My bf and i have been together for 4 years we have a 2 year old daughter and a baby on the way due in July, and about 2 months ago i caught him looking at a penthouse magazine i never even knew he had, we argued he got rid of it, then this month ( may ) i get a phone bill with 1-900 numbers made i know it was him, plus he admited it to me but said he doesnt know why he called them!
my question is.... is there something wrong with me? i feel he may not be interested anymore even though he says that he is! and that he still loves me
do all guys do this, is it okay? should i be okay with it, or is my feeling of not being wanted by him anymore true... thanks for ur help!!
2007-05-18 14:12:36 · 16 answers · asked by oklahomacutie23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No it's not okay. Discuss it with him that you'd like for him to not do this. Nothing wrong with you honey it's HIM. Why do we always look at ourselves first have we as women lost that much of ourselves?
Personally, Penthouse is better taste than Hustler, you should be thankful at least for that.
Remember ladies.....men are visual beings.
2007-05-18 14:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by mia k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with you! The porn thing is normal for males 15 to late 20's. Medically speaking men 15-2(x) are usually very horney (it's true). Have you ever seen that Dr. Sue johanson? You're not okay with this because if you were you wouldn't be here. I think you should cut him off with this because the younger he is the more susceptible he is to this becoming an addiction. Maybe he seems like he's not interested because he's nervous about something (being a father or possibly hurting the baby during sex, which can't happen). Email me if you like and we could talk more.
2007-05-18 16:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Concept Styles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 whole months....WOW Must be new alright. Anything wrong with waiting till you are really sure of that kind of commitment.? Enjoy other things in life and set yourself up for the real mcCoy when it truely comes. If you really want to know if this guy cares, send him a picture of a so so looking pregent girl and see his response. Or better yet find a shot of a 13-14 year old and find out if he is a perve. Test those waters careful and don't give incriminating pictures, home address or phone number. Never ever ever. If you do decide to meet him, make sure you start off in a puplic place. Have fun an be careful.
2016-05-17 06:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its evry enticing to give it a try...whether its magazines, photos you trade, phone sex, cyber, whatever. It is very hard to resist once you have thought about it. It most likely has nothing to do with you or the way he feels about you. He will be embarassed that you have caught him. Give a little rope but if he continues...wel you know what I mean. I love to do those things but you cant do it all the time.
2007-05-21 07:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. ACTUALLY HE IS THE WRONG PERSON HERE. MAGAZINES ARE ONE THING. BUT MAKING 1-900 CALLS ARE NOT GOOD.
THIS IS NOT A NORMAL ACTION FROM A MAN. HE COULD HAVE AN ADDICTION. WAIT WAIT, DONT LAUGH, PEOPLE CAN HAVE SEX ADDICTION. THERE IS HELP AND HE COULD GET IT AS SOON AS HE IS READY.
I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD.
"IN LIFE THERE ARE TIMES WHEN YOU CANNT SEE THE LIGHT ... BUT ONLY DOES THAT LOVES YOU WILL SHOW YOU THE RIGHT PATH...."
2007-05-18 15:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is his way of spicing his self up, instead of cheating on you.... I mean I dont think there is anything wrong with a man looking at other woman, wether ti be in a magazine or a porn video, they cant touch it, or feel it.... so whats the big deal....
2007-05-18 14:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this kind of stuff is just in a guys nature. I dont have a problem with porn but I consider phone sex lines cheating.
2007-05-18 14:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by chimebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fine. He's a sex addict. He needs help. The thing about porn is this. It's not a problem if everyone thinks it is okay. If someone in the relationship has a problem with porn then it is a problem. If he is dedicated to you and loves you he will give it up. Be very careful....he is going to lie about looking at porn, and you are going to catch him in his lies. He won't change until he has a good reason to change.
2007-05-18 14:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Certainly most guys like to look and it has not reflection on you.
It can get to the point where there is a little addiction and then you should suggest he get some professional help.
2007-05-18 14:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by 4Eyesct 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are fine...it is a problem with him. Porno-fixation is a weak form of demon possession that younger guys are particularly susceptible to. There really isn't anything you can do about it he will have to work it out for himself and hopefully he will be redeemed before it becomes to destructive.
2007-05-18 14:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Perry L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋