What to do about being so lonely.?

Question

I am so loney that I feel lost. I have went to the doctor and it's not depression. I am married and my husband has no interest in me. I have tried everything that I have read might help, and nothing works to get his interest. I have tried joining clubs and church activities, and nothing fills the void inside of me. Does anyone have any suggestions ?

Answer 1

If you do not have a strong intimate bond in your marriage, this might explain the empty feeling. Have you talked with him and told him how you feel? If he discounts your feelings or dismisses them, you don't have a real partner in your husband. Depending upon your stage of life, you may also be going through a new period of awareness or interest in the world that is different from his and may not be able to expect him to keep pace. Try reading and learning new things about life and work on expanding your self-awareness. Unless you can fulfill yourself, you will feel empty. If you are feeling empty, someone else cannot fill you up. If you are alive, and vital, you will attract vitality to you. Going through motions to get his interest is very different than being interesting TO him.

Answer 2

It looks like the void is the lack of support you are experiencing.
Have you addressed this with your husband? You seem to define yourself by it. But here's the thing. You seem to try hard. Don't be defined by someone who doesn't give you the time of day. It's not fair to you, or the people around you that truly love you.
Have the hard talk, and if that doesn't work, you may have to walk. You are what you do... I promise you life is full of surprises and has a lot to offer. You have been looking for validation in this man. But look at the statistics - there are about 3 billion guys out there. We are here. Find someone who deserves the well of love you have to offer!

Answer 3

Get counseling....

You BOTH need it in terms of what is making you feel "empty" and in his case, why his interest has weaned off. A good counselor will give you both exercises to try out and see if that can help improve your relationship.

If nothing CAN be done and the marriage has to end, then you gotta get out there to make yourself happy. Take vacations, volunteer, put yourself out there "on the market" and perhaps you will find a guy that will appreciate you and not take you for granted.

I wish you luck

Answer 4

i've got on no account been that lonely. She could have a minimum of made up a solid excuse like 'I tripped and fell on it, mutually as i replaced into bare and popping out of the bathe' A pine cone?! What the hell?!

Answer 5

Have you thought about couples counseling? Have you spoken with your husband directly to tell him how you're feeling? How long have you been married? Has he told you why he has lost interest?

Answer 6

Regardless of your age, loneliness can eventually make you a very sick person. What to do. You do not want to leave your husband? [security] Well my dear woman, have an affair. really, go out and have an affair. Don't tell me you cant, you can. and guess what?? It feels good. real good

Answer 7

Yeah, get over yourself. The world doesn't revolve around you. No one is responsible for making you happy but yourself. You have to look inside yourself to find out what it is that makes YOU happy and cultivate it. The only problem with you is that you're lazy.

Answer 8

Its your husband, you need to take a break and see if things get better when the both of you are seperated. Maybe that time seperated you can help you both.

Answer 9

Has he told you this? If yes dump his but you don't need that! If no then you need to talk to him. Maybe your body is telling you should start a family!

Answer 10

If you have tried everything there is under the sun but he is still dead, then move on.;