2007-05-18 12:01:47 · 15 answers · asked by Lobster 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
if someone is mean to you but u ignore them and remain nice to them is it tormenting them more
2007-05-18 12:12:15 · update #1
how would you describe a bully insecure
2007-05-18 12:20:16 · update #2
It may not be either one. You haven't given us enough information about what the relationship's dynamics are on a 'normal' day. For instance, if the 'abuser' is the type who needs to get reactions from people, ignoring them is probably the cruellest thing you could do to them. (deserved or not)
I don't think 'weak or mature' are the only options, here.And we don't know enough yet to decide.
But that doesn't stop us from preaching! LOL
2007-05-18 12:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Chuck S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are being mature by ignoring them. Of course if this verbal abuse continues to escalate then you may need to tell someone to protect yourself from the abuse. Usually when you ignore these people they will get bored and move on to someone else that they can get to. Trying to argue or make sense to people like this is a waste of time because they are too ignorant to get it. I say carry on as you have been doing but don't let it get out of hand.
2007-05-18 12:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An abusive person will not be changed by any response you make. If you respond in a confrontational manner, it may only escalate the situation and accomplish nothing. However, one should remove themselves from an abusive person as much as possible to avoid further damage.
2007-05-18 12:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sylvia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had more information from you as the answer may vary. If this is a family member, please seek out someone you can confide in to talk to and make a plan of how to deal with this situation. If this person is an acquaintance, fellow student or a co-worker, please realize it is their energy and does not have anything to do with you. Ignore them and think to yourself happy thoughts. If this person is a boss, get another job. I hope this helps.
2007-05-18 12:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-10 07:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is dependent on the circumstance. Abuse of any kind is wrong and should not be fed. If it is a stranger forget about it. They are either ignorant or stupid. If it someone you care for either get them help or get out of the situation.
2007-05-18 12:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mature ,most of the time, unless the person being abused is afraid of the abuser.Then they are being weak if they ignore it.
2007-05-18 12:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. i get a kick out of people's reaction when I ignore their tirade. Their is no way to argue with someone who is drunk or just plain irrational and cussing at you. I don't think it is a sign of weakness at all. I think it makes you a stronger person by ignoring a tantrum.
2007-05-18 12:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by geewhizbaby2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it depends on whether the person is actually insane and acting out. If so saying anything to them would only escalate the situation, so the best decision is to walk away.
But, if the person is just being mean, then be mean back.
In life we teach people how to treat us, and if you let someone treat you badly they will do it over and over and over again.
Always stand up for yourself and your family and friends.
2007-05-18 12:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Soundjata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation.
"There is a time to be silent, and a time to speak."
It may be the kind of situation that is best dealt with when one has some life experience that will equip you to deal with it wisely.
Then again, silence is not always golden; sometimes it is just a curious shade of yellow.
2007-05-18 12:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋