he hugs me like we were a perfect family but when we have $0 money in the bank he doesn't talk to me at all. please help!
2007-05-18 15:00:38 · 12 answers · asked by Latinchik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yup you guys are right! I'm the one that been spending but this time the proplem was because of him because he bought something that he wasn't supposed to, so i don't think that he needs to be mad at me....
2007-05-18 15:09:37 · update #1
well b-4 I used to make more money then him but a few weeks ago he found a better job so now he makes more money than me.
2007-05-18 15:11:48 · update #2
is that I gave myself a due date to finish decorating my apt. my family are coming over for the first time so I wanted to buy everything that i needed for my new apt. its crazy but true. i have a problem but i don't know what to do...
2007-05-18 15:14:13 · update #3
you guys need to a work out a budget together and each stick to it. There are three basic buckets:
Living Expenses
Fun money (you each get some, and it isnt the others business how you spend your own)
Savings
2007-05-18 15:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are often ruled by things like good job, money, feeling like a good provider. It's superficial, yes, but common. Try talking with him about it in a non-threatening way based upon how the situation makes you feel, not what you see him doing TO you, and if he denies it or gets defensive, you do not have a very self-aware spouse, I'm afraid. If he sabotages your finances so he can be miserable and treat you badly, then you have real trouble and should take steps to get out of the marriage.
2007-05-18 22:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by bklynshanti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still considers himself the "breadwinner" of the family. And when there is no money in the bank he probably worries about HOW the bills are going to be paid DUH. If you're spending more money than what is coming in then yes you do have a problem, it's an addiction and you need to seek therapy for it.
2007-05-18 22:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need a 2nd job, so yall can make lots of money, spend less time together and live happily ever after.
2007-05-18 22:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by MsAdviseALot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the scum sucking, lazy coward! If his only belief is taking someone Else's money that is just a disaster looking for a place to happen. Do yourself a favor and kick his lazy rear end out to the streets where it belongs.
2007-05-18 22:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you keep a few bucks in the bank.
He should love you no matter what, and I am sure he does. Just because he doesn't show love doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He is probably just upset that you have been irresponsible with the money or is stressed about your financial situation.
2007-05-18 22:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a divorce. If the only time he's happy is when you have money then he doesn't truly love you, and you deserve the very best! (I hate to be blunt, but it's true.)
Best of luck and much love~!
2007-05-18 22:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by Nobdi'sBabiGurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, that sucks. Do you make all the money? If so, maybe you should find a new husband who makes as much as you or more.
2007-05-18 22:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be mad at you if he was the one spending, but if you spent it and flushed out your account, then yeah, he has every right to be frustrated with you.
control your urges? And tell him to do so too.
2007-05-18 22:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by w00t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very evasive. Not clear who is making and who is spending money.
Are you spending money out of control?
2007-05-18 22:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋