Could you love someone who isn't physically attractive?

Question

Could you love or start relationship with someone who isn't cute?

I mean someone not society consider physically attractive but physically not attractive to you

Answer 1

Yes!

Answer 2

No. Physical attraction is a matter of personal opinion. If you're not attracted to a person physically AND emotionally the relationship probably wouldn't work out. It doesn't necessarily mean you're a shallow person.

We all take physical appearance into account when deciding if we want to get to know a person better (whether it's a conscious decision or not). Things like personal style and hygiene play a huge part. You're not likely to pick a total slob out of the crowd, with a tomato sauce stained wife beater and food particles all over their face, who you think is completely unattractive and say "Oh yeah...that person's my future husband!"

I tend to prefer the whole package myself...someone with a great personality and someone physically attractive (by my standards) who takes care of themselves physically. Being able (and motivated) to take care of yourself physically is just something I find attractive in a person.

Even if a person isn't attractive to you I'm sure that person is attractive to someone else. There's someone out there for everyone!

(Read ramsey's comment below...my point exactly! Preach on sista!)

Answer 3

I 'm going to answer this question honestly, partly because of so many of the " It's on the inside that counts" answers I read. That is ********. I'm sorry, but we live in a society where we want the perfect lie, so to speak. I am not trying to come off arrogant or superficial, but we all want someone we desire. Someone who is appealing. To be blunt, it's also VERY hard to have sex with a person whom I would not be sexually attracted to. In order to be in a relationship I need someone I can connect to emotionally, who I can carry on a conversation with, debate playfully with, and have wonderful sex with. That may be just me, but I highly doubt it.
Now, on the other hand, I have slept with some gorgeous men and women, and have felt nothing during sex with them, because I couldn't connect mentally. I need both, looks and intellect. I would rather sleep with an average looking person whom I can connect to on a mental level, than a Calvin Klein model. Once, when I was 15 I had sex with my best friend, and I was not attracted to him AT ALL. But since I had known him for so long, and we were compatible in every other since, I tried it.It was the most awkward, unsatisfying sex I have ever had, to this day. I Because, as human being, we crave great sex, and if you're not attracted to someone, how can you have a sex life? And how can you have a good relationship with a failing sex life? It's a balancing act. Know what I mean?

Answer 4

Yes. If I find someone attractive, there is an instant lust factor and maybe even infatuation, but no matter how strong that lust is, it isn't love. I don't believe in love at first sight or anything along those lines - I think you have to get to know someone in order to fall in love with them. That considered, once I got to know someone who I didn't initially find physically attractive, if I started to become emotionally or mentally attracted to them, physical attraction would naturally follow. Meanwhile, the person I wanted to get into bed at first sight isn't necessarily going to be someone I end up falling in love with.

Answer 5

I know this is a tasteless answer but for me no way. I need a hot guy who has a nice face and body. I'm just not satisfied with ugly people. Personality is also a big factor even bigger then physical attraction and that's what will matter most in the long run

Answer 6

My experience is that becoming involved with a guy is a package deal. He takes all I am, and I take what he is. Since the physical is usually the first thing I see, that's usually the starting point. Usually everything else comes from there. Ultimately I have to ask if I want to see and be involved with this person. If the answer is no, why even start?

Answer 7

I don't think thats possible. Mainly because I don't think anyone is ugly - we're all beautiful in so many different ways _ whats considered beautiful in society is only beautiful because we've all grown to the idea that beauty is this and that and this. But when you start to like someone - i think you like their personality, they good intentions and all those good qualities that you like about them translates into things that you might find beautiful about them. So for example you might find their smile cute but no one else will - so basically when you like someone or love someone (who isn't considered beautiful in society) you see all the beautful things about their face even if no one thinks so. I guess thats what stupid love is all about - would be great if i believed in true love though haha. enjoy life mate!

Answer 8

Sure.
I've found many people weren't physically attractive but very loving and compassionate and others that were very attractive but with all the depth of a puddle.
True Beauty comes from the inside.

Answer 9

Of course. Love isn't about physical attraction. It's better to have someone who will be there for you and for you a 110% then to have someone who looks good. Honestly, conceeded people **** me off and I prefer the people who act sincere -- thats what attractive is for me.

Answer 10

Real love is a heart to heart communication. While that is true
it would be a good idea to be able to deal with how your life's partner looks since you will be facing them for many years.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. By man's standards, we could say that some attractive people of both genders have married some not so attractive members of the opposite sex.
We come in all shapes and sizes, and what is beautiful to one
person may be a problem for another. It is a personal thing.

I AM SAD AT THE THUMBS DOWN ON THIS ONE. WHAT COULD BE WRONG WITH A HEART TO HEART RELATIONSHIP? SOME PEOPLE WILL KNOCK ANYTHING. PERHAPS THEY REJECT LOVE IN THEIR OWN LIFE AND ARE JUST PLAYING GAMES WITH WORDS.

Answer 11

If you limit yourself to only loving people who are pretty, kiddo, you're going to have a lonely life.

When you get to know someone, you become attracted to the person inside. You love them for who they are, not what they look like. They become beautiful to you. Someone so shallow as to only care about the outside of a person is not the kind of person I'd want to spend five minutes with.