2007-05-18 11:40:48 · 24 answers · asked by Cynthia P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A man who steps into a relationship role with a woman who has kids has to be a very special man. It's not an audition for future Daddy -- the kids have a father, what he is potentially taking on is the role of mentor, friend, and role model. Those are big shoes to fill.
My husband had no kids when I met him and I had two -- I was up front with him - package deal. Love me love my kids.
We have been together for 9 years and have two children together for a total of 4 and he is the best damn step-father there is. There is no differentiation between 'mine' and 'ours' -- all the children get loved and supported the same way.
So will they date a woman with kids - some will - it's up to the woman to find the man who is special enough to be in her childrens lives. Very few measure up to that expectation.
2007-05-18 12:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men do and some men don't but you don't want a man that won't accept your children anyway. Guys these days are not so caught up in staying away from women with children like they use to be. If he is a good man (whoever you find in the future) then he will want your children as well as you. If he does not then he is not a good man and surely not the one for you anyway. Let any man know up front that you and your children are a package deal. I have 9 children, last one is 1 year old and I have a good looking man with a good job begging me to marry him now. I also am going through a divorce. So honey if my 9 children aren't stopping anything then surely your 3 won't hurt any chance of a good relationship.
2016-05-17 04:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of men? A single, never married guy with good job stability (very eligible) would think twice and three times. A bum only looking for free rides don't care but we know how it would end. A divorced father with his own kids might but it is a serious challenge to integrate 2 families. A guy in his late 40s and 50s may not mind but frankly, hesitate because of the distractions and potential dramas with the kids and the ex, and the enormous expenses.
2007-05-18 11:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No darling, I don't think so,... if you have 3 kids and you want to have a date, men does not have a problem dating a woman with kids period. If other say so, they're joking cause its not the issue when it comes on dating...
Always remember this, it's you that man will have a date, not your kids,is it??
2007-05-18 12:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the man, for most single younger men it would be and even some single older men might have reservations about it. Divorced men who have a child probably would except a women with children without question. Single never been married men probably would have a harder time adjusting to becoming an instant parent.
2007-05-18 12:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister found a man who wanted her even though she had 4 kids, they now have 5 total. Great marriage, great guy and the kids adore him, even the teenager. The ex's also like him, so I think its just a matter of bing patient and looking for the right one to come along. She didnt have any problems finding other guys who wanted to date her before she found him. I also have 4 kids, and one of mine is Downs Syndrome, yet, I have had no problems finding a man and hes a good guy too. We both found our men in the Southwest, her in Colorado, mine in AZ, maybe men out in the West are just braver or crazier than most other places.
2007-05-18 16:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the woman has 3 kids I am assuming she would be dating a guy that has possibly been married and had kids - soooo that would tell me that the woman might also turn that around and possibly have an issue dating a guy with kids...
If the other had issues would we really want them around our kids anyways? Not only that but would they REALLY fit into our lifestyle?
2007-05-18 17:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly Cynthia alot of men may walk the other way.. But there are still Good men out there.. My concern how do you trust a Man around your kids ,you must have them checked out {talking criminal background checks} and possible Private Investigators for the protection of your family... we all know that alot of pedophiles pray on mothers and their kids... Be careful....
2007-05-18 11:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for it is a compatibility issue with the kids (if the kids hate him, that makes things miserable) and he knows that he will always take a back seat to the needs of the kids.
2007-05-18 12:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive got 2 brothers, chris married a girl with 2 kids and now they have 5, my brother josh has been dating a girl for 9 months now and she has 3 kids and sounds like it is getting pretty serous.
so yes they are out there, a man like my brother josh is hard to find i am sure, no drugs ,attnds church,works continuously, and loves kids. now this doesnt mean he isnt fun !
keep looking you will find someone that loves both you and the kids, right when you least expect it to .
2007-05-18 12:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋