My husben dont like it when I know his passwords when it come to the computer I have found them out before and as soon as he knows they are changed. He even got made when I asked for the one for are on line banking. I know that he some times looks at porn and he know that i hate it. I feel that it is just like cheating. Well what ae your thoughts and what should I do.
2007-05-18 15:13:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie you've got to learn to trust him and love him despite his dirt... otherwise you are like a noose around his neck. He's not you're little boy. He has shortcomings. Pray for him, don't try to get control by following behind him and henpecking him. Porn is awful, but I disagree that it is "just like cheating." There are some anti-porn websites that can help you and maybe give you some dialogue that you can use to help communicate your concern to him. Trust is given, not earned. Godspeed.
2007-05-18 15:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the computer, e-mail accounts, etc., are something as personal as a toothbrush. I wouldn't like anyone (nos even a husband) to go getting into my accounts, using my logins and passwords and invade my privacy... because everybody, married o not, is allowed his privacy, right? If you have to "find them out" it means that he doesn't want you to in there. I think it is his right.
As for the bank account, if it is a joint account then you should share the password so both of you have access to your money information; btw, I suggest that you open an account of your own and keep it to your self.
2007-05-18 22:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by melissa986 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should tell him you are my husband you and i are married there is no secrets you know i don't like you looking at porn especially in the family computer so there is no reason why you should do it or put passwords on everything. I know all my husbands passwords he lets me know as soon as he opens an account i don't go on them because i think he has nothing to hide i respect that but the day that i need something or i want to see something i can go right ahead he can do the same with my accounts its nice to know that in your relationship there is no restrictions.
2007-05-18 22:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by cutebunny1122 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why do women pry into men's stuff???
The bank account you should have access to. But his other web sites...leave the man alone.
All men like to ogle dirty pictures. At least he isn't buying sex, he's just enjoying it lasciviously through a porn site.
And stop prying into his stuff. I know you have things you don't want him to know about. Like how much you spend when you go shopping and the stuff you buy that you hide when you get home???
2007-05-18 22:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
1st PORN is not cheating stop being so insecure really it shows your lack of self worth to be jealouse of a nude women on t.v/p.c. . 2ed everyone deserves a right to privacy. I've NEVER had any password of my husbands never ask my husband for one he has no passwords of mine and has never ask. If i did not trust him i sure would not nag him for passwords i'ld LEAVE.
2007-05-18 22:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There should NOT be any secrets. There is no such thing as PRIVATE passwords in marriage.
Your hubby is hiding something.
2007-05-18 23:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start seperating things like bank accounts and stuff. Maybe he will quite when hes low on funds.
2007-05-18 22:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, looking at porn IS CHEATING. if he needs that, then theres something wrong with him!!! one thing leads to another, what will he do when the porn is no longer good for him? take it from someone who knows, thats just the first step on a dead end road!
2007-05-18 22:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by April C 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Password is private information. Same reason you shouldn't open your spouse's mail unless it is for common accounts or addressed to both of you.
2007-05-18 22:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Goodness women.
Looking at porn is NOT cheating...unless he'd rather look at that than be with you.
2007-05-18 22:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋