13 month old son and 6 weeks pregnant?

Question

We just found out that we are pregnant with number 2. Our son is 13 months old and is a pure delight. He just makes our day. We planned on having more kids and was all set til I got pregnant. I am so happy to be pregnant but I find myself worrying if I will have time for both, do you find enough love for both and will it hurt my first child to have a sibling so close to his age. If you have any advice or suggestions please share.

Answer 1

judging by the way you worded your question, I have no doubt you guys are awesome parents! You would be suprised at how well you will be abled to handle both children. I am pregnant with my second child, a girl, and I have a two year old son. He is so excited about the baby and he even hugs my tummy and says"hi baby". As long as your child is involved and you make him feel like a big brother he'll be happy and excited.

Answer 2

My twins were 13 months old when we discovered I was pregnant again. I too worry about how they will handle a new sibling. They work well together, but I guess that's because they've always had each other. I do find it hard, especially if one is sick and the other not, to pay equal attention. I usually send the healthy one to the sitter so she can have plenty of attention while I tend the sick one. I have told the girls Mommy has a baby in her belly, and they kiss my belly and pat it. I bought them dolls (not sure how your hubby would feel about that one for a boy though) and they "feed" their babies and carry them around. They are now 18 months old and I still feel the beginning will be a challenge. One day at a time I guess. Best of luck.

Answer 3

I have four children- ages 4, 3, 2, and the youngest just turned 1 in April. The longest I spent not pregnant between any of them was 6 months. It is a blessing and can be very frustrating or a lot to handle, but they love being around each other. The first two are both boys and they are best friends, but the oldest still loves being with the youngest baby and my only daughter (the third baby). It is a blessing and you will be fine!!!!
Congratulations to you!!!!!

Answer 4

Okay first off, your children are apart of you and your spouse! They no matter what will have your love...finding time for one child can be hard And I'm not going to lie having a second will be interesting but the funny thing about life is that these things happen only when a person is ready...even if they don't know it at the time. And having a child around the same age as your first born will be nice they will be able to relate to one another when they get older. I think you and your spouse will do a wonderful job and that your little one now will be excited for their new sibling! Ohh and congratulations!!!

Answer 5

My children are 16 months apart and I wouldn't go back and change a thing. I was blessed with a son and then a daughter. While the first few years were tough and, at time, hair-pulling, it was also a lot of fun. They have had their bouts of sibling rivalry, but they get along really well for the most part. They are friends.
It is hard to make time for both, but the oldest had a later bedtime and didn't nap as much as the youngest. This made it a little easier to make time for both of them. You will bond with the baby as you feed them.
The love that is in your heart for your first child will double to make room for the 2nd.
The first child won't be hurt as long as you make them a part of the joy.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Mine are a 12 1/2 months apart. The first 6 months was tough with sleeping. Make sure you start getting your oldest sleeping thru the night and out of the crib a few months before the new baby comes. Even if you dont plan on using the crib for the newborn right away. You dont want to be dealing with this transition when the newborn isnt sleeping thru the night.

Now we're loving it. They're almost 2 and almost 3, and good playmates. At this age its almost easier dealing with 2 kids because they keep eachother entertained. Although we never go to the mall.

I also highly recommend a carrier, like a bjorn. It helps keep you active with the older kid (at the park for instance). Also a double stroller, for walks to the park, and other events.

Answer 7

This was sooo me. I found out I was pregnant with my second when my son was 15 months old. Except, at the time I was also going through a divorce!! I knew that I was going to be raising this second child on my own. (Fortunatly the Lord sent my current husband when my second was 5 months old)! Anyway, the day I went into labor I cried soo hard. I found myself thinking that I was cheating my son. He was only 21 months old and the joy of my life! How was I ever going to handle this? But I did. My daughter was born and I found I could love her just as much and in so many different ways.I loved her as much but in a different way for different reasons. And my son fell into the big brother mode very well. There were times of jealousy, but we worked through them. They ended up playing well together and keeping eachother company. It was actually easier in some of ways to have two. When your new baby is well, new, involve your son by letting him burp the baby, hold the bottle or hand you a diaper. If you breast feed, read a book to your son as your baby is feeding. It all works out, trust me. Now I have four children with the love of my life. I thank God every day!!

Answer 8

I swear that all parents must go through this. When I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter, I felt the same even though people say you will have enough love. It's scary not to know for sure. The second she was born all that worry disappeared. Don't feel guilty for having them so close because they will have each other for company and God willing friendship. My girls are 5 years apart and though they usually like each other, they don't have too much that they can do together or that the older one will want to do with the younger one.

Answer 9

A friend, who is a grandmother, was just telling me last night that every mother wonders if she has enough love, time and patience for the second child. You will. Don't worry.

My brother and I are 14 months apart (he's younger). I couldn't imagine my life without him - even though we fought horribly as children sometimes. We're both extremely busy people so we don't hang out regularly, but we talk at least once a week and work together on family events. I went to his soccer games for years and he attends every show I've been in.

My brother is now preparing to ask his girlfriend to marry him and I couldn't be more excited for him. He's found a wonderful woman who I can't wait to welcome into the family.

You'll be fine. Promise!

Answer 10

My two oldest who are both boys are 15 months apart. It was really hard at first, but they're best friends now- so I wouldn't do anything differently. I have 4 kids and none are more than 2 and a half years apart. It's a handful for sure- but we're such a close knit family because of it, I think.