonstrated through the logical use of symbols related to abstract concepts. Early in the period there is a return to egocentric thought. Only 35% of high school graduates in industrialized countries obtain formal operations; many people do not think formally during adulthood.

Answer 4

Committment is a decision you make every day. Not just once. There is no easy way around it.

Answer 5

never commit
just live!

and if you commit,
commit to the very end!

Answer 6

Sounds like you do not have a discipline. Remember whatever you decide, you are doing for yourself, its your fight~! No one is going to do it for you. Now ask yourself again, do you want it? or not..........

Answer 7

you have to leave all reservations aside for true committment.