kids live around my house. I talk to them, theres another thats friends with one, and I that he hates his parents. His parents are real mean, like today it was his birthday, I heard that for a gift, only thing he got, other than his favorite dinner (he turned 14) is he ca stay out onltil 10 tonight, not 8. Only gift he got. Yesterday I saw him crying, I was told that his father told him "fuc k your birthday, fuc k your life" I guess hes stoped o do somthing on thursdays and his father thought he was slakin off becasue his birthday was today. He also once said his dad hits him, and like forces him to do things, not bad, just if he doesnt do it, he gets hit, (his fathers a big guy, not like fat, but 6'4" and like 280 pounds.
I feel bad for him. I am only 20, and I dont want to always remeber him and geting such badness at him house, FROM his parents, what can I do?
2007-05-18 14:56:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is child abuse. They are being verbally abusive. And who in their right mind lets a 14 yr old out until 10'oclock????
You can annonymously call this number:1-800-4-A-CHILD
24/7
Nobody should treat their kids this way.
2007-05-18 15:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you suspct that the child is being verbally and physically abused notify the local authorities and tell them you only have his hearsay and no real evidence of such and theyll take it from there. Then watch the kids for the next few weeks because if they cant find anything usually the parents start due to the childs allegations to someone to have them investigated. Not always easy getting involved nowadays, but still ha to be done.
2007-05-18 23:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see abuse happening, call the police immediately and report it. You can ask to stay anonymous when you call. And make sure you document what you can, things you see or things you hear, especially things the kid tells you although some of that could be exaggerated, it's good to have it on file in case it's needed later.
When you see the kid, be sure and listen to him because he needs a friend to talk to and be sure and praise him when you can because he needs to hear good things about himself and know he is worth something. Encourage him to better himself and to try to go to college and to try not to listen to negativity from others. Hopefully he won't do this when he has children. And go buy him some small gift as belated birthday gift.
I admire you for wanting to try and help the kid. Talk with an officer and get some advice on what you can and cannot legally do to try and help the kid. God bless you. Keeping all of you in prayer.
2007-05-18 22:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is abuse going on..more emotional than anything i would report it, it would be anonymous and you would be helping the kid...its a shame most people will see something like this and not take initiative because of fear but what if something worse happens to that boy and you didnt do anything about it...you could call social services or even the police and tell them what you have seen and heard...it will definately put his parents on guard and hopefully they can change their ways..i would report it just so you can help him..and maybe you should mentor or be a big brother/sister to him...it would definately build his esteem up...let me know what you decide to do..
remember abuse is not just physical..its verbal, emotional sexual anything that can harm a childs well being..if you feel its not right which you have stated then call someone...
2007-05-18 22:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lotta issues here. first...you don't actually know the kid's story is completely correct...it might be....maybe even it probably is...but kids lie as much as the next person. Secondly....I got hit by my parents and its not the end of the world for a smack...I also was forced to do chores and work and things like that....I'm not defending his parents, I'm just not sure it's actually CHILD ABUSE...to be literal.
Best things you can do.....apparently he needs someone to listen to him right now, which you are. so I'd ask him "don't you have like an aunt or grandparent you can talk to about this so they can talk to your parents?"...because that would be the easiest way if he felt he could trust one of them.
If in listening to him (I wouldn't wait too long on this...) you feel he might have a case...I'd make an anonymous call to Child Welfare, Social Services in your county so they will investigate. And then see if they do... if nothing else...it might make the parents think twice if they get a visit and think they are being watched.
2007-05-18 22:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by lotsaanswers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Certainly doesn't sound like a good situation. You could and probably should report this. Verbal abuse is bad enough but you're also talking physical and emotional abuse.
At the very least someone should be looking into this family's interactions.
Good luck
2007-05-18 23:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by rahtenrobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a compelling story. I hate hearing about kids living in those environments. You could report his father, but be careful because his father might blame his son for the authorities to start intervening. It's great that you're making yourself available for the boy to talk to. Acting as an informal big brother might in itself be something rewarding to the boy.
2007-05-18 22:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by ezpaced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds like verbal as well as physical abuse from the birthday quote and the boy saying his dad hits him. Forcing a child to do something is typically not abuse, its parenting...but it depends what it is.
Call social services and hot line it, you can remain anonymous.
2007-05-18 22:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do something. It feels bad to see someone else getting hurt. This does sound like a bad home in need of some help. Is there someone you trust that you can talk to about this? A councellor or something at school? If you dont go to school anymore, you can ALWAYS talk to your doctor, just to get their advice..
2007-05-18 22:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by senacia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, report it immediately. If you stand with this boy through this, you can really help him and show him that not everyone is evil, his mind is being really traumatized by his parents. If he testifies and you encourage him, you can get him out of that house.... However, you will have to make a sacrfice. You will have some very bitter neighbors afterward and you will probably have to move. But please do report it, what is moving to the life of a kid?
2007-05-18 22:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋