he looks good and I could easy love him If I chose to. I am afraid he could go back to using and maybe even jail. When he is straight he is so nice ,kind, and considerate. He is the father of my only children. Should I give it a swirl.
2007-05-18 13:27:36 · 7 answers · asked by marym 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the most important thing is if he is really clean...how did he do it?? does he attend meetings to help him stay clean. has he changed the people and places you knew to be associated with that old life? all it takes is a 3 month stint for an ex abuser to look good. dont get caught up in the fantasy of happily ever after with your childs father. hang out for a while and get to know him again cause he's basically a stranger..also, follow your gut, if hes anything like other ex drug abusers you got a feel for when he was telling the truth. you have to consider that not only will you be hurt if you jump to fast- your child will too.
2007-05-18 13:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by kimm24seven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it 6 months. I had an ex come back and say that he had turned around. I told myself I would wait 6 months before I tried anything. After a month and a half, I was scared he'd find someone else. Guess what? I got my heart broke once more and found that he was the same old piece of ****. Now, if I would have waited longer, I would have seen this. So what if I would have waited and he had found someone else? Oh well, if he was more into the other than me, so be it.
If you want to "give it a swirl" go for it... but WAIT so he can prove he's a different person.
2007-05-18 20:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Thinking 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long has he been clean and sober? If it's been over 5 years consider it. Get to know him again for about a year, and then make a decision. A year should give him time to slip up if he's not sober.
2007-05-18 22:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been clean and sober for over 2 years..Then by all means start dating him..After 22 years it will be like starting over..Get to know each other again..
Then if that loving feeling comes back and it leads to marriage..
Good luck!!
2007-05-18 21:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been clean and sober for a long time....say 5 yrs, I think it would be safe to give it a whirl. If he has been clean and sober for less than a year, NO WAY!
He could end up a user and a dirty dog. Run for the hills.
2007-05-18 20:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you should give it a whirl , after 22 years he must of changed somehow , i would take it slow though just incase you see things that you saw 22 years ago . good luck
2007-05-18 21:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by dawn p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably start small
go out to lunch and just talk
it's a good start
if things get rolling there may be a chance. don't go too fast tho girl!
stay safe tho and if he acts up just forget about him, you're obviously better without him.
2007-05-18 20:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Abaay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋