I am deeply in love with my minister. I have been staying at his home. We are not married. No one knows this and I have been feeling tired of sneaking around. He is not married. I have been dating a few other guys. He will not marry me - he said so but I love him so much. What can I do?
2007-05-18 13:26:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i turned 19 in march
2007-05-18 13:32:36 · update #1
uh yes wow that is personal yes we are together, we have sex
2007-05-18 13:36:34 · update #2
well thank you I didn't want to hear it but i must..he doesn't even care if I datei just feel so used no I don't mind the holy that is one of the reasons I wanted to get married because I feel he is being fake and I am being fake but he doesn't mind it at all..he says our celibacy only matters right before we marry and after we marry we must be holy then..but i just feel bad I guess because he was my first...thank you all
2007-05-18 13:50:27 · update #3
Leave. He should also be ashamed for taking advantage of you and calling himself a minister. He should be reported to his church. He is sneaking around because he is ashamed of your relationship and hopes he will not be found out.
2007-05-18 13:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there;first thing is i want you to know that i don't intend to hurt your feelings,but i am ordered by God to tell you the truth(understand)?you do not have any business lliving with a man of God,the Bible says :touch not my anointed and do my Prophet no harm.now you may say that your not doing him any harm,but lisren all of this could destroy him in the ministry,and as a minister.I don't know what kind of a minister would even allow such a thing if he was truly even right with God himself.if the two of you are cohabiting then you are both living in sin called (fornication)this is not acceptable in God's eyes at all.if your really inerested in the truth then stop all of this now and ask God to forgive you both,and seek Gods will ,and never again bring such a reproach againt the church or the living God.choose what is right and God says himself that he would bless you and work out all things pertaining to your life(thank God for your honesty) i honor you for this ya hear?now do the right thing.and rember God can not honor this behavior and he won't.when you choose to do the right thing then if it is even God will for you two to be together God himself will open the door,but God will not put his approval on sin.he will punish sin if it's not repented of.what that means is to not only to ask God for forgiveness but to turn around and do just the oposit of what you are doing....bye now tke heed.
2007-05-18 20:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dang he is a minister and he preach the word and doesn't the word tell you sex after marriage you should have waited until he ask he ask you to marry him but no need to cry over spppilled milk but anyways you should leave him like right away and besides he sounds like he just isn't right for you don't be mad that I said this but this is how I feel besides its like he is ashamed of you and if he is not he would ask for your hand in marriage man is God going to get him for this
2007-05-18 20:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to get out of there i know you might love him but he is a minister and had no intentions of getting married to anyone , if you are dating other men , then i would keep doing that and leave all the doors open for a new relationship.
2007-05-18 20:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by dawn p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your age or if there's an age difference - or why he says he won't marry you.. those things could make a difference in answers here. Also why are you sneaking around?
I would walk away. If it's meant to be, he'll come after you and do what it takes to keep you.
2007-05-18 20:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave..If he's a minister and he's having sex with you..Then he is lying to everyone in his church and his life..
If he will do that..He will never be honest with you about anything..He's not marrying material..
Move on..
You to young to be with a person like this..And on top of that..He in no way loves you..
The bible does indeed say touch not my anointed..But if he's having sex with her..she's not doing it alone..He's not anointed by God!!
2007-05-18 21:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave, if he's not in it for the long haul why are you wasting your time, and I dont see why everyone else is being so mean, I would date other people too if it not serious. Are you guys having sex?
2007-05-18 20:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all how old what type of christianity and have you been intimate if all those are bad than i say leave him cause hes a minister he feels compeled to stay "clean" in gods eyes also maybe if youve been intimate then he justs wants you for your body
2007-05-18 20:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by HeadShrink 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is sneaking around hoping something better comes along in the congregation.
Date some other men and get rid of that dirty dog.
2007-05-18 20:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God sees and knows all.You should leave and let him get his life right with the Lord again.See you just thought no one knew what you and him have been doing but God knows.He needs to repent his sins and he probably wont do that as long as he is living in sin.
2007-05-18 20:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋