I fully admit I was very idealistic and partly niave when I got married 13 years ago. We have grown over the years and have gotten closer in a lot of ways not just "that way".
In 2001-2004 was the toughest time in our marriage I was dissastified with always having to work hard at that time I made more of the money we went through finaicial probelms.
I made a HUGE mistake e-mailing my husbands mom on how he was always being demanding and always wanting *ex and I was mad that marraige was not the party I expected and many times I was mean to my husband in front of others and in private.
What are godly speical ways to aplogize to my husband and NEVER make those awful choices again?
When you got mad at your spouse what were constrictive mature ways to handle the upsetment you felt ? How gave you come to a place of maturity and grace in your marraige?
2007-05-18 14:44:24 · 9 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have only been married 2 years but I know the match was made in heaven so I try to always do the will of God towards my husband. I live by Colossians 3:23. That really helps me be consistent with him. I know I am his gift and he is my gift from God, I received a LOT of confirmation to that during our engagement.
So even when I cannot stand him, encourager4God, I always try to remember that God is the One who has given him to me and so I honor GOD when I treat him well. I know HE sees all and KNOWS all, and I want to please GOD desperately. It makes it easier doing it with no ego.
But ... how to apologize to him... be very affectionate. Realize he wants you because you are his wife. HE LOVES YOU! Read the Song of Solomon to one another. Be sweet to him. He will really appreciate it. And be sure to take a moment and say the words to him, similar to the way you have here. It will make him so glad to hear it.
The Holy Ghost has convicted you and in His grace, He will now comfort and reassure and guide you.
Blessings, Sister!
2007-05-18 15:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm not married yet, I am studying to be a pastor and this is one of the things I'll have to be counseling.....And I just read today about a pastor that had done some things wrong and he wanted to apologize. He got the men in the church together, and admitted his mistake and washed each man's feet and asked for forgiveness. In the process he realized that God had changed his heart and had given him a whole new love for these people. My advice, would be the same....humble yourself before your husband (if need be wash his feet) and admit you were wrong and ask for forgiveness. It will make your marriage stronger and strengthen it in ways you can't even imagine.
Don't dwell in the "if only's" of the past....Live in the Next time... of the future.
2007-05-18 16:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jan P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, excellent question. I agree with the above respondent--pray with your spouse, and apologize deeply for what you have done. Tell him you realize that you weren't living correctly in the ways that you should, and ask for his forgiveness. I would even go so far as to e-mail his mother and tell her about the new perspective you have and how you are sorry that you upset her like that. I commend you for growing and setting a good example. You can always change for the better with God's grace.
2007-05-18 14:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have substance is an important part of maturity. And integrity is higher level yet. What you did lacked both substance and integrity. You blame and demean others for your unhappiness. People who do this in the workplace never go very far up the ladder. We always try to have win-win and avoid lose-lose. Next time you pick on others, look inside yourself first.
Integrity is self, respect is earned.
2007-05-18 14:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the key word here is respect you should show treat him the way you want him to treat you. The way i deal with it i tell him in private let him know what bothers me make sure you dont let other people know about your problems thats what i do.
2007-05-18 14:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by cutebunny1122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a great question, am so feeling like that right NOW!that 2001-2004 thing, am going through it.
looking out for answers too!!!
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2007-05-18 14:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by reene2g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By communicating And correcting your mistakes .You
mature in life and marriage by working together at it..
And do not dwell in the past move on..
2007-05-18 14:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by tiffanny_young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gary Smalley has some books on how to treat hubby.
2007-05-18 16:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Godly means praying with eachother about it. Pray to give him grace and he will give it to you.
2007-05-18 14:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋